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1. Sex the Way You Want It

The Come As You Are culture believes you should have the kind of sex you want, not settle for the kind you (ought to) have.

Being sex positive at Come As You Are means considering sexuality to be a site of tremendous health, pleasure and strength in our lives. We also realize that many of us have experienced physical, emotional, and psychic pain around sexuality. We are great cheerleaders of the positive potential of sex, but proceed with respect and awareness that sometimes sex can feel too painful to talk about.

Whether you want to have lots of sex or no sex at all, our approach goes beyond being non-judgmental; we positively and actively affirm diverse sexual choices, and support the radical act of asking "what do I want sexually?"

We take an activist approach to mainstream ideas about sexuality, by providing perspectives that differ from mainstream contexts and by modeling respectful, non-judgmental, mature approaches. We welcome everyone to participate in a friendlier and more open way of thinking about and experiencing sexuality.