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Learning Good Consent Zine
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Curated by Doris editor Cindy Crabb, Learning Good Consent looks at the culture of sexual consent from a standpoint which is both sexy and educational. Within this zine, Cindy and friends create a well-rounded consent workshop, with all sites set on healing and helping. In the midst of rape culture, ... (read more)

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$6.00 CAD

Love Not Given Lightly
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Love Not Given Lightly is the first collection of nonfiction stories from award-winning filmmaker, journalist, and advocate Tina Horn. In her vast experience in sexual undergrounds, Tina has befriended pro-dommes, porn stars, kinky fetishists, rent boys, and more. Instead of writing a sex worker mem ... (read more)

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Unshaven
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Unshaven is a fine art photography book celebrating women who do not shave their body hair. These people - predominantly normative, young, and cis - pose in gorgeous outdoor California settings, baring for the vision of photographer Nikki Silver. Herself a hairy woman, Silver captures the free spiri ... (read more)

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$pread
$pread
The Best of the Magazine That Illuminated the Sex Industry and Started a Media Revolution
$pread, an Utne award–winning magazine by and for sex workers, was independently published from 2005 to 2011. This collection features the enduring essays about sex work around the world, first-person ... (read more)

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$34.50 CAD

A Taste For Brown Sugar
A Taste For Brown Sugar
A Taste for Brown Sugar boldly takes on representations of black women's sexuality in the porn industry. It is based on Mireille Miller-Young's extensive archival research and her interviews with dozens of women who have worked in the adult entertainment industry since the 1980s. The women share the ... (read more)

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Best Sex Writing of the Year Vol 1
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Best Sex Writing of the Year Vol 1
While this title may be the best sex writing of the year, we'll go out on a limb and say it is actually the best sex writing anthology we've seen since Cleis press initially introduced this annual title. Edited by local favourite (and sometimes CAYA workshop facilitator) Jon Pressick, this title ha ... (read more)

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$23.50 CAD

Big Sex Little Death
Big Sex Little Death
As much to do with sex as politics, family and business, Susie Bright has come out with a fantastic memoir, Big Sex Little Death. As we've come to expect, Bright's writing and insight is quite the treasure, and her life story is absolutely fascinating. A great read that's hard to put down.

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Boundaries of Desire
Boundaries of Desire
The act of reproduction, and its variants, never change much, but our ideas about the meaning of sex are in constant flux. Switch a decade, cross a border, or traverse class lines and the harmless pleasures of one group become the gravest crimes in another. Combining meticulous research and lively ... (read more)

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Coming Out Like A Porn Star
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Coming Out Like A Porn Star
Does your mother know? What does your family think? Has your being in porn effected dating? These top the most commonly asked questions of those in the adult industry. Coming Out Like a Porn Star presents over 50 first-hand accounts, ranging from funny to fucked up, as well as practical tips and per ... (read more)

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Designer Relationships
Designer Relationships
Contemporary relationships are in a state of rapid evolution. These changes can and should empower people with the opportunity to develop partnerships based on their own sexualities, understandings, and agreements. This makes it possible to create what Kenneth Haslam, founder of the Kinsey Institute ... (read more)

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Fast Feminism
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Fast Feminism
Fast Feminism combines the velocity of speed theory and beat poets with a perversion of post-structural thought to create a theory-in-action that takes no prisoners from the old guard of male stream philosophy and sexology. Triumphing the female phallus and tracing it's concealed and broken path thr ... (read more)

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From the Inside Out
From the Inside Out
Radical Gender Transformation, FTM and Beyond
Edited by Morty Diamond
A fascinating and diverse collection of essays (many written from the first-person) describing the lived experiences of those challenging notions of male-ness. From genderqueers, to bois and trans men, these co ... (read more)

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Masters of Sex
Masters of Sex
Showtime's dramatic series 'Masters of Sex' is based on this real-life story of sex researchers William Masters and Virginia Johnson. Before Sex and the City and ViagraTM, America relied on Masters and Johnson to teach us everything we needed to know about what goes on in the bedroom - the pair were ... (read more)

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Mommy's Little Girl
Mommy's Little Girl
Susie Bright on Sex, Motherhood, Porn and Cherry Pie
In her sexy mommy memoir "Mommy's Little Girl," Susie Bright spreads open wide to reveal her thoughts on motherhood, pornography and her traveling life as a "sexpert." Bright as always and witty as ever, Susie's insightful writing wil ... (read more)

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$20.00 CAD

My New Gender Workbook
My New Gender Workbook
The second edition of this amazing guide to exploring gender through fill-in-the-blanks and multiple choice questions. Exam style, without the bad grades. 2013. 293 pp.

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$60.10 CAD

Pomosexuals
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Pomosexuals
By Carol Queen and Lawrence Schimel
This book shows us a utopian ideology of how society should look at gender and sexuality. Academic essays on a variety of topics, relevant for everyone. Preface by Kate Bornstein. 1997. 180 pp.

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$22.50 CAD

Porn Archives
Porn Archives
While sexually explicit writing and art have been around for millennia, pornography - as an aesthetic, moral, and juridical category - is a modern invention. The contributors to Porn Archives explore how the production and proliferation of pornography has been intertwined with the emergence o ... (read more)

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$55.00 CAD

Selling Sex
Selling Sex
Experience, Advocacy, and Research on Sex Work in Canada

Despite being dubbed "the world's oldest profession," prostitution has rarely been viewed as a legitimate form of labour. Instead, it has been criminalized, sensationalized, and problemicized across the socio-political spectrum ... (read more)

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$34.95 CAD

Sex at Dawn
Sex at Dawn
From research psychologist Christopher Ryan and psychiatrist Cacilda Jetha, Sex at Dawn is a fun and intense journey through human pre-history to modern times questioning many of our society's assumptions about the nature of human sexuality. With a focus on the history (and pre-history) of monogamy ... (read more)

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$19.99 CAD

Sovereign Erotics
Sovereign Erotics
A Collection of Two-Spirited Literature
This book is a collection of poems, essays, fiction and non-fiction alike that, not unlike it's authors, cannot fit neatly into any defined box. One of the first to give voice to the highly misunderstood lives of the two-spirited person, this book t ... (read more)

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$26.95 CAD

Why Is Sex Fun?
Why Is Sex Fun?
The Evolution of Human Sexuality
From a renowned expert in the field of physiology and author of the Pulitzer Prize-winning book 'Guns, Germs and Steel' comes a delightfully entertaining and enlightening look at the unique sex lives of humans. Diamond answers such questions as: Why are h ... (read more)

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$18.00 CAD

Wild Side Sex
Wild Side Sex
The Book of Kink
By Midori
Midori’s much anticipated new book offers readers encouragement and inspiration for exploring the full spectrum of sex. A collection of musings, wisdoms, and essays on all things wild and wonderful. Delve into such topics as: is your prospect a proper perv ... (read more)

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$23.50 CAD

Working Sex
Working Sex
Sex Workers Write About a Changing Industry
Working Sex is a compelling look into the taboo and often sneered upon community of sex workers. Our societies fascination with demonizing pornography, fantasy, and all things "taboo" has put us in an awkward position when it comes to understandi ... (read more)

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$21.50 CAD

Closer: Notes from the Orgasmic Frontier of Female Sexuality
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Closer: Notes from the Orgasmic Frontier of Female Sexuality
From the Publisher: We think of the modern woman as sexually liberated - if anything, we're told we're oversexed. Yet a striking number of women are dissatisfied with their sex lives. Over half of women report having a sexual complaint, whether that's lack of desire or difficulty reaching orgasm. Bu ... (read more) This item is currently out of stock

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$14.95 CAD

Hos, Hookers, Call Girls and Rent Boys
Hos, Hookers, Call Girls and Rent Boys
Hos, Hookers, Call Girls and Rent Boys is a collection of writings from pros in the sex business. All stories are from a first-person point of view, with amazing accounts of adventures from the beautiful and touching to the dark and dangerous. A fascinating and entertaining read. This item is currently out of stock

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Invisible Orientation
Invisible Orientation
An Introduction to Asexuality
Julie Sondra Decker's Invisible Orientation is a much needed and welcomed resource that explores asexuality. As she clearly expresses, this book is intended to be an introduction: you will find a wealth of writing dedicated to breaking down misconceptions abou ... (read more) This item is currently out of stock

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$60.00 CAD

Sexing the Body
Sexing the Body
In Sexing the Body, Anne Fausto-Sterling applies her varied academic background (she teaches both Biology and Women’s Studies at Brock University) to create an interdisciplinary approach to understanding gender and sexuality. In this compelling work she examines how both biological and social factor ... (read more) This item is currently out of stock

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$28.00 CAD

Straight
Straight
The Surprisingly Short History of Heterosexuality
Independent historian and author of Big Big Love Hanne Blank, delves into the formation of heterosexual and homosexual identiti ... (read more) This item is currently out of stock

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Sub Rosa
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Sub Rosa
Sub Rosa is at once glittery, vibrant, eerie and powerful – a Lambda Literary Award winning work dubbed by some as a feminist dystopian novel, this visceral page-turner explores another magical dimension powered entirely by sex work, chosen family and magic. Both brutal and sweet, flowery and harsh ... (read more) This item is currently out of stock

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$22.95 CAD

The Feminist Porn Book
The Feminist Porn Book
Looking for a buffet of ideas about the politics of producing pleasure? Exploring what it means to create feminist pornography from more than thirty unique and important perspectives, the FPB brings together actors, scholars, teachers, critics and producers of feminist pornography. Delving into the ... (read more) This item is currently out of stock

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$30.95 CAD

Learning Good Consent Book
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Cindy Crabb provides a DIY tour of the promise and perils of sexual relationships in Learning Good Consent. Building ethical relationships is one of the most important things we can do, but sex, consent, abuse, and support can get complicated. This collection is an indispensable guide to both preven ... (read more)

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$20.50 CAD

Burlesque West
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Burlesque West
Showgirls, Sex and Sin in Postwar Vancouver
Burlesque West, the book that spurred a national controversy over public funding of academic work on sex history, is the first to take a critical look at western Canada's history of burlesque, peeler bars and the lives of strip-tease workers. Bec ... (read more)

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$31.95 CAD

Unrepentant Whore
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Unrepentant Whore
The Collected Works Of Scarlot Harlot

From the publisher: Scarlot Harlot, unrepentant whore, activist, and artist, is a brazen hooker with a brain. Since the late 1970s, Harlot (a.k.a. Carol Leigh) has written, performed, and produced work in a variety of genres on women's issues and he ... (read more)

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Yes Means Yes!
Yes Means Yes!
Visions of Female Sexual Power & A World Without Rape
From feminist activist Jaclyn Friedman and founder of feministing.com Jessica Valenti comes this anthology of short stories, essays and critical thoughts on female sexual empowerment in a rape culture world. Going beyond the simplisti ... (read more)

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$22.00 CAD

Whipping Girl
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In the updated second edition of Whipping Girl, Julia Serano, a transsexual woman whose supremely intelligent writing reflects her background as a lesbian transgender activist and professional biologist, shares her powerful experiences and observations—both pre- and post-transition—to reveal the way ... (read more)

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A Safe Girl to Love
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A Safe Girl to Love
Eleven unique short stories that stretch from a rural Canadian Mennonite town to a hipster gay bar in Brooklyn, featuring young trans women stumbling through loss, sex, harassment, and love. These stories, shiny with whiskey and prairie sunsets, rattling subways and neglected cats, show growing up ... (read more)

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Army of Lovers
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Army of Lovers
A Community History of Will Munro
The much anticipated Army of Lovers from Sarah Liss is so much more than a mere biography of Toronto artist and activist Will Munro. Instead, Liss enlists Will's friends, co-conspirators, and family to tell the story of Will Munro's life and legacy. From ... (read more)

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Blood, Marriage, Wine and Glitter
Blood, Marriage, Wine and Glitter
S. Bear Bergman returns with a third collection of essays! A sweet and inspiring dedication to what makes a queer family, from spunkles to poly lovers, from gutsy grandmothers to husbands and his fiery three year old child, all finding the spaces to fight for a world without such narrow gender binar ... (read more)

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Gender Outlaws: The Next Generation
Gender Outlaws: The Next Generation
Trans-activists Kate Bornstein and S. Bear Bergman have collected an anthology of fictional and non-fictional writing from the drastic position of gender outlaws, both visible and invisible. This collection of essays draws from several different positions, proving that there is no one experience of ... (read more)

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$22.95 CAD

He Mele A Hilo
He Mele A Hilo
Something strange is happening in Hilo. Noleani Choi’s new show about the life of Jesus Christ told through hula dance has everyone, especially her halau, wondering what she could possibly be thinking. Rumors circulate about a rich guy from the mainland, and the dancers and their friends must reckon ... (read more)

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I've Got a Time Bomb
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I've Got a Time Bomb
On her way home from a gay wedding, Sybil’s eponymous protagonist is ambushed, beaten, and left for dead on the train tracks. Days later, Sybil awakens in a hospital and finds her skull has been reconstructed, but it quickly becomes clear that her version of “normal” and “reality” may have been perm ... (read more)

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$32.00 CAD

Nobody Passes
Nobody Passes
Rejecting the Rules of Gender and Conformity
By Matthew Bernstein Sycamore
A set of cleverly written and thoughtful essays that attempt to tackle the concept of “passing”. Rather, the stories of those living outside and challenging the dichotomy of gender. A must read, for those of ... (read more)

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Rough Paradise
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Rough Paradise
Rough Paradise is an absolute gift to the genre of novellas, and is the first of what we hope will be many works in this format by the talented writer, playwright, artist and performer, Alec Butler! The story is told by Terry, a young boy growing up Intersex in a small town on Canada's East coast. T ... (read more)

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She Of The Mountains
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She Of The Mountains
Creator of the acclaimed "What I Love About Being Queer" and a recent book of short and gorgeous prose, "God Loves Hair", multimedia artist Vivek Shraya has birthed another literary gem with her first novel "She Of The Mountains". Stunningly illustrated by Raymond Biesinger, this novel explores expe ... (read more)

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Six Positions
Six Positions
By Andy Quan
Canadian writer Andy Quan’s first collection of gay erotica and sex writings has finally hit CAYA’s shelves. As we all know, it’s a challenge to find really literary sex writing, but Andy Quan has found the perfect balance between pornography and art. His stories, some previou ... (read more)

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The Collection
The Collection
A dynamic composite of rising stars, The Collection represents the depth and range of tomorrow’s finest writers chronicling transgender narratives. 28 authors from North America converge in a single volume to showcase the future of trans literature and the next great movements in queer art.

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$23.00 CAD

Transgender History
Transgender History
Written in an informative yet extremely readable format, Transgender History traces back the ups and downs of trans rights and movements over the last half century. Discusses underground scenes, political changes, stand-out figures, health care battles, acceptance in different communities, and much ... (read more)

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Bi: Notes for a Bisexual Revolution
Bi: Notes for a Bisexual Revolution
Depicted as duplicitous, traitorous, and promiscuous, bisexuality has long been suspected, marginalized, and rejected by both straight and gay communities alike.

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Brazen Femme
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Brazen Femme
This fierce and thoughtful anthology of diverse experiences explores Femme identity as more than simply a binary relational identity to Butch, and busts through stereotypes and assumptions. A wide spectrum of Femme Identified folks spill their guts on these pages in the form of poetry, comics, prose ... (read more) This item is currently out of stock

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Captive Genders
Captive Genders
Pathologized, terrorized, and confined, trans/gender non-conforming and queer folks have always struggled against the enormity of the prison industrial complex. The first collection of its kind, Eric A. Stanley and Nat Smith bring together current and former prisoners, activists, and academics to of ... (read more) This item is currently out of stock

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$29.50 CAD

Hot Wet and Shaking
Hot Wet and Shaking
How I Learned To Talk About Sex
While Hot, Wet and Shaking is Kaleigh Trace's first book, readers may already be familiar with her writing from her coil-bound zine, Every Body's Doing It, or her fantastic blog, The Fucking Facts. With prose that is powerful and sensitive, bold yet welcomin ... (read more) This item is currently out of stock

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$24.25 CAD

Persistence: All Ways Butch and Femme
Persistence: All Ways Butch and Femme
Persistence is a multi-faceted gem - editors Ivan E. Coyote and Zena Sharman further explore many of the themes from Joan Nestle's 1992 reader, The Persistent Desire, by enlisting the incredible voices of many of this era's prominent queer and trans writers and activists. With ... (read more) This item is currently out of stock

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The Nearest Exit May Be Behind You
The Nearest Exit May Be Behind You
A collection of essays on personal experiences, escapades, and adventures one has with gender and identity (and sexuality), Nearest Exit is an excellent book filled with smart, often humourous and thought-provoking tales. S Bear Bergman's new classic is a fantastic read, and a great addition to the ... (read more) This item is currently out of stock

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Why Are Faggots So Afraid Of Faggots?
Why Are Faggots So Afraid Of Faggots?
Flaming Challenges to Maculinity, Objectification, and the Desire the Conform Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore, editor of "Nobody Passes" and "That's Revolting! Queer Strategies to Resisting Assimilation," has complied a diverse range of essays from queers who challenge the contemporary trend of m ... (read more) This item is currently out of stock

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