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Sex books that explore sexual ideas, culture, politics and theory.

Fast Feminism
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new item Fast Feminism
Fast Feminism combines the velocity of speed theory and beat poets with a perversion of post-structural thought to create a theory-in-action that takes no prisoners from the old guard of male stream philosophy and sexology. Triumphing the female phallus and tracing it's concealed and broken path throughout medical, philosophical and pornographic history, Shannon Bell reclaims the power of the female body that has been lost in the muck of patriarchal knowledge. Bell's life-long work around the female phallus shows the political and personal importance of embracing and taking pride in the magnificent feats of female ejaculation. This face paced and chaotic living theoretical work is speckled with recounted scenes of racy sexual encounters, fusing sex theory and practice whilst giving it to the dead old white men of the academic past. For gender theory lovers who are tired of the droll of academic work, Fast Feminism's erotic, taboo-breaking and mind-shaking prose will have you on the edge of your seat, or maybe under your sheets. | Learn more about Fast Feminism.

| $16.00

Sovereign Erotics
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A Collection of Two-Spirited Literature
This book is a collection of poems, essays, fiction and non-fiction alike that, not unlike it's authors, cannot fit neatly into any defined box. One of the first to give voice to the highly misunderstood lives of the two-spirited person, this book truly represents the humour, thoughtfulness and complexities of the two-spirites community. With contributors ranging from Western Canada to Eastern Samoa, spanning such topics as friendship, love, sexuality, memory and loss, this queer indigeounous collection is a mile-stone voicing indigenous resilience. |
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| $26.95

25,000 Years of Erotic Freedom
25,000 Years of Erotic Freedom
Today porn is everywhere. But where is it as art? 25,000 Years of Erotic Freedom surveys the history of pornography and argues that the success and vibrancy of a society is intimately linked to its sexual permissiveness. Alan Moore (the creator of Lost Girls, Watchmen and V for Vendetta, to name a few) takes us on a tour of erotic art from prehistory to modern times. Accompanying his thoughtful and engaging essay is a collection of some of the most provocative illustrations ever published. This is an exceptional coffee table book for people with exceptional taste. This item is currently out of stock | Learn more about 25,000 Years of Erotic Freedom.

| $29.50

Best Sex Writing 2008
Best Sex Writing 2008
With so much out there on the market, it's hard to weed out the bad from the good, but unlike most books on sexuality and eroticism, Best Sex Writing 2008 is the real deal. With contributions from authors like Violet Blue, Kink.com, and Tristan Taormino, this provocative collection will give you more than just a good time. It will give you food for thought through sharing different ideologies on the complexities of human behavior and sexuality. | Learn more about Best Sex Writing 2008.

| $19.50

Best Sex Writing 2010
Best Sex Writing 2010
Best Sex Writing falls in line with previous years' editions - throught-provoking, entertaining and educational essays on 25 topics directly relating to sex. This year's topics include first-time swinging experiences, the sexual aspect of the Twilight saga, teen sexting, a straight man obsessed with having sex and relationships with lesbians, and much much more. Always a great read. | Learn more about Best Sex Writing 2010.

| $18.00

Big Sex Little Death
Big Sex Little Death
As much to do with sex as politics, family and business, Susie Bright has come out with a fantastic memoir, Big Sex Little Death. As we've come to expect, Bright's writing and insight is quite the treasure, and her life story is absolutely fascinating. A great read that's hard to put down. | Learn more about Big Sex Little Death.

| $27.95

Dick for a Day
Dick for a Day
Edited by Fiona Giles
"What would you do if you woke up with a penis?" This is the set-up for an anthology that includes underground faves Pat Califia, Poppy Z. Brite, Diane Di Massa, Diane Torr, Kim Addonizio plus star-turns from Germaine Greer, Terri Macmillan, Sydney Biddle Barrows. Few ignore the sexual denotation of having a dick; several writers explore what a male brain plus male parts might entail. 1997. 279 pp. This item is currently out of stock |
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| $28.00

Dirty Words
Dirty Words
Subtitled "A Literary Encyclopedia of Sex", this unique hardcover employs a number of various authors to write a short entry about certain words related to sex. For example, 'blue balls', 'foreplay', and 'mistress' (and many more) are discussed in myrid ways - from personal experiences, to the history of the word, to erotic stories, to poetry. Just one of the coolest books about sex, in general. Some of the most fun, interesting writing we've got! | Learn more about Dirty Words.

| $25.95

Hos, Hookers, Call Girls and Rent Boys
Hos, Hookers, Call Girls and Rent Boys
Hos, Hookers, Call Girls and Rent Boys is a collection of writings from pros in the sex business. All stories are from a first-person point of view, with amazing accounts of adventures from the beautiful and touching to the dark and dangerous. A fascinating and entertaining read. | Learn more about Hos, Hookers, Call Girls and Rent Boys.

| $21.50

How Sex Works
How Sex Works
Ever wonder what makes us attracted to certain people, and not to others? How Sex Works discusses how all of our senses dictate who we fall in love (and lust) with and why, how evoulution has affected sex, and many more topics. The author seamlessly blends scientific fact with sexuality in a way that is easy to follow yet extrememly interesting. Also includes fascinating facts about animals and plants creating their own birth control, and much more! | Learn more about How Sex Works.

| $15.99

Hung
Hung
A Meditation On The Measure Of Black Men In America
By Scott Poulson Bryant
Does size matter? Are all black men hung like a horse? In this book, Scott Poulson Bryant speaks openly and truthfully about the many trials and tribulations surrounding the size of the black man's phallus. Startling, complex, smart and sometimes disturbing, Bryant takes you into society's obsession with the sexual image of the black male. Putting his own size on the line, Bryant shares his tales of sexual encounters with both sexes. Shockingly revealing, Hung is a great read for those of us who are tired of the assumptions and perceptions that have shaped our popular culture. 212pp. |
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| $18.95

Naked Ambition
Naked Ambition
Edited by Carly Milne
Toronto’s own Carly Milne has compiled a fascinating collection of writings by women who are changing pornography as we know it. These are eye opening contributions by the likes of Nina Hartley, Tristan Taormino, Violet Blue, Joanna Angel, Tera Patrick and many, many more. These women profoundly share their wisdom and thoughts on the porn industry and the influence it as had in liberating a new generation of women. These are the women behind the scenes; writers, directors, producers, web mistresses, and businesswomen, and this is a must read book for anyone interested in the changing face of pornography. 352 pp. |
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| $21.50

Pomosexuals
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Pomosexuals
By Carol Queen and Lawrence Schimel
This book shows us a utopian ideology of how society should look at gender and sexuality. Academic essays on a variety of topics, relevant for everyone. Preface by Kate Bornstein. 1997. 180 pp. |
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| $19.50

Real Live Nude Girl
Real Live Nude Girl
By Carol Queen
In Real Live Nude Girl, sex educator and worker Dr. Carol Queen tells riveting tales, some funny, some sad, drawing from her own life experiences. Out of print until recently, this book is an important contribution to sex-positive culture. 215pp This item is currently out of stock |
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| $22.50

Sex at Dawn
Sex at Dawn
From research psychologist Christopher Ryan and psychiatrist Cacilda Jetha, Sex at Dawn is a fun and intense journey through human pre-history to modern times questioning many of our society's assumptions about the nature of human sexuality. With a focus on the history (and pre-history) of monogamy, Sex at Dawn seeks to explain how and why monogamy became our societal norm but thankfully leaves it up to the reader to decide what to do with all of that information. Heterosexual focus. | Learn more about Sex at Dawn.

| $27.99

Sexing the Body
Sexing the Body
In Sexing the Body, Anne Fausto-Sterling applies her varied academic background (she teaches both Biology and Women’s Studies at Brock University) to create an interdisciplinary approach to understanding gender and sexuality. In this compelling work she examines how both biological and social factors may interact and influence each other in the construction of sexuality. Though academically focussed Fausto-Sterling uses fairly accessible language (though rather small print) as she focusses on the complex and individual nature of each person’s body and experience, leading us towards the adoption of a more delineated and fluid view of gender and sexuality. A must-read for those interested in gender politics and breaking away from the normalization of a two-sex system! | Learn more about Sexing the Body.

| $25.50

The Pleasure's All Mine
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The Pleasure's All Mine
The Memoir of a Professional Submissive
By Joan Kelly
A break up with a loved one sparks an exciting adventure in the unlikely candidate Kelly’s life. It begins with a weekend job in a dungeon, and migrates to the newly confident Kelly traveling all over the country as an independent pro submissive. Intertwined with the glorious scenes of Kelly being tied up, whipped and spanked are witty and enthusiastic recounts of her letting go, enjoying herself, and making a living at it! |
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| $20.50

Vagina Monologues
Vagina Monologues
A collection of people from a variety of perspectives, gather to tell stories celebrating female sexuality and the vagina. Compiled from the much lauded stage tour by Eve Ensler, 185 pages | Learn more about Vagina Monologues.

| $16.95

Wild Side Sex
Wild Side Sex
The Book of Kink
By Midori
Midori’s much anticipated new book offers readers encouragement and inspiration for exploring the full spectrum of sex. A collection of musings, wisdoms, and essays on all things wild and wonderful. Delve into such topics as: is your prospect a proper pervert?; sex, romance, and ritual; the heart of erotic humiliation; public sex; lust to bind; and finding your inner power femme. Wise words of wisdom for the sexually adventurous or curious. 233pp. |
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| $23.50

Working Sex
Working Sex
Sex Workers Write About a Changing Industry
Working Sex is a compelling look into the taboo and often sneered upon community of sex workers. Our societies fascination with demonizing pornography, fantasy, and all things "taboo" has put us in an awkward position when it comes to understanding our sexuality. Written by women in the industry willing to bare their souls in such a way that will hopefully help diminish the ignorance surrounding "sex for money", this collection of stories will not only educate, but entertain with witty and often radical views on sex, politics, gender and class. A definite book to add to the collection. |
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| $20.50

Burlesque West
new item Burlesque West
Showgirls, Sex and Sin in Postwar Vancouver
Burlesque West, the book that spurred a national controversy over public funding of academic work on sex history, is the first to take a critical look at western Canada's history of burlesque, peeler bars and the lives of strip-tease workers. Becki L. Ross's extensive research, with first-hand accounts from exotic dancers, club owners and bookers, delves into the exciting world of the entertainment industry that held Vancouver as one of the most notorious and saught-after night-scenes of the burlesque circit era. Ross's recognition of the complexe and mutlifacited lives of exotic-dancers, from work-related issues such as fighting for unionization, to their efforts for entreprenural self-promotion really strips bares superficial stereotypes of the sex club industry. Taking into account the class and racial geographical divide of west versus east Vancouver, Rossi's historical work operates with an anti-racist and cross-sectional framework, looking at the influences of different communities on the exotic entertainment industry that helped fuel the economy of one of Canada's largest city. |
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| $29.95

Cunt
Cunt
By Inga Muscio
Funny, political, and engaging. A modern feminist manifesto that spans generations. For the woman in your life who loves the liberation of the c-word. |
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| $19.50

Sexual State of the Union
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Sexual State of the Union
By Susie Bright
Susie Bright strikes again! This popular commentator of all things sexual (who got her start as a vibrator clerk) is back with her openness, wit, passion and wisdom. The editor of the Best American Erotica series and the Herotica series tackles the crucial sexual issues of our day with exuberant enthusiasm and rare honesty. 1997. 251 pp. This item is currently out of stock |
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| $17.00

Brazen Femme
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new item Brazen Femme
Femmes frustrated with their relational identity to Butches and pissed-off over stereotypes that they are simply to amazing to fit spill their guts on these pages in the form of poetry, comics, prose and essays on the fabulous and tremulous world of Femmes. Professors, sex workers, journalists and the unemployed articulate their relationship to femme(inity) and their re-making of gendered femininity through their hardbreaks, invisibility in queer communities and daily embodied living. Broaching such topics as dealing with ageing, racism and gender, mothering and fat phobia, these Brazen Femmes break through the rigid Butch/Femme barrier with their fierce and bold articulation of their gender(s) | Learn more about Brazen Femme.

| $21.95

Drag King Dreams
Drag King Dreams
By Leslie Feinberg
After the huge blockbuster of Stone Butch Blues, Feinberg’s new novel brings us more thoughts and stories from the edges of gender radicalism that we’ve been waiting for. Feinberg’s character, Max Rabinowitz, is a hardened burnt-out ex-activist who gets drawn back into fighting alongside his co-workers and friends as they struggle to define and defy gender in a violent and prejudiced world. Fast-paced and brilliantly written. 302 pp. |
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| $20.50

From the Inside Out
From the Inside Out
From the Inside Out (edited by Morty Diamond, director of Trans Entities DVD) is a great collection of essays, stories, and poems describing personal challenges, triumphs, and experiences from folks that were born female but don't necessarily identify as such. Many stories speak to the fact that the choice to be of fluid gender (or trans, or transitioning) can be tough, others embrace all of our differences, yet all are very personal and at times touching. A great book to get a glipmse at the way others may choose to express themselves as their own gender - on a much more intimate level than many other books available. | Learn more about From the Inside Out.

| $18.00

My Gender Workbook
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My Gender Workbook
This is a great book for anyone starting to question the role of gender in our society. Written with a twist, the language, exercises and quizzes offer great resources and insights for anyone just beginning to challenge the boxes gender confines us in or a great start for friends and families of gender outlaws who just want to learn more. 292 pages. This item is currently out of stock | Learn more about My Gender Workbook.

| $39.95

Nobody Passes
Nobody Passes
Rejecting the Rules of Gender and Conformity
By Matthew Bernstein Sycamore
A set of cleverly written and thoughtful essays that attempt to tackle the concept of “passing”. Rather, the stories of those living outside and challenging the dichotomy of gender. A must read, for those of us who identify as genderqueer and an important read for those just starting to think about radicalized notions of gender. 353pp. |
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| $20.50

Six Positions
Six Positions
By Andy Quan
Canadian writer Andy Quan’s first collection of gay erotica and sex writings has finally hit CAYA’s shelves. As we all know, it’s a challenge to find really literary sex writing, but Andy Quan has found the perfect balance between pornography and art. His stories, some previously published in collections such as Best Gay Erotica and Quickies, are a mixture of clever, sad, ironic and critical, but they are all sexy and preoccupied with sexuality. Quan subtly approaches social issues, but keeps his touch erotic, exploring what sexuality means to gay men. 202pp. |
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| $19.95

Stone Butch Blues
Stone Butch Blues
By Leslie Feinberg
This classic title from Leslie Feinberg is an essential read and a favourite of queer and trans people alike. As radical as being transgendered is now, Stone Butch Blues chronicles the trials and tribulations of being butch in 1950's America and of being transgendered well before trans activism took hold in the last century. A must read. |
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| $18.50

The Nearest Exit May Be Behind You
The Nearest Exit May Be Behind You
A collection of essays on personal experiences, escapades, and adventures one has with gender and identity (and sexuality), Nearest Exit is an excellent book filled with smart, often humourous and thought-provoking tales. S Bear Bergman's new classic is a fantastic read, and a great addition to the bookshelves of those interested in gender theory. | Learn more about The Nearest Exit May Be Behind You.

| $19.95

To Quote a Queer
To Quote a Queer
A hefty lil book, To Quote a Queer contains a couple thousand quotes from folks who are actors, poets, atheletes, architechts and everyone in between. Arranged alphabetically by topic (media, sports, porn, fashion, determination), we can all glean a little wisdom and have a few laughs along the way. This item is currently out of stock | Learn more about To Quote a Queer.

| $20.95

Transgender History
Transgender History
Written in an informative yet extremely readable format, Transgender History traces back the ups and downs of trans rights and movements over the last half century. Discusses underground scenes, political changes, stand-out figures, health care battles, acceptance in different communities, and much more. A great intro to trans studies for anyone! | Learn more about Transgender History.

| $19.95

True Selves
True Selves
Understanding Transsexualism
By Mildred L. Brown & Chloe Ann Rounsley
Written by sexologist Mildred Brown, and writer Chloe Ann Rounsley, this book is an essential read for the families and friends of transsexuals and professional support staff. With writings from and about transgendered people - male, female, an in-between - True Selves is informative and supportive. An important title. This item is currently out of stock |
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| $20.99

Best Sex Writing 2009
Best Sex Writing 2009
The 2009 edition of Best Sex Writing is out, and it just keeps getting better and better. A collection of (mostly) non-fiction essays on everything to do with sex under the sun, this volume contains stories about father-daughter purity balls and the abstinence movement, how PTSD affects the sex lives of soldiers and the new revision of the DSM, to first-time experiences with sex workers. Written fantastically well, endlessly entertaining and thought-provoking. | Learn more about Best Sex Writing 2009.

| $19.50

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