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enjoying anal play

We've been thrilled to see a constant increase in the level of interest in this section of our store as more and more folks are exploring this wellspring of pleasure in our bodies. This new acceptance is also welcome for those of us without as much genital sensation since oftentimes we still have complete sensation in and around the anus. And don't forget, aside from patience, practice, and enthusiasm, the other thing you absolutely need for anal play is lubricant!

We've put together this page to bring together all of the information on our site about anal play to help you better find the information and stuff you're looking for. At the bottom of this page, you'll find links to other resources about anal play. If there's anything you'd like to see in this area of our site, or if you're looking for a particular toy, book or video that you can't seem to find on our web site, please feel free contact us

enjoying anal play

As more and more of us explore various pleasure zones throughout ours and our lovers' bodies, the anus has received the attention it so richly deserves. In spite of (or is it because of) the pervasive taboo, anal eroticism can become an important part of your sex life -- whether as main course or appetizer. Dispelling fear and combatting ignorance is the first step to enjoying anal sex. With apologies to "10 Rules of Anal Sex" from Anal Pleasure & Health by Jack Morin, we offer these five basic suggestions.

  1. Learn about the anus. These are some of the pleasure points: The opening of the anus contains the highest concentration of nerve endings. Thereafter, the anus responds mostly to feelings of fullness or pressure. Putting pressure on the ventral wall of the anus a couple of inches in will stimulate the (male) prostate gland. The tip of the (internal) clitoral body in women can also be stimulated through the anus.
  2. Relax and take the time to explore your anal opening (sphincter muscles), anal canal, (male) prostate gland. Be conscious of what feels good, what doesn't. Stop if you are overwhelmed by difficult or negative emotions. Breathe, relax, continue if you choose. If it hurts, don't force it. Pain is an indication that something is not quite right.
  3. Open your mind to all the possibilities of anal play. These include touching with fingers or other body parts or objects, licking or oral-anal contact (popularly known as rimming), pulling open the buttocks thereby stretching the anal opening, and penetration with fingers, toys, penis. Don't forget fantasy and dirty talking to augment anal play -- or during another type of play entirely!
  4. Play safely. Because the lining of the anus is very sensitive to damage, special precautions should be taken. Anything near or in the anus should be smooth or free of jagged edges; cut fingernails short and round the edges with an emery board. Dildos with a flared base are advised - anything that slips out of your grasp may not be easily retrievable!

    Lubricant is essential for anal penetration as the anus does not produce its own lubrication.
  5. Keep clean. Do not put anything from the anus to vagina -- bacteria that live quite happily in the anus with cause havoc in the vagina. Use a fresh condom on penis or toys and a fresh latex glove on hands, or wash very thoroughly. If there is risk of hepatitis, use a dental dam or slice open a condom to use as a barrier for oral-anal contact.

More Anal Play Resources

We hope that these few guidelines will assist and encourage in anal exploration. But, it's just tip of a wealth of information available. The bible on anal sex is Anal Pleasure & Health, which covers technique and health safety issues as well as extensive sections on emotional psychological issues and communication. A sassy, up-beat new title written specifically for women is The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women by Tristan Taormino, also be sure to check out The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Men by Bill Brent.

Check out video titles Better Sex Guide to Anal Pleasure and Nina Hartley's Guide to Anal Sex. As we've come to expect, The Better Sex Guide offers great advice and healthy attitudes in spades, providing technical know-how on anal pleasure and health. Featuring the foremost expert and all-around taboo debunker, Jack Morin, Ph.D., we get lots of great couples, great advice, and beautifully shot anal sex. A must-see for those looking to add anal pleasure to their pallet! In Nina Hartley's Guide to Anal Sex, Hall of Fame Superstar and sex-positive activist Nina Hartley has created a guide to anal sex play that is informative and fun. This dvd provides basic anatomy, tips and techniques, and explicit demonstrations.

our favourite toys for anal play

The Aneros Prostate Massager is one of the most well-researched and advanced devices for prostate massage. The Aneros is impressive because it is both useful for encouraging prostate health and stronger orgasms through practice. With several different models available, there is an Aneros for every level of expertise and experience.

Another great prostate toy is the Naughty Boy. This vibrating and silicone toy is a great anal toy for both men and women. Plus silicone is boil-able and easy to clean, so you don't need to use a condom with it to keep it in tip-top shape!

Cast in beautiful and safe stainless steel, NJoy Toys' Pure Plugs come in three sizes to please players of all experience levels. Designed specifically for prostate stimulation, the Pure Plug features a smooth bulb perfectly angled to hit the right spot every time! Also check out the Fun Wand and Pure Wand for even more fun and anal adventure.


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