- The Science of Sex February 24, 2015
The surprising new science that will transform your sex life
Whether you're someone who enthusiastically identifies as a 'sex nerd' or you're someone who has spent some time in your life worrying that there's something about your sexuality that's not normal, Come As You Are is sure to be a ridiculously enlightening reading experience. Our co-op has always been extremely skeptical of sex research - it often tells you much more about the researcher than the subject - but Emily Nagoski's book takes the last fifty years of sex research and manages to explain it in a thorough, critical, and entertaining fashion. If anyone has ever told you that your body, or desire, or relationships is weird or wrong or fucked up, Come As You Are is here to tell you that you're okay, the person who told you that is wrong, and science can prove it. We liked this book so much, we're running Emily's 5 Dirty, Little Secrets from the Science of Sex workshop. | Read about Come As You Are: The Science of Sex
- Valentine's Newsletter February 8, 2015
Somewhere deep in our bylaws there is surely something that requires us to either extoll the virtues of self-love or produce a list of Valentine’s Day-related tips and/or tricks in our annual Valentine’s newsletter. Every year, when this love holiday approaches our horizon, we muster our best collective heart-on in hopes of making your Valentine’s Day better, easier, or just less stressful.
Some years we’ve written you love letters, and some years we’ve focused on the love we have for our co-op, or the amazing stuff we have in our shop. All of these are passionate loves for us even if the kind of love we feel in each instance varies wildly.
Our passion for Valentine’s Day stems from the fact that it is the only day of the year that pays any kind of attention to what we do. On every other day - be it Earth Day or Christmas Day or Grandparents’ Day or Tuesday - romantic love is almost never on the menu despite the way our society centralizes and assumes romantic love as a default - but somehow not very important state of being.
Paradoxically, whether or not you’re in a romantic love relationship, Valentine’s Day and the pressures contained within are almost an inevitability, and you’re either expected to not forget to make a reservation and buy some flowers or a sex toy or some chocolates, or you’re expected to feel badly for not having done so. It is a bit like Christmas - it doesn’t matter whether or not you actively celebrate it, it is awfully hard to not be aware of.
So, what do we do with all of this? | Read our Valentine's Newsletter
- Fetish Coloring Book January 20, 2015
It's exactly what it sounds like: pages upon pages filled with many delightfully different sexy images, just waiting for your personal touch! | Read more about Fetish Coloring Book
- More Than Two Ethical Polyamory January 8, 2015
This is easily the most thorough and enjoyable guide to modern polyamory and non-monogamy that we've ever had the good fortune to read. Drawing from mainstream and poly-specific sources - and the authors' personal experiences - the authors effectively dispel some of the most common misconceptions about non-monogamous relationships (held by many practicing poly, even) and provide a whole world of ideas, tools, and self-reflective exercises to help you on your polyamorous journey. While the anecdotes have a heterosexual focus, the content of this book manages to not assume anything about the reader except a genuine interest in learning more about polyamory. This remarkable title covers everything from learning how to listen actively and communicate non-violently to figuring out how to negotiate schedules, safer sex, and childcare.
- Erika Lust is Back! December 15, 2014
If you're someone who has been enamoured of Erika Lust throughout her prolific porn career, you're going to adore XConfessions 3 DVD! Just like the previous installments of the XConfessions series, each vignette is based on a fan-submitted fantasy, and Erika brings each of these scenes to life for all of us! If XConfessions 2 was all about the sexy storyline, this installment is all about the scenario and the scenery. With several lush outdoor scenes, this is one of the raciest Erika Lust films we've had the pleasure of reviewing! Get your hands on XConfessions 3 DVD.
- Stuff This in Your Stocking! December 11, 2014
Pleasure doesn’t have to cost a fortune, and for those times when less explicit and more budget conscious is the way to go, check out our picks for the sexiest gifts for under $30, and remember that new sex toys, books, and DVDs are always 10% off! At Come As You Are, we only carry sex toys we truly love - at every price point! Find things to Stuff in Your Stocking!
- Screaming O Mastering O Wow December 8, 2014
Oh, we know that this toy is all about the novelty for most folks, but for us, having a vibrating, easy-to-control remote ring is so much more than a bit of discreet fun! Like most rings, you can wear the Screaming O Mastering vibe side down for the pleasure of the wearer, or vibe side up for the pleasure of your partner, but this ring can also be remotely controlled up to 50 feet away via your ring finger. Fun, sexy, and accessible - what more can you ask for? Check out Screaming O Mastering O Wow
- Lelo Wave: Come. Hither. December 3, 2014
Lelo has been taking amazing strides these last few years with their development of toys like the Ida and Ora: not only are they phenomenal vibrators, but they provide other types of sensation, like rotation, as well. With the announcement of the Ina Wave, we're seeing the next exciting step on this path. The Ina Wave features both vibration and a rocking 'come hither' motion. Seriously. The possibility for stimulating g-spots with a pulsating, massaging sex toy is blowing our minds over here. In-stock now! | Read more about the Lelo Wave
- Take It Out And Play With It December 2, 2014
Queer caucasian transman & empowered wheelchair driver Chris Ablett shares his new free art show at Come As You Are this December 2014! Take It Out And Play With It is a collection of Chris' creative adventures in the last year. Succulent genitals, animal dress-up, apartment under construction, Mr. Fenis at Taylor Creek and abstract sexual drawings come together in his playful photos. Chris invites you to join him for an Opening Reception Thursday, December 4, 2014 from 7-10PM
- Jimmyjane Form 2 Luxe Edition November 27, 2014
Is it getting hot in here, or is it just this oh-so-sexy vibrator?! Featuring all the amazing quality and power we've come to expect from Jimmyjane, you're looking at the five-year anniversary celebration of their much-desired bestselling Form 2 design. With an upgraded battery (making the two motors in this toy slightly stronger than the original), an additional function, and a tasteful black silicone design with 24K gold plating, we totally understand if you're feeling a little weak in the knees! | Find out more about Jimmyjane Form 2 Luxe Edition
- New York Toy Collective Small Packers November 25, 2014
Ever feel like regular packers take up a little too much room in your pants? Tired of going to the gym sporting a porn star hard-on? Well, you're in luck! Designed specifically for FTM, trans, genderqueer, and cosplaying folks, New York Toy Collective has added this smaller gem to their line-up of high-quality, super soft packers. Available in both circumcised and uncircumcised versions (see Pierre), the Archer Small is perfect for everyone who loves packing, but wants something a little more subtle in their pants. | Find out more about New York Toy Collective Small Packers
- Fuze Silicone Dildos November 20, 2014
If you know us at all, you'll already know that we're huge fans of Fuze Silicone toys! From their innovative - and very stimulating - ridged bases (for the pleasure of the wearer) and their vibrator-optional design, to their committment to honest and ethical business practices, what's not to love? Now they've taken what they do so well even further and have released a series of new dildos in a soft and supple silicone guaranteed not to shrink over time.| Find out more about Fuze Silicone Dildos
- Oh Joy Sex Toy: The Book November 11, 2014
Oh joy, indeed! Following an inspiring crowdfunding campaign, Erika Moen's beautiful, educational, and entertaining Oh Joy Sex Toy has emerged in book form - and we're among the very first to have it in our hands and in our shop. Whether you're an original Dar fan or you're just looking for a fun way to learn about the wild world of sex toys, we heartily recommend this thoroughly sex-positive guide (and reviews!) of so many of the amazing sex product the world has to offer. | Read more about Oh Joy Sex Toy - The Book
- Trans Bodies, Trans Selves November 7, 2014
Inspired by the original 70's Our Bodies, Ourselves, Trans Bodies, Trans Selves goes well above and beyond the original, and even manages to provide an even more thorough resource than even the contemporary Our Bodies, Ourselves. Being trans means something different to almost every trans person, and while acknowledging our many differing approaches to being trans, this title is able to provide non-judgemental and comprehensive information on almost any issue that impacts the lives of trans people. | Find out more about Trans Bodies, Trans Selves
- Meet Lelo Ina Wave November 6, 2014
Lelo has been taking amazing strides these last few years with their development of toys like the Ida and Ora: not only are they phenomenal vibrators, but they provide other types of sensation, like rotation, as well. With the announcement of the Ina Wave, we're seeing the next exciting step on this path. The Ina Wave features both vibration and a rocking 'come hither' motion. Seriously. The possibility for stimulating g-spots with a pulsating, massaging sex toy is blowing our minds over here. | Read more about the Lelo Ina Wave and the Lelo Mona Wave
- Thank You! November 6, 2014
Thank you to the readers of Now Magazine for again voting for Come As You Are in the annual Best of Toronto poll! We're so proud to have been Toronto's favourite sex shop for almost two decades now - especially because we're such a small co-operative with so few resources. All of your support (and votes) mean so much to us, and we could not be more grateful or appreciative of the trust you put in us year after year. | Read more of our reviews and testimonials
- Fun Factory Cobra Libre On Sale November 5, 2014
Fun Factory makes truly wonderful and imaginative sex toys in silicone, but the world of masturbation sleeves has been largely ignored. Thankfully, the bright minds at Fun Factory have finally turned their attention to vibrating sleeves and the results have been outstanding. The Fun Factory Cobra Libre has a charming snake name, and a smooth race-car like design, but beneath the bravado is a powerful rechargeable vibrator with multi-speed and multi-mode touch controls. The body of the Cobra Libre is ABS plastic, and the shallow sleeve is smooth, luxurious silicone. Fully waterproof, this toy is easy to use and clean, and the shape of the silicone sleeve provides an intense feeling of suction while the opening can flutter at higher speeds for even more stimulation. ON SALE NOW! $115 | Read more about Fun Factory Cobra Libre On Sale
- Fucking Mystic DVD November 4, 2014
Chelsea Poe takes on all of Oakland in this goth-y spellbinding queer flick! While saying goodbye to her girlfriend before moving to the city, she receives a necklace that she determines is "fucking mystic", since it magically incites lust in all that cross her path. From a hot kinky fuck with Courtney Trouble, to a orgy of epic proportions, this film has a cheeky storyline, and is absolutely full to bursting with your favourite queer, genderqueer, & trans performers. $15 | Read more about Fucking Mystic DVD
- The Invisible Orientation October 30, 2014
Julie Sondra Decker's Invisible Orientation is a much needed and welcomed resource that explores asexuality. As she clearly expresses, this book is intended to be an introduction: you will find a wealth of writing dedicated to breaking down misconceptions about asexuality, and exploring the possibilities of asexuality. This book is helpful for folks interested in exploring asexuality as a personal orientation, and/or interested in supporting asexual people by learning more about this orientation- important in a world where asexuality is so often denied and invisibilized. | Read more about The Invisible Orientation
- Lelo Luna Bead Vibrating Kegel Exerciser October 21, 2014
We're not sure what's more shocking- a pressure responsive vibrating PC exerciser, or a battery powered vibrator by Lelo! Powered by one AAA battery, Lelo's Smart Bead has a lot of exciting possibility. While pelvic floor exercises don't have to happen with any products, many find kegel or duotone balls helpful for reminding them that it's time to do their pesky (but oh so helpful!) exercises. Further, it can be helpful having something to hold onto while contracting and relaxing muscles, whether that's a set of Luna Beads, or Aneros' prostate massagers. The Smart Bead takes this process up a seriously nerdy notch. Turn the toy on, insert it inside the body, and contract your PC muscles when the toy vibrates, relax when the vibrations stop. | Read more about Lelo Luna Bead Vibrating Kegel Exerciser
- Desirables Adori October 15, 2014
This collection of massage stones from Montreal truly do become magic once in hand. Three different sizes and designs of porcelain stones have been carefully crafted to be held and manipulated against the body in different ways. Designed ergonomically to evolve and adapt to whatever type of touch you prefer, this set has impressed us with it's ornate attention to function, detail and beauty. | Read more about Desirables Adori
- Hot, Wet and Shaking October 2, 2014
How I Learned To Talk About Sex
While Hot, Wet and Shaking is Kaleigh Trace's first book, readers may already be familiar with her writing from her coil-bound zine, Every Body's Doing It, or her fantastic blog, The Fucking Facts. With prose that is powerful and sensitive, bold yet welcoming, Trace thoughtfully brings together stories from the many intersections of her life as a sex-positive feminist queer person with a disability living and working in Halifax. Trace's ability to regale readers with vibrant stories while also engaging us in processing and unpacking what she learned from them is a talent that makes this book such a positive and affirming read. Part memoir, part sexual theory, one hundred percent hard to put down! | Read more about Hot, Wet and Shaking