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Come As You Are February Newsletter: The Sex Tips

With the exception of Christmas and Groundhog Day, the Valentine’s Day season is by far our busiest time of year in-store and in terms of the sheer number of media requests we get. It seems everyone wants our ‘top ten best-sellers’ or ‘five tips to improve your sex life’ - and don’t get us wrong, we love the attention and we get excited any time anyone is looking to expand their sexual horizons (that’s what we’re in it for!) However, our co-operative structure and approach to sexual health and pleasure doesn’t lend themselves well to sound bites.

As such, these interactions leave everyone frustrated. We don’t get asked the questions we want to answer, and folks in the media don’t get the answers they’re looking for. Sigh.

The reality is that our co-operative is about individuals and not about groups of people. We can’t give catch-all answers about sex toys or sexuality because it is inevitable that those answers won’t apply to a significant proportion of the folks reading the answer.

At our heart, we are people-pleasers. We love customer service. We adore making you happy. We live for your satisfied smile when you leave our store with a shiny new vibrator or replacement charger for your Lelo (on the house, of course!) or because you’re just happy you found a new or interesting idea in our shop.

Ultimately, we so wish we could give easy answers to complicated questions that would satisfy everyone. It would be so easy if there was just one way to introduce a sex toy into your relationship, or just one way to have an orgasm or feel sexually satisfied, or just one way to keep your relationship fresh.

But that would make for a very boring collective sexual experience, wouldn’t it?

Our sex lives are not uncomplicated because we as people are intrinsically complicated. Being turned-on, or sexually interested, or romantically inspired requires more than just a vibrator or a box of chocolates - especially around Valentine’s Day!

Instead, for so many of us, feeling good sexually is about feeling respected, and valued, and yes, sexy - and each of us requires something a little bit different to feel good in our sexual minds and bodies.

If you’re struggling to come up with a way to make a special someone feel especially sexual this Valentine’s, we suggest starting with the special instead of the sexual.

What makes your beloved unique? What is their sexuality about? What turns them on? What makes them feel sexy? What are their fantasies? Do they have a favourite kind of sex toy? A favourite colour? A favourite position? These are all great starting points.

If you don’t know the answers to these questions, that’s even more exciting! This is an amazing moment to explore these questions together, and to make Valentine’s Day truly all about them. May we suggest one of our many themed Sex Decks for inspiration?

Still craving some sex advice? Check out our Valentine’s sex toy suggestions or our perfectly generic Top Ten Tips to Improve Your Sex Life or if you’re looking for some individual attention, come see us in-store, or drop us a line at info@comeasyouare.com