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how to use a strap on

Dildo harnesses are a great way of taking dildo play to a new level and of exploring sexual possibilities beyond what our bodies would generally let us do. As with all sex toys, there's no one right way to use a dildo harness, but if you've never used one before here are some basic tips on how to use a dildo harness.

solo

For some people the first time they strap on a dildo harness they immediately develop a role and personae for themselves with their new body parts. But most of us require a little time getting used to the idea, and the feel of the harness and the dildo. If you can come into our store to shop then you will hopefully have already tried on your dildo harness. If not, be sure to try it on and get a feel for it a few times before you use it with a partner. Put it on and walk around with it. Try thrusting and dancing, sitting up and lying down. See what it feels like to have the harness on under your clothes without a dildo and with one.

find the fit

Find the right position on your body for the harness and make sure the size adjustments are most comfortable. You want the harness to fit as snugly against your body as possible, keeping the dildo tight to your body, but you don't want it to feel uncomfortable. Take note of the position of the buckles and straps, and when you take it off, slip out of it while keeping the other straps in place.

rubber love

Unless you are using a dildo that can be boiled in water you should always use a condom on dildos in harnesses. Using condoms is also a great way to make clean up easier, and to extend the life of your dildo. If you're going to use your dildo vaginally and anally you need to use a fresh condom for each kind of play.

get a feedback loop

When you use a dildo harness you won't have the same immediate feedback because you can't feel the tip or shaft of the dildo and so won't know exactly what's going on for your partner. You need to pay more attention to your partner's non-verbal cues and ask for plenty of verbal feedback as well.

keep it lubed

Make sure to use plenty of lubricant on your dildo and if you're going to be playing for a while be prepared to add more lube. Pulling your dildo all the way out of your partner can be distracting so if you can add lube while playing it's even better. Of course you can always make pulling out a part of the tease of the sex play too.

use what's free

One of the great benefits of using a harness is that it leaves other parts of your body free for use. Use what you've got to touch and stimulate your partner (your hands, your arms, etc...) You can also use a free hand to add stimulation from a vibrator.

thrusting vs. rubbing

If using a dildo harness is your first time penetrating someone you may think that what's called for is immediate and intense thrusting. In-and-out penetration is something lots of people like, but others prefer the feel of having the dildo all the way in their body and getting a lot of pelvic rubbing and grinding going on. Mix it up and be sure to ask your partner what works best for them.

double dildo harnesses

There are some harnesses designed to allow both wearer and receiver to have a dildo for penetration. There are also several double dildos designed to be worn in a harness that give both parties a dildo.

the extras

If you're looking for a way to add clitoral stimulation for the wearer, the receiver, or both of you, there are many options. Try the Rodeo Rider which sits inside the harness to provide friction and stimulation to the wearer's clitoris.

 

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