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fall 2009, no 46
Let's Talk About Sex!
It's an irony not lost on us here at Come As You Are that almost all sex education resources are geared to people under 18. Not that teens don't have a right to information and resources that help them understand the benefits and risks of whatever kind of sex they're having. They do. But the truth is that for most of us our sex lives get more complicated and more interesting as we age. People of all ages need and deserve sex education.
Good sex education is about more than just how not to get pregnant or how not to get a disease. Good sex education opens up possibilities. It reminds us that sexuality can be a powerful form of personal expression, discovery, and communication. It can also feel amazing.
One of the most unique ways we contribute to this kind of education is through our educational workshop series. Over the past twelve years we've hosted over 100 workshops, seminars, movie nights, and panel discussions on every aspect of sex. From Tantra to porn, from female ejaculation to infidelity, it's been our pleasure and great learning experience to bring folks from across the country and around the world into our store for our monthly workshop series.
The workshop is a curious and unique experience. It's an opportunity to be in a public space talking about something that can be deeply private. This contrast of public and private creates in most of our customers a kind of friction that results in a lot of learning. Coming into our store, or even calling on the phone requires some risk taking, and we never forget that it's our honor to be trusted by our customers in this way.
Every day in our store and on the phone with our mail order customers we have people tell us about how scared they were to call or come in, and how surprised they are at how comfortable and fun the interaction ended up being. These comments are what keep us going through the less glamorous parts of running a sex store co-operative. Because while we do all tire of having to mop the floor one more time, or having to call our web host for the fourth time today to tell them our site is down, none of us ever tire of talking about sex.
News
Recharge Your Sex Life Contest
We've been thrilled to see a surge in sales of our high quality rechargeable vibrators. They're better for the environment (no more throwing out batteries), long lasting, and come in so many beautiful designs. We want to share the love, so this month we're giving away one of our top rechargeable vibrators. To enter you need to email us and give us your top tip on how to recharge your sex life. It could be something you've done or something you want to do. Include your name, shipping address, and phone number and email contests@comeasyouare.com before May 15th.
Intensive Weekend with Midori
Experience a unique, in-depth program on how to bring the joys of sensual power play to your relationship with this women's weekend retreat. This small group weekend offers personalized classes, discussions and demonstrations plus one-on-one attention and guidance in how to develop your negotiation skills, enhance scene setting, choose special equipment, and learn play techniques including whipping, various bondage types and more. Midori also covers emotional and psychological issues of loving SM in a healthy relationship. Cost: $475/per person. .
Orgasm Inc.
We're thrilled to be sponsoring a fascinating documentary on the creeping medicalization of female sexuality, Orgasm Inc. at the 2009 Hot Docs Documentary Film Festival. The first seven people to email contests@comeasyouare.com with the subject line "Hot Docs Contest" will receive a free pair of tickets to the premiere screening at the Bloor Cinema, May 2 and 1pm. And the first 500 people in line at the movie will get a free gift from Come As You Are.
Guelph Sexuality Conference
This is our second year sponsoring the Annual Guelph Sexuality Conference, the largest conference for sex educators and therapists in Canada. It's their 31st year and the theme is "positive approaches to sexuality and sexual health". Our own Cory Silverberg is giving a keynote on positive implications of sex and technology (it's not all cyber stalking and internet porn addiction!). June 15-17, 2009. more info.
Toys
Canadian-made and cost-effective, the Dragon Silk Blindfold from LeatherBeaten may be economical but it is also exceptionally luxurious in both look and feel. Available in red or black, these embroidered-style fabric blindfolds are held comfortably in place with a durable elastic strap.
moreThe classic One-Touch Vibe is back, boasting shiny new colours and five different speeds and modes. The Five-Speed One-Touch Vibe is a cheap and easy way to upgrade any ring, dildo or harness that came with a classic one-speed One-Touch vibe. Waterproof & wireless. more
At long last, a non-latex condom that’s affordable and provides protection equal to latex. Let us introduce you to LifeStyles SKYN, condoms made of stretchy polyisoprene to provide a more comfortable and custom fit than traditional polyurethane non-latex condoms at half the cost. Pre-order now! more
Experience sex furniture that makes sex more fun and looks great doing it! The Love Bumper Love Lounge is a complete sex furniture system all-in-one. Open up your sex life to a whole new range of position possibilities with the ergonomically designed Love Lounge. Cover is removable, washable and waterproof.
moreWhen we first opened the store ten years ago most of our customers bought long and thin silicone dildos. We don't know if we've just got a whole different group of customers, or if our regulars have all become size queens, but where he used to just sit there, Randy is now flying off our shelves (no small feat when you consider his size and weight!) A little cartoon-like in appearance, Randy won't leave you wanting for anything. Randy is now made of super-realistic Vixskin silicone. more
DVDs
The cast of Crash Pad is back in Champion, the story of a girl boxer struggling with her training schedule and her off-the-charts busy social life. More storyline and dialogue than we are used to from this crew, but it is pulled off excellently, with no sex scenes spared. Some rougher sex in this one, but the chemistry and passion is searing. Once again Dylan Rion steals the show in a secret rendezvous with gorgeous transguy Javier.
moreEnergetic, athletic sex between studly (and stubbly) hunks is the order of the day in Desperate Househusbands 2. When the men get caught cheating on their wives - with each other - and thrown out of their houses, they find much more time to indulge in what they really want. With an outstandingly attractive cast and a great mix of group sex as well as one on one, the husbands aim to please.
moreGive him a little extra attention and learn the erotic art of penis massage. Featuring segments from the best of the best films on the topic, experts explain and demonstrate techniques that will surely heighten and enhance the sensuality and intimacy in your relationship. No focus on specific sexual orientations.
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One thing that bisexual movies always seem to lack is quality of filming and the calibre of actors (in terms of looks, that is). Bisexual Dreamer from Private definitely excels in both of those categories! Jam-packed with over two and a half hours of well-shot sex, the viewer is treated to scene after scene of hardcore threesomes that are mostly guy/guy/girl. Genuine enjoyment and satisfaction between actors is prevalent. Some storyline that tells the tale of a fashion designer that is losing his edge--but finds it again when a whole new world of pleasure is opened up to him.
moreIs your copy of Bra Bustin 1 almost worn out? Here's volume 2, with all the same high-quality filming, actors and sets that you've come to expect from the dynamic mom and daughter porn team, Suze & Holly Randall. With tops names like Bree Olsen and Hillary Scott, this movie with a focus on larger breasts and a lot of fellatio is one to add to the collection. more
Books
Bisexual women are often stereotyped as being indecisive, not knowing what they want, or wanting it all...but who doesn’t want it all? There really is something to be said about having your cake and eating it too! In this intelligently penned collection of dirty stories, discover the best of the best of bi-themed tales that include emotionally charged essays, a playful romp about coming out, and stories that range from obscenely funny to wickedly dark and sexy. Best Bisexual Women’s Erotica is a very well put together array of tales, smartly written and tantalizingly captivating. more
Rubber sex is a well-written and clever collection by real enthusiasts who understand the allure of materials that are like a second skin. The reader will find titillating tales of dressing up, sexy nights out on the town and steamy ensembles, while other stories talk in detail about how rubber and latex can transport you to another realm sexually. Whether you are familiar with the intense feeling of rubber against your skin, or are simply an admirer, this fantastically fetishized collection of tales will make you weak in the knees.
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This expanded and revised 6th edition of the tongue-in-cheek educational favorite, Guide to Getting It On, features 15 new illustrations, five new chapters, 48 additional pages and 2753 updates. For all your tough to answer questions (and maybe a few you didn’t even know you had), this book promises to keep you entertained with loads of great information and fun facts from necking, to oral sex, to romance. Mostly heterosexual focus. more
Starting 2009 off with a bang comes the boldest edition of the Best Women's erotica series. Editor Violet Blue sets the pace of Best Women's Erotica 2009 at hot and heavy with the first story Fly by Valerie Alexander. An updated and seductive version of a classic - think lost boys, pirates and a little lady by the name of Wendy. Continuing onwards to a scandalous story by Janne Lewis about a neurotic, dominant business man who becomes submissive during his sexual escapades with a sex worker. Full of stories from the sweet and tender to the rough and raunchy, this collection has something for every mood. more
Orgasmic and provocative, Best Gay Erotica 2009 will leave you breathless! In Jay Neal's Physical Therapy a patient/doctor relationship takes a sexual turn while in the story Abducting Frodo, a consensual abduction takes place during a long country drive and the best: in Temporary a sexy transgendered woman meets the man of her dreams one late night. These explicit and sultry tales are a great choice for anyone who loves raunchy yet intelligent gay erotica. more
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