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À propos de nous

Wed, 08 Sep 2010 10:59:00 -0400

Nous sommes la première boutique coopérative offrant un accès sexe-positif aux jouets érotiques, livres, films et informations. Notre approche face à la sexualité en est une de respect, d'ouverture, d'humour, de communication et de responsabilités. Nous sommes orientés vers le service et la communauté, accessibles et ouverts face aux handicaps.

À propos de nous

Wed, 22 Sep 2010 10:48:00 -0400

Come As You Are/Venez Tels Quels est géré de manière coopérative par nos employés-propriétaires, Sarah Forbes-Roberts, gill lamon et Cory Silverberg, par le biais de notre société mère, CAYA Coopérative Ltée.

rendre les jouets accessibles

Fri, 27 Aug 2010 12:43:00 -0400

Ceci est un apperçu des possibilités d'adaptation des jouets érotiques. Il y en a tant à dire à ce sujet et tant d'idées que nous espérons que vous considérerez cette page comme étant une base d'informations avec lesquelles travailler. Une grande partie de ces informations provient de notre expérience de plus de dix ans de travail avec des gens ayant des handicaps et qui ont adapté des jouets érotiques.

Accessoires érotiques 101

Fri, 30 Apr 2010 13:53:00 -0400

Avec tant de possibilités, choisir votre premier jouet érotique peut être une tâche d'envergure. Nous avons des suggestions pour le choix d'un vibrateur, d'un dildo, d'un harnais, mais avant d'y arriver, voici quelques détails importants à prendre en considération : la fonction, l'apparence, le type de stimulation ainsi que le prix.

Adapter les jouets érotiques à la fatigue

Fri, 10 Sep 2010 13:00:00 -0400

Lorsque l'on pense aux jouets érotiques, la fatigue devient une considération importante par rapport au poids du jouet et la façon de tenir ce dernier. Nous accompagnons la plupart des descriptions de nos jouet de dimensions et de poids afin que vous puissiez comparer ces derniers avec des objets familiers pour vous donner une idée de la facilité que vous aurez avec un jouet.

Adapter les jouets érotiques à la mobilité et au contrôle moteur

Fri, 27 Aug 2010 15:24:00 -0400

La mobilité et le contrôle moteur peuvent avoir un impact sur le type de jouet que vous pouvez tenir, mais également sur la façon de faire en sorte que le jouet touche la partie désirée de votre corps ou celui de votre partenaire. En premier lieu, prennez en considération ce que vous désirez faire avec le jouet. Quel type de mouvement désirez-vous? Quels sont les mouvements qui peuvent vous permettre d'atteindre ceci? Quel est le point que vous désirez stimuler? Pouvez-vous l'atteindre?

Adapter les jouets érotiques à l'intimité

Fri, 10 Sep 2010 12:41:00 -0400

Une autre considération lorsque l'on adapte des jouets érotiques, c'est le type d'intimité que vous aurez lorsque vous l'utiliserez. Ceci dépendra beaucoup du fait que vous utilisez ce jouet seul ou avec un partenaire et ce que votre partenaire peut faire avec le jouet.

Adapter les jouets érotiques aux sensations réduites

Fri, 27 Aug 2010 14:15:00 -0400

Les jouets érotiques peuvent vous aider à explorer les sensations sur toutes les parties de votre corps. N'assumez pas que les sensations d'une partie de votre corps sont identiques à celles des autres parties de votre corps. N'assumez pas non plus que les parties d'une même zone vont toutes offrir les mêmes sensations.

adapter les jouets érotiques pour l' hypersensibilité

Fri, 27 Aug 2010 14:47:00 -0400

La plupart des gens vivant avec de l'hypersensibilité trouvent les vibrateurs très déplaisants. Ils offrent souvent beaucoup trop de stimulations dans ce cas-ci. Souvenez-vous que les jouets érotiques sont des jouets et que c'est une question de préférence. Avec l'hypersensibilité, il est mieux de choisir un jouet dont vous contrôlez le mouvement.

Advanced Search

Tue, 12 Jan 2010 15:55:00 -0400

Apprécier le sexe anal

Thu, 23 Sep 2010 16:46:00 -0400

Nos sommes heureux de constater l'augmentation constante de l'intérêt pour cette zone de notre boutique et de plus en plus de gens explorent cette source de plaisir présente dans nos corps.

articles en vente

Tue, 21 Sep 2010 10:20:00 -0400

astuces sexuelles

Sun, 27 Jan 2013 19:06:00 -0400

Vous aimeriez savoir comment utiliser adéquatement votre vibrateur tout neuf? Vous voulez découvrir de nouvelles façons de vous satisfaire sexuellement? Du sexe sécuritaire avec les jouets érotiques à l'éjaculation féminine, des jeux anaux aux vibrateurs, nous avons des trucs et astuces pour tous et presque n'importe quoi.

Ateliers-maison

Tue, 17 Apr 2012 16:31:00 -0400

Vous ne savez pas comment célébrer un shower de mariage ou un enterrement de vie de fille de façon vraiment originale? Vous voulez faire une soirée de couples pour discuter et en apprendre plus sur la sexualité et les jouets érotiques? Vous voulez faire un truc différent le samedi soir? Réservez votre soirée atelier-maison! Pour plus d'informations envoyez un courriel inge@veneztelsquels.com.

ateliers-maison

Tue, 17 Apr 2012 16:34:00 -0400

bienvenue

Tue, 12 Mar 2013 00:00:00 -0400

Binder - Comment choisir une veste de compression

Wed, 22 Sep 2010 16:40:00 -0400

Choisir le binder parfait peut être un défi. Nous aovns des binder de Underworks et de Double T, et chacuns ont leurs avantages et leurs inconvénients. Les gars plus corpulents vont trouver que les Underworks offrent une compression plus ajustée alors que les Double T sont plus sports et un peu moins comprimants pour certains.

Binders, Paquets & Plus

Wed, 22 Sep 2010 17:19:00 -0400

Nos produits ont été créés pour plaire à tous et chacun, mais nous sommes fiers d'offrir cette sélection de produits qui plaira plus particulièrement aux FàH (FTM) et transhommes, dont des packet (packers) et des binders.

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été 2003, no. 22

Fri, 15 Aug 2003 00:00:00 -0400

De nos jours, la coopération est un concept sous-valorisé. Toutefois, en se penchant de près on remarque que rien de bon n'est possible sans au moins un brin de coopération. Certainement, le sexe satisfaisant requiert une certaine coopération, même si c'est entre différentes parties d'un même corps. La compétition présuppose des gagnants et des perdants tandis que la coopération, elle, veut que tout le monde y tire satisfaction. Une telle victoire partagée est d'autant plus satisfaisante à cause des grands efforts qu'elle peut requérir.

été 2004, no. 26

Sun, 15 Aug 2004 00:00:00 -0400

Le mois dernier, nous avons été contacté par une chaine de télévision nationale afin de participer à une émission sur la sexualité. Le producteur nous a expliqué qu'il voulait explorer le débat sur la sécurité et les jouets sexuels. C'est un débat que nous avons eu lorsque nous avons ouvert notre boutique il y a sept ans : qu'est-ce qui fait qu'un jouet est sécuritaire et qu'est-ce qui fait qu'un jouet est agréable ? Nous avons donc créé notre réponse en nous basant sur le concept du risque.

été 2005, no. 30

Mon, 15 Aug 2005 00:00:00 -0400

Mais non, voyons! Nous ne révélons pas publiquement qui vous êtes! Nous pensons que notre engagement par rapport à la confidentialité est l’une des raisons qui vous fait revenir en ligne et en boutique.Mais c’est la fin de l’été et nous avons trop lu Star et US Weekly, aussi pardonnez notre titre accrocheur. Cependant, nous vous avons demandé de vous révéler à nous dans notre sondage 2005… Et les résultats nous fascinent!

été 2006, no. 34

Tue, 15 Aug 2006 00:00:00 -0400

Peu importe à quel point nous aimons ce que nous faisons, vient un temps où tout un chacun à Venez tels quels est agacé par l’industrie des jouets érotiques. En effet, l’industrie est généralement connue auprès du public pour des phallus de caoutchouc odorant et toxique ainsi que d’embarrassantes poupées gonflables plutôt que pour nos idéaux élevés et notre approche sexe-positive.

été 2007, no. 38

Wed, 15 Aug 2007 00:00:00 -0400

Les adultes ont généralement le plus petit bout du bâton en frais d’éducation sexuelle. Comme si la société voulait que nous sachions tout au sujet de la sexualité avant d’avoir 18 ans, nous laissant à nous-même pour les 60-70 ans qui suivent. Par conséquent, nous devons nous dépatouiller dans nos vies sexuelles sans support afin de découvrir notre réel potentiel. Démêler peut être amusant, et il n’y a pas de doctorat en technique sexuelle, mais cela nous frappe de constater que l’éducation sexuelle soit si floue, considérant le fait que la sexualité est vécue tout au long de nos vies.

été 2008, no. 43

Fri, 15 Aug 2008 00:00:00 -0400

Jamye Waxman a parlé avec des milliers de personnes au sujet de leur vie sexuelle. Elle est une auteure et éducatrice qui se lance corps et âme dans son travail. (voyez-là dans le film de Betty Dodson: Orgasmic Women).Dans l’anticipation de deux ateliers en octobre, voici une entrevue avec elle au sujet de son livre, son travail et pourquoi elle ne se fatigue jamais de parler de la sexualité.

été 2009, no. 46

Sat, 15 Aug 2009 00:00:00 -0400

Il est fort ironique de constater que la plupart des ressources en éducation sexuelles sont orientées vers les moins de 18 ans. Pas que les ados n’ont pas besoin d’informations et de ressources pertinentes, exactes et efficaces, mais la vie sexuelle et érotique d’une personne change et évolue avec l’âge. Les gens de tous les ages ont besoin d’éducation sexuelle.

hiver 2003, no. 23

Sat, 15 Nov 2003 00:00:00 -0400

La neige ne saurait tarder, l’air est vif, les feuilles craquent sous nos pas. Nous recherchons désespérément, assommés, comme à chaque année, par le changement de température, la chaleur passée. Chacun d’entre nous, durant cette période de l’année se met en quête, à sa manière, de cette chaleur disparue. Certains la retrouveront devant leur foyer, d’autres au cœur de leur famille, d’autres dans leur bon vieux chandail de laine. Vous vous blottirez peut-être contre votre amoureux(se) ou passerez du temps en compagnie d’un bon livre érotique ou d’un nouveau jouet déniché dans votre boutique érotique favorite.

hiver 2004, no. 27

Mon, 15 Nov 2004 00:00:00 -0400

Le printemps est la saison qui nous excite, l'ete est la saison qui nous a rendus excites au printemps, l'automne nous fait apprecier notre logis confortable, nous transporte interieurement et nous prepare a l'hiver et enfin, l'inevitable hibernation de l'hiver nous ramene a l'excitation du printemps... Nous avons souvent utilise les images romantiques du feu de bois petillant et des confortables couvertures chaudes dans nos bulletins de nouvelles. Alors que ces images illustrent fort bien une partie de l'experience hivernale canadienne, la realite est qu'il fait souvent trop froid pour meme penser a enlever ses vetements.

hiver 2005, no. 31

Tue, 15 Nov 2005 00:00:00 -0400

L’hiver nous menace une fois de plus. C’est comme si l’été nous faisait nier l’existence des autres saisons et, lorsque la neige nous rattrape, nous semblons surpris et nous nous enfermons loin du froid et de la mauvaise température. Ceux qui n’ont pas attendu tout l’été le retour des sports hivernaux vont inévitablement être trempés par les excès de Dame Nature. Au moins, nous avons de la neige, du moins jusqu’à ce que les déneigeuses s’enfuient avec leurs cargaisons blanches!

hiver 2006, no. 35

Wed, 15 Nov 2006 00:00:00 -0400

Lorsque nous nous sommes rencontrés, nous étions jeunes, passionnés, sans le sous mais déterminés. Il n’y avait nulle part au Canada qui parlait de sexualité de la façon qui nous semblait logique: avec ouverture, amusement, intelligence ainsi qu’une conscience sociale et politique. Nous avons donc pris une chance et avons démarré la première boutique érotique démocratique du Canada (et maintenant la seule au monde.) 10 années sont maintenant passées et nous sommes plus vieux, plus sages, mais toujours aussi passionnés. Nous avons dit adieu à certaines choses (les VHS ainsi que 1% de TPS) et bonjour et de nouvelles (un site Web en expansion, trois nouveaux travailleurs-propriétaires et les télédildoniques.)

hiver 2007, no. 40

Thu, 15 Nov 2007 00:00:00 -0400

hiver 2008, no. 44

Sat, 15 Nov 2008 00:00:00 -0400

Venez tels quels est une aventure à l’année longue. C’est la première chose à laquelle nous pensons le matin, et la dernière le soir. Nous agençons nos agendas sexuels avec notre vie… Mais nous savons que nos clients aiment souvent mieux une sexualité plus intime, une qui n’est pas partagée avec tous. Et nous savons que c’est problématique pendant le temps des Fêtes, alors que l’espace physique, émotionnel et psychologique est envahi par des amis et de la famille. Nous partagerons donc des astuces, résultant de 11 ans de pratique afin que votre sexualité soit préservée pendant les Fêtes.

hiver 2009, no. 47

Sun, 15 Nov 2009 00:00:00 -0400

En tant que coopérative de travailleurs, le changement fait partie de nos vies. Qui nous sommes et ce que nous faisons change constamment.Nous accueillons de nouveaux proprios, nous cherchons de nouvelles façons d’aider les clients, nous tentons de balancer une entreprise démocratique, éthique et financièrement réussie. Mais ces changements sont bien pâles en comparaison des changements sexuels que nous rencontrons chez nos clients en boutique et en ligne.

printemps 2004, no. 25

Sat, 15 May 2004 00:00:00 -0400

Depuis les six derniËres annÈes, nous cÈlÈbrons le mois de mai comme Ètant un mois pour s'aimer soi-mÍme et transformer la masturbation en acte politique, en oeuvre d'art et en moyen de ramasser de l'argent en mÍme temps. En se prÈparant pour les festivitÈs de cette annÈe, nous avons remarquÈ que notre succËs a incitÈ plusieurs groupes ‡ suivre notre mouvement! En 2004, la masturbation se partagera le mois de mai avec le mois national de l'apprÈciation militaire, le mois national de la sÈcuritÈ Èlectrique, le mois national du vÈlo, et sans doute l'ÈvÈnement le plus emballant, la semaine nationale du commerce Èquitable.

printemps 2005, no. 29

Sun, 15 May 2005 00:00:00 -0400

Avec toutes nos excuses aux autocollants de voitures, nous pensons qu’il est maintenant temps de trouver une façon d’agir, de penser et de nous faire plaisir de façon locale, nationale et globale. 2005 est l’année qui vous permettra de prendre la voie (virtuellement à tout le moins).

printemps 2006, no. 33

Mon, 15 May 2006 00:00:00 -0400

Chaque année et depuis huit ans nous avons exercé notre droit inconditionnel de célébrer le mois de mai comme étant le Mois National de la Masturbation chez Venez tels quels. Nous avons fait des t-shirts, des autocollants, des concerts et des cabarets… Nous n’avons jamais eu peur de nous salir les mains pour le comportement sexuel le plus populaire de la planète.

printemps 2008, no. 42

Thu, 15 May 2008 00:00:00 -0400

Kate Bornstein est une auteure, une dramaturge et une interprète principalement connue pour son livre Gender Outlaws ainsi que le marquant et pratique Hello, Cruel World: 101 Alternatives to Suicide for Teens, Freaks, and Other Outlaws. Barbara Carrellas est auteure, éducatrice et co-fondatrice de “Erotic Awakening". Son livre le plus récent estUrban Tantra: Sacred Sex for the Twenty-First Century.

printemps 2009, no. 45

Fri, 15 May 2009 00:00:00 -0400

La St-Valentin en transforme plusieurs en rêveurs. Nous rêvons d’amour ou de luxure... ou des deux. Certains veulent que ça dure éternellement, d’autre que ça dure jusqu’à la fin de la nuit. Travailler dans une boutique érotique nous amène à parler des rêves romantiques et érotiques des gens, et lorsque nous le faisons, un thème demeure en cette période: la viabilité.

valentin 2004, no. 24

Thu, 15 Jan 2004 00:00:00 -0400

Quand on est en amour, on serait prêt à décrocher la lune pour l’autre. Il n’y a rien de plus satisfaisant que d’offrir des cadeaux et des paroles d’amour afin d’exprimer des sentiments si intenses que parfois aucun mot ne peut définir. La St. Valentin est l’occasion idéale pour explorer de nouveaux territoires en amour. Choisi attentivement, le cadeaux parfait peut dépasser toute déclaration et allumer l’étincelle d’un univers nouveau remplit d’aventures.

valentin 2005, no. 28

Sat, 15 Jan 2005 00:00:00 -0400

À l’occasion de cette Saint-Valentin, nous vous écrivons une LETTRE D’AMOUR virtuelle. Imaginez que vous tenez une belle lettre d’amour rose, parfumée (virtuellement, bien sûr, puisque nous faisons attention aux sensibilités olfactives!) avec de nombreux rubans rouges et brillants. Nous vous apprécions chaque jour de l’année, nous vous aimons beaucoup et nous ne le dirons jamais assez.

valentin 2006, no. 32

Sun, 15 Jan 2006 00:00:00 -0400

Oh David. Je ne dirais pas que je ne l’ai pas vue venir – j’ai commencé à me douter que quelque chose s’en venaient quand j’ai su que les vaporisateurs nasaux aux phéromones allaient être disponibles en pharmacie – mais David, je ne pensais pas que tu serais celui qui annoncerait la mort officielle de l’amour romantique! Je sais, tu ne l’as pas dit comme ça, en ces termes, puis je ne suis même pas sûre que tu aie déjà cru en l’amour romantique, mais cette nuit-là tu as regardé au fond de mes yeux, à travers l’écran de télé, et tu m’as dit de ta voix de ‘Mr. Sensitive Canada 2005’ que mon amour était un peu plus qu’une astuce de phéromones. J’ai le cœur brisé depuis.

valentin 2007, no. 36

Mon, 15 Jan 2007 00:00:00 -0400

L’amour est notre vie, littéralement. L’amour, c’est ce que nous faisons pour gagner notre vie ainsi que ce que nous faisons lorsque nous rentrons du travail. Comme nos biographies en-ligne peuvent en attester, voici 10 ans que nous luttons, partageons et créons l’amour à l’exclusion de pratiquement tout le reste! Incroyable mais vrai, notre groupe de trois travailleurs-propriétaire vient de passer au-delà de 30 ans à rendre l’amour possible.

valentin 2008, no. 41

Tue, 15 Jan 2008 00:00:00 -0400

Il y a beaucoup de choses à reprocher à la St-Valentin. La surconsommation, l’expression de l’amour par des choses dispendieuses et les chocolats cireux… Mais il demeure difficile de ne pas constater à quel point cette fête embrase nos cœurs et notre luxure avec une égale intensité.

valentin 2010, no. 48

Fri, 15 Jan 2010 00:00:00 -0400

Vous croiriez qu’avec une boutique remplie des vibrateurs les plus chauds et des meilleurs ensembles de DVD de la saison, nous voudrions vous vendre des présents des Fêtes. Mais nous ne sommes pas la boutique érotique du coin, ni la coop habituelle et nous faisons rarement les choses de façon traditionnelle. Nous allons plutôt vous parler de ce que nous croyons êtres nos plus grands atouts dans la compagnie: notre culture sexuelle et nos valeurs.

Caoutchouc

Tue, 23 Mar 2010 18:18:00 -0400

Les dildos les moins chers sont fait de caoutchouc simple. Ils sont géniaux pour expérimenter et peuvent être exactement ce que vous recherchez. Ils ont une odeur de bien spécifique que certains peuvent trouver déplaisante et sont assez poreux. Cependant, comme l'un des membres de notre personnel il est possible de s'acheter des accessoires de caoutchouc vraiment peu dispendieux et de leur donner la forme recherchée en les sculptant (Attention! Toujours utiliser un condom par-dessus, car ces dildos tendent à s'émietter petit à petit lorsqu'ils ont des coupures).

Choix du personnel

Wed, 22 Sep 2010 15:51:00 -0400

Choisir un jouet érotique est totalement subjectif. Nous croyons que les jouets érotiques que nous vendons sont extra, mais parfois, certains d'entre eux sont vraiment à couper le souffle de nos visiteurs, ainsi nous avons créé cette page pour souligner ces jouets.

Come As You Are Blog - Eye Weekly Fleshlight Love

Fri, 12 Mar 2010 00:00:00 -0400

Check out this week's Eye Weekly Magazine for an article about our beloved Fleshlight, with some input from Come As You Are worker-owner Cory!

Here's the link.

Come As You Are Blog - Scarily Hot - Horror Porn

Wed, 17 Mar 2010 00:00:00 -0400

I got asked to talk about horror porn the other day for the Showcase blog. It's always super fun to talk about interesting stuff like that. Unfortunately for me (because I like 'niche-y' porn), there isn't a super huge market for true "horror" porn, for a lot of our customers blood, gore and sex don't ultimately go together like pb&j. There is a bunch of it out there though, you can check out some of what we've got at the blog post here.

I guess I should brush up on what is going on in the non-xxx world, cause I have never heard of Woke Up Dead...huh, I guess now I know!

Why Is Bilingualism Important Workshop

Tue, 29 Sep 2009 00:00:00 -0400

I remember when I was learning ASL at the (somewhat ironically named) Canadian Hearing Society and the first class we learned how to sign woman, man, mother, father, sister, brother, and I knew I was in for some problems. I had a great teacher who was completely open to me asking about other signs for gender identities and sexual orientations, and was shocked when I tried to sign what I do for a living, but the fact is she didn't have the language. She didn't know signs for vibrator, queer, or kinky. Luckily she was comfortable enough to tell me that there were signs, and I'd just need to learn from the communities.

A few years back we started working with ORAD, the Ontario Rainbow Alliance of the Deaf on a few projects. It's been great, one of our joint events was actually one of my favourite events we've done in 12 years. It's made me want to keep going with my signing (I stalled at level 301).

And I was excited to get this invitation to this workshop put on by the ASL & Literacy Instructor Students at Geogre Brown. It's a free event and a great way to find out more about ASL and why you should learn it.

Here are the deets:

George Brown College
200 King St. E., St. James Campus
Adelaide building - SJC, Room 406
September 30, 2009, 6pm to 8pm

12 Days of Sex Toys - A Partridge in a Pear Tree

Thu, 24 Dec 2009 00:00:00 -0400

When you work in retail it’s impossible not to get every holiday song stuck in your head at least once. The 12 Days of Christmas is a particularly pernicious one, so we decided to stop fighting it and make it our own. If you’re thinking of doing a little sex toy shopping over Christmas or the holidays, and you’re not sure where to start, let the 12 Days of Sex Toys be your guide.

In some versions of this classic song, the last day is also for “true love”. Our suggestion for today isn’t something you buy at all. It’s just that you spend some time today, and hopefully over the rest of the holidays, doing something to take care of yourself and give yourself a little bit of pleasure, however you define it. The holidays aren’t always a time we remember to take care of ourselves, but taking time out of your day to show yourself a little love and pleasure can go a long way toward making the holiday season more manageable.

Happy holidays from all of us at Come As You Are!

12 Days of Sex Toys - Eight Maids A-milking

Thu, 17 Dec 2009 00:00:00 -0400

We weren’t the ones to come up with the term “prostate milking”, but we couldn’t pass up a double entendre like this one. Forget about the g-spot analogies, the prostate is a unique pleasure centre for many men, and these prostate massagers were built for the job, and built to last.
Prostate Massagers

12 Days of Sex Toys - Five Golden Rings

Sun, 20 Dec 2009 00:00:00 -0400

This one’s almost too easy. We’re not sure you need five golden cock rings (unless you have five fellas on your shopping list) but rings can offer men a completely unique way of experiencing sex and rediscovering their genitals. Ring in the holidays right.

Penis Rings

12 Days of Sex Toys - Four Calling Birds

Mon, 21 Dec 2009 00:00:00 -0400

We couldn’t decide which Calling All Angels song to reference here (Train, Lenny, or a little CanCon Jane Siberry?), but the point is that these calling birds are clearly calling out for one angel in particular, the Earth Angel. And why not, it’s a vibrator that cares as much about the planet as it does about your pleasure. Birds love it, we think you will too.

Earth Angel

12 Days of Sex Toys - Seven Swans A-swimming

Fri, 18 Dec 2009 00:00:00 -0400

If we had to choose the single greatest, yet possibly the simplest, innovation in sex toys over the past twenty years, we’d have to choose the waterproofing of vibrators. Waterproof sex toys are always a better choice, they’re easier to clean, more difficult to break, and you can use them in the snow!

Waterproof Sex Toys

12 Days of Sex Toys - Six Geese A-laying

Sat, 19 Dec 2009 00:00:00 -0400

All these geese getting laid got us thinking--if your goal is specifically to get laid, as opposed to just feeling sexual pleasure or getting turned on--what would we recommend? Since getting laid to us means sex with at least one other person, we’d have to go with our library of books written for two or more people. There’s no guarantee they’ll get you there, but if you get yourself there, they’ll help with what to do next!
Sex Books for Two or More

12 Days of Sex Toys - Twelve Drummers Drumming

Sun, 13 Dec 2009 00:00:00 -0400

Nothing keeps those cheeks rosy in the winter like a little playful percussive love (aka flogging, spanking, caning, whipping). Check out our selection of pleasure implements that will help you set the rhythm of your passion all year long.

Floggers, Paddles, and Crops

12 Days of Sex Toys - Two Turtle Doves

Wed, 23 Dec 2009 00:00:00 -0400

Migrate away from heteronormativity (because turtle doves migrate…get it?) and surprise the man in your life with a turning of the tables. Also known as Bend Over Boyfriend or pegging, more and more straight-identified guys are discovering the pleasures of being penetrated by their female partners. Let your fears fly away and glide into this comfy harness and dildo set designed just for this kind of play.

Bend Over Beginner Kit

12 Days of Sex Toys -Three French Hens

Tue, 22 Dec 2009 00:00:00 -0400

Domesticated or not, we know how French hens love their independent cinema, and we know if they could watch porn, they’d be clucking their way through the ever growing genre of alt and indie porn. Satisfy your craving for something different...

Alternative and Indie Porn

12 Days of Sex Toys: Eleven Pipers Piping

Mon, 14 Dec 2009 00:00:00 -0400

With all the erecting activity our products inspire, sometimes we feel like we should be wearing hard hats to work. We don't have one favourite way to our lover's pipes a-piping, but we want to single out the impressive number of educational books and videos that offer oral sex tips, guaranteed to arouse and engorge genitals of all styles.
Oral Sex DVDs and Oral Sex Books

12 Days of Sex Toys: Nine Ladies Dancing

Wed, 16 Dec 2009 00:00:00 -0400

Dance to the beat of your own choosing with OhMiBod’s innovative vibrators, powered by music. Their newest toy, the Freestyle, is the first wireless music massager, dance, and orgasm cord-free at home, at the clubs, or, if you want to live dangerously, at your office holiday party.

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12 Days of Sex Toys: Ten Lords A-leaping

Tue, 15 Dec 2009 00:00:00 -0400

Our anal sex toys are exciting enough to inspire a hop, skip, and maybe jump. But add a little vibration your favourite butt plug, prostate massager, or dildo, and we promise your lord will be a-leaping with delight.
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3rd Annual Toronto Erotic Arts & Crafts Fair

Tue, 11 Nov 2008 00:00:00 -0400

Looking for an excuse to take your arts and craftiness in a sexy direction? Searching for the perfect place to sell your handmade erotic wares just before Valentine's Day? Each year for the past two years the Erotic Arts and Crafts Fair has attracted over 500 attendees to oogle (and buy) the work of over 20 vendors at the Gladstone Hotel.For more details and on-line vendor submission forms visit: www.eroticartsandcrafts.com Submission deadline: Tuesday December 9, 2008 Where: Gladstone Hotel 1214 Queen Street West(location is wheelchair accessible) When: Saturday February 14, 2009 Time: 12 - 8pm

7th Annual Regent Park Film Festival

Thu, 15 Oct 2009 00:00:00 -0400

There are thousands of reasons why I love living in Toronto. Here's one of them.

The Regent Park Film Festival is a community organized and run festival that focuses on films relevant to, by, and about new immigrants and new immigrant expeirences. Not only is the entire festival free of charge, but they offer free childcare. In other words, even though lots of people in Toronto are money grubbing, cold, and generally unhelpful, we've got even more people who are willing to put their time, money, and heart where their mouths are. From their release:

7th Annual Regent Park Film Festival
REEL IMAGES. REAL COMMUNITIES.

All screenings are free of charge and take place at Nelson Mandela Park Public School, 440 Shuter St.
Complimentary childcare is provided.

OPENING NIGHT: COMMUNITY STORIES YOUTH MEDIA ARTS PROGRAM
Wednesday November 4th @ 6pm
Join us for Regent Park's 7th annual film festival opening night, featuring films on hope, identity, and
immigration. Our young filmmakers come from various parts of Canada & the United States, including Regent Park. Their films reveal the challenges they confront as young filmmakers, and challenge viewers as well to experience these exciting new filmmakers diverse urban stories. New this year will be a talk back panel discussion, with filmmakers in attendance moderated by Fathima Fahmy of the Festival's Programming Committee.

CLOSING DAY HIGHLIGHTS
FAMILY PROGRAM, Sat. Nov. 7th @ 10 am
Back by popular demand, this yearís Family Program features films co-produced by Regent Park Film Festival and Upper Canada College through the Horizons Summer School Program for academically talented, inner city students grades 7-9. We are presenting films made this past summer, by 43 youth from Regent Park as well as films made for kids from around the world.
A pancake breakfast and childcare are included in the price of admission ñ Free!! Please come and join us.

DISPLACEMENT PROGRAM, Sat. Nov. 7th @ 1pm.
This program is an opportunity for residents living in Regent Park and Torontonians to discuss the impact of
redevelopment. This year, discussions will focus on displacement in Canada and China and what displacement means, when it's in your own land. Building 173 by Charlotte Mikkelborg and Pelqílic (Coming Home) by Celia Haig-Brown & Helen Haig-Brown will be shown followed by a presentation by the Toronto Council Fire Native Cultural Centre
Panel discussion to follow with guest filmmaker, Celia Haig Brown, Andrea Chrisjohn and Regent Park residents.

CLOSING NIGHT CEREMONY, Sat. Nov. 7th @ 7:30pm
We are honoured to screen Alwyn by Alwyn Barry, an extraordinary young Guyanese-Canadian filmmaker from Jane and Finch, who documented his battle with colon cancer and award winning and Oscar-nominated Hubert Davis brings us Invisible City, a moving story of two boys from Regent Park crossing into adulthood.

Please RSVP your attendance by October 21st @ 5pm with Richard Fung at rpffoutreach@gmail.com or 416.599.7733

Regent Park Film Festival Official Website

A "Smear" Campaign Against Cervical Cancer

Fri, 16 Oct 2009 00:00:00 -0400

This is great. The Bay Centre for Birth Control is offering services during Cervical Cancer Awareness Week to make it much easier to get a pap smear, a procedure that detects signs of cervical cancer, a preventable disease.

See below for the hours. You can just drop in; you don't need an appointment or a health card. Just a cervix and a willingness to do something good for yourself. Check out the hours and location deets below.

We're a bit torn on the "queer focused" hours. In some ways it might be a simplification, but it really depends on how the services get offered. The idea of going to a space that we know is queer friendly is a major plus. But public health being what it is, it's hard not to imagine that they're idea of "queer" may be just as narrow as their idea of "straight", which could still mean we feel like we have to explain or defend. So much will depend on whether they think diversity means making more boxes for us to fit in, or throwing out the box model altogether. Which is not to say they should ignore our boxes. After all, that's why were going.

BAY CENTRE FOR BIRTH CONTROL, 790 Bay St., 8th Floor, Toronto Tel: (416) 351-3700

Queer Focused Hours:
Tuesday October 27th - Thursday October 29th, 4 - 7pm
Saturday October 31st, 9am - 12pm

All Hours:
Monday October 26th, 10am ñ 4pm
Tuesday October 27th - Thursday October 29th, 10am-7pm
Friday October 30th, 10am-4pm
Saturday October 31st, 9am-12pm.

A Call for Authentic Porn Perversions

Wed, 10 Dec 2008 00:00:00 -0400

We're the kind of sex shop that likes the word perversion. We know it has negative connotations, but just like the word "queer", perversion and perverted are ones we love and want to reclaim. The fact is that the sexual desires we don't share with others, the ones that we're told are outside of the norm, are rarely simple or clean. Sometimes we clean them up when company comes over, but most of the time their rough around the edges, or blurry for lack of careful exploration. And we think the word perversion does that phenomenological experience justice.That said, we do take exception when money grubbing porn companies come along and try to trade on our perversions without delivering the real goods. Based on the cataolgue image alone, we bet this is the case with Babes Ballin' Boys in Diapers. We've carried some of the BBB series, but this new line is, we expect, more about shock than it is about representing the experience of adult babies. I mean just look at how those diapers are hanging around their ankles. That's just not right.Don't expect to see BBB the diaps edition on our site, but if you're looking for a little BBB action, our video buyer recommends Strap Attack or Who's the Bitch Now.

A Little Self Love

Wed, 19 Nov 2008 00:00:00 -0400

We try not to make this blog be just about tooting our own horn (after all if everyone used blogs for that who would buy our sex toys).But now and then we can't resist. Read on to learn everything you'd want to know about our newest worker-owner, and try to guess why our wheelchair accessible washroom is her favourite place to hang out.

About.com Review of Better Than Chocolate

Fri, 23 Oct 2009 00:00:00 -0400

Our own sex toy nerd boy Cory Silverberg has reviewed Better Than Chocolate for his other, less democratic and personally meaningful, job at About.com.

Obviously we're biased since we like Cory and we love Better Than Chocolate (or the other way around) but we tip our hats to anyone who can incorporate both the words "onomatopoeia" and "harbinger" in a review for a clitoral vibrator.

Check out Cory's review

Check out Better Than Chocolate

Adult DVD sale

Mon, 21 Sep 2009 00:00:00 -0400

Right now through the end of September, Come As You Are is offering a Buy 2, Get 1 Free deal on all DVDs. This offer is available both online and in-store.

After Hours

Mon, 28 Sep 2009 00:00:00 -0400

Sex toys have tons of fun uses, and when you're around them all day every day, sometimes you can't help but look at them in an unsexy, silly, funny way. Don't get me wrong; we all think sex toys are hot. But,when the store is closed and nobody's around, the staff have a little nerdy fun and take some pics of alternate uses of some of our toy samples.

Amazon Sex Book Find: Definitely Not Kosher

Wed, 17 Feb 2010 00:00:00 -0400

Sometimes when I'm avoiding other work I troll Amazon for sex books in pre-publication. I'm always amazed that they have books listed that aren't due to be published for another eight months, or more, but they're already shilling the next "how to blow his mind" edition in hardcover, paperback, and Kindle editions.

That's what I was doing when I stumbled across the book you see on the right; De Lust van Het Zwijn. Variously translated as The Desire of the Swine, The Lust of the Pig, and The Desire of the Hog depending on which free translation website you visit, the book is apparently the story of a man addicted to sex. Whether the man is represented by a pig on the cover, or this is in fact a scene played out for his twisted gratification, what I mostly want to know is did the author get permissions from either the woman or the swine before photoshopping them together.

Anonymous Sex Confessions

Wed, 16 Sep 2009 00:00:00 -0400

At tiff this year, Come As You Are sponsored the after-party at Rolly's Garage on Ossington for Year of the Carnivore (as you may have read on previous blog entries). At the party, we had a table with fun free stuff and a Sex Confessions box, where people could anonymously jot down their deepest, darkest secrets.

Aunt Peg's Soup

Tue, 27 Oct 2009 00:00:00 -0400

I have no idea how I stumbled upon this recipe, as I don’t typically look at such things online, but it struck me absolutely funny that this “rich and creamy vegetable soup that is delicious with warm French bread” seems to a favourite of one of our favourites, Aunt Peg. Obviously I’m sure they’re not related, but I wish the ‘real’ Peg knew that she shared a name with Juliet Anderson’s beloved porn character of the late 70’s and 80’s.

be part of a g spot documentary!

Thu, 26 Nov 2009 00:00:00 -0400

Want to be part of some history in the making? Zadig Productions of France will be in town on Sunday, December 6^th to film a segment of their documentary “In Search of the G spot” right here at Come As You Are. Female ejaculation and the g spot master-workshop-facilitator Shannon Bell will be hosting the workshop, and the content will be very similar to the workshop that she hosts a few times a year here for us, but this time, it’s free.

Here’s the quick run-down of what’s happening in the workshop:

Returning with her popular seminar, Shannon Bell will discuss female ejaculation from a historical perspective, followed by an overview of anatomy and technique, plus a demonstration. Learn about female ejaculation, see the real live clitoris (g-spot), and discover new techniques.

The catch: you will be/might be on camera. For some, I’m sure that this isn’t a big deal at all, and even something that might be all the more appealing. It’s an opportunity to be part of an awesome doc in the making. To register, please email sarah@comeasyouare.com.

Become a Sex Toy Reviewer and Win!

Wed, 13 Jan 2010 00:00:00 -0400

No one can tell you what sex toy you’re going to love, what erotica collection will turn your pages, or what porn title will spin your disc. It’s why our number one tip for first time sex toy shoppers is start cheap and versatile. But that doesn’t mean we can’t learn from others experiences, and we’re consistently told by customers that they use other customer reviews to make decisions about what to buy.

Whether that’s a good move or not, we’re happy to help, and we want to encourage you to do the same. Which is why we’re offering a weekly draw for great prizes, available only to people who take a few minutes to add their review to our site.

Here’s how it works.

1. First, you need to create an account for yourself on comeasyouare.com. That part is easy, just click “register” in the top right corner of the site and follow the instructions.

2. Next, make sure you’re logged on (you know you’re logged on because you’ll see your user name in the top right corner).

3. Now you’re ready to review. Just navigate to a toy, book, or DVD you’ve used, read, or watched, click the “more” button to get to the product page, and enter your review.

Every review gets you a chance to win. There’s no limit to the number of products you can review, and the more you review, the greater your chances are of winning the weekly draw.

Start reviewing!

Best Marketing Strategy!

Mon, 26 Oct 2009 00:00:00 -0400

In the last week or two, we’ve received a couple plain white envelopes with no return addresses – postmarked Midway, BC – with perhaps the best contents that we’ve seen lately. It seems that this company/website has decided that the best and most-eye catching way to promote their product is to hand-write the information that they want to get across on ripped-out pages of girlie porno mags. Even better is the fact that they chose the person with the clearest, neatest handwriting to get their message across.

You won’t find any Texas college co-eds on our site (much to my personal chagrin), but you definitely will at www.producerslounge.com.

If you can’t read the print, here’s what I’m interpreting it to be:

Lady #1:

Dearest fellow XXXERaumew! Have is yaww personal invite to cechaut my site at: WWW.PRODUCERSLOUNGE.COM

Dleawe on good otemd ms ON WEBOFTRUST.COM!

(caya note: this domain name is currently for sale!)

Lady #2:

Dearest XXX R’s awneu of a business.

This is aww imvite 8au yaw to checkout aww websitee at:

WWW.PRODUCERSLOUNGE.COM

Hope you enjoy these. I’m a stickler for spelling and grammar, and I wasn’t trying to be funny by trying to type out each message letter-for-letter, but it really wasn’t even a stretch. I could not make out half of the words printed on it! I get it that they want me to check out their site. And they did a fantastic job of getting me to actually check it out. Two thumbs up in a not-completely sarcastic way!

Call for Artists & Crafters: 4th Annual Toronto Erotic Arts & Crafts Fair

Wed, 25 Nov 2009 00:00:00 -0400

4th Annual Toronto Erotic Arts & Crafts Fair

Looking for an excuse to take your arts and craftiness in a sexy direction? Searching for the perfect place to sell your handmade erotic wares just before Valentine’s Day?

Last year's Erotic Arts and Crafts Fair attracted over 1300 attendees to ogle (and buy) the work of over 20 vendors at the Gladstone Hotel.

For more details and on line vendor submission forms visit: www.eroticartsandcrafts.com
Submission deadline: January 3, 2009

More about the Fair:
The Erotic Arts and Crafts Fair is a one-of-a-kind fair that will bring together artists and crafters just in time for Valentine's Day. Knitters, crafters, zinesters, card makers, and artists of all types will be creating erotic objects for this one day celebration of DIY sex and romantic culture.

Where: Gladstone Hotel (location is wheelchair accessible)
When: Saturday February 13, 2010 12-8pm

Call for Papers

Fri, 18 Sep 2009 00:00:00 -0400

HEADCASE: Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, And Queer (LGBTQ) Writers and Artists on Mental Illness

Edited by Teresa Theophano, LMSW

Headcase will be an anthology comprised of 15-20 nonfiction pieces by writers and artists both established and new, exploring the theme of mental health, mental illness, and mental health care in the lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and queer or questioning (LGBTQ) community. The book is currently being considered for publication by a major queer press.

Call for Proposals 32nd Annual Guelph Sexuality Conference

Wed, 02 Dec 2009 00:00:00 -0400

The Guelph Sexuality Conference is the longest running and largest sexual health conference in Canada. The call for next years conference is out, the theme is "Communication and Sexual Health: More than Words".

For the past three years Come As You Are has been proud to sponsor the conference and we're planning on being back again this year. If you work in sexual health check out the call and think about submitting a proposal. And don't forget to mark your calendar for June 21-23, 2010.

Guelph Sexuality Conference Request for Proposals

Call Out for Models for a Pap Campaign for Trans Men

Thu, 22 Oct 2009 00:00:00 -0400

Forwarded from our friends at the Trans Men's Pap Campaign:

Call Out for Models for a Pap Campaign for Trans Men

Many of us have been told that we don’t need Pap tests, or we avoid them because of discomfort and discrimination. In fact, we all need and have a right to Pap tests, which lower our risk of cervical cancer, a disease that can be largely prevented by getting regular Pap tests.

We want to let trans men know that we DO need Pap tests, and that there are ways to make getting them easier. We have a right to protect ourselves and each other and we deserve to get Pap tests in a way that honours and respects our needs, our identities and our sexual practices. We need your help in getting this message out there to communities of trans men and healthcare providers in Toronto and across Ontario.

Who are we?

The Trans Men’s Pap Campaign is a project of Sherbourne Health Centre, guided by a Reference Group made up of trans men and allies who work as health care providers and advocates for our communities.

The Call Out:

The Campaign is looking for models for a campaign that we are developing for trans men to raise awareness about Pap tests. The campaign will be launched in December 2009.

Photos will be used on printed materials, like posters and postcards that will be used at community events throughout the year and beyond, and will also appear on the campaign website. Campaign materials and images will also be distributed throughout the province of Ontario.

Model Requirements:

We need approximately 8 trans men to make this campaign rock by modeling for the photos we’ll use in our materials. We would also like to include some images of trans men with their partners (of any gender), so if there is someone in your life who would like to model with you please send their name and photo as well.

We’re looking for a diverse group of guys, in terms of identity, gender presentation, sexual orientation, stage of transition, age, body size, dis/ability, race, and ethnicity.

Poses require that your face, or part of your face, and your body be shown. You will be fully dressed, in clothing of your choice.

Photographs will be taken in a comfortable environment with a professional photographer who will make sure you feel relaxed and have a good time.

When:

The photo shoot will take place in downtown Toronto in a wheelchair accessible location in November 2009. The photo sessions will last approximately 2 hours. A $50 honorarium will be provided. Only people selected to model for the campaign will be contacted.

Please send a headshot and/or full body shot and a paragraph (with contact info) describing your interest, and general availability no later than 5pm on Thursday November 5, 2009 to: tmen.pap@gmail.com.

Discretion and confidentiality of submitted material is assured.

Call-Out for Trans Conference in Peterborough, Ontario

Tue, 12 Jan 2010 00:00:00 -0400

Call-Out for Trans Conference

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Bodies of Dissent: Transform
March 12-14th, Peterborough, ON

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Transmission, the organizers of last year’s Bodies of Dissent: TransAccess conference, invite trans and gender variant communities, individuals and allies to submit proposals for workshops and presentations of various forms for the upcoming Trans conference.

Bodies of Dissent: TransForm will be focused on developing strategies and networks to change individuals, communities, organizations and systems. We are issuing a call to action to unite to build communities of empowerment and change.

Please send a proposal outlining the nature of your workshop, presentation or creative project specifying the topic or focus, as well as any materials and/or accommodations required. Workshops, presentation, films and creative projects will be happening during March 12th and 13th, accompanied by performances in the evenings. Interested performers are also encouraged to contact us.

E-mail bodiesofdissent@gmail.com with Proposals, Ideas, Questions

** Proposals are due Monday, January 18th **

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Transmission Peterborough is dedicated to creating and maintaining a positive Trans presence in the Peterborough community by creating safe and accessible space for Trans and gender-variant people through education and awareness initiatives. With increased visibility, we hope to create a more Trans-friendly environment so that Trans and gender-variant people can have a dignified experience.

Canadian Citizenship Minister Edits Gay Rights Out of Guide

Wed, 03 Mar 2010 00:00:00 -0400

A press release from the NDP Communications office is calling out Minister of Citizenship and Immigration Jason Kenney who apparently requested that references to gay history and gay rights be removed from the latest edition of the Candian Citizenship study guide. New Democratic Critic for Citizenship and Immigration Olivia Chow is quoted in a prepared release:

"Instead of proudly showcasing what makes us Canadian, Harper's Conservatives have shamefully chosen to delete equal rights, including marriage, for gays and lesbians from our history...Minister Kenney should immediately apologise and restore to the guide the part of Canadian history that celebrates our spirit of tolerance and freedom."

The version of the guide that is online now contains only one reference to gay rights, text underneath a picture of Mark Tewksbury which reads "Olympic gold medallist and prominent activist for gay and lesbian Canadians."

If it's true that Minister Kenney is trying to remove references to gay rights from a document intended for people considering living in Canada it may fit with his politics, but it's not going to serve his government in the end. Failing to present Canada as it is to potential newcomers isn't going to change the make up of Canada, all it's going to do is result in confused and possibly unhappy new Canadians who were less prepared for the society and culture they now find themselves in. I hate to use a business metaphor (I know we lost this fight to neoliberals a long time ago, but I still wish we didn't treat the government like a business) but it's like dishonest advertising. If you're thinking about Canadian citizenship you should know our history of gay, lesbian, and queer rights activism. Needless to say it's something we think we should be proud of.

Read more NDP.ca: Don't write gay community out of Canadian history

CAYA does Venus in Berlin

Sun, 18 Oct 2009 00:00:00 -0400

For the first year, Come As You Are attended the Venus sex trade show in Berlin, Germany. In fact, it is only in our recent history that we've attended trade shows at all. When we first opened in 1997 it was pretty inconceivable that we'd have a travel budget for trade shows out of province, let alone on another continent. Since then, we've been able to send gill and Holly to shows in LA, Las Vegas and now Berlin!

The Venus show is both a consumer show and a business-to-business trade show. This means that some parts of the show are visitable by anyone, and there are other areas reserved for industry 'professionals'. The Venus show is in its 13th year, and I've been warned by other folks in the 'industry' that it is incredibly wild in comparison to North American trade shows, and I really didn't know what to expect.

My first pleasant surprise was actually in my hotel minibar where I discovered a pickle-in-a-can with self-contained pickle spear. Brilliant.

Once I arrived at the show, I noticed two big differences between the shows I've attended at North American venues and the Venus show in Berlin.

Similar to the Everything To Do With Sex Show in Toronto and other cities, there is a combination of sex retail (sex toys, dvds, books, etc) and stages set up for live sexy shows. In Toronto, these tend to be pretty softcore - lingerie shows, sexy dancing, etc. In Berlin at Venus, the stage shows were full-on stripping and on the consumer floor, web-companies had smaller stages with full-nudity, lots of sex toys, and super explicit action. Comparitively, Toronto is a tease.

On the trade side, Venus was also very different from the shows I've been to in the U.S. Visiting the booths of sex toy makers at Venus often felt like I was peeking into the future of sex toys. I saw so many sexy and innovative toys - some about to be released, some a year away from production still - from so many interesting and independent sex toy makers. In the U.S. when I visit booths from some of the big, old, mainstream sex toy manufacturers, I feel like I'm looking into the past of sex toys.

There are awesome toys (books and dvds!) coming out of North America - they just tend to be from the smaller or independent sex toy inventors. In fact, perhaps the biggest difference was the number of independent manufacturers from all over the world presenting at Venus.

Celebrating International Women's Day with a Little Old Fashioned Male Chauvinism

Tue, 09 Mar 2010 00:00:00 -0400

Yesterday, as we rang in another International Women's Day, one of our staff members stumbled upon (or, ran into head-on) this ad on the front of the Metro daily newspaper. If anyone needs a reminder of why we still celebrate the fight for gender equality the ad is a good place to start.

The Docker's khaki pants ad (yes, khakis of all things) attempts to evoke some sort of nostalgic reminiscing of those 'lost days' when patriarchy ruled supreme –“men took charge because that's what they did". According to Dockers, the threat to their glorious rule is not women (though now women are stuck with the chief challenge of opening their own doors), but rather androgyny, non-fat lattes and salad. Who knew a healthy diet had such influence?!

The problem, as they see it, with this "genderless society" (a feat I myself thought we were an awfully long way from accomplishing), is that "the world sits idly by as cities crumble". Why is it that I don't think the advertisers are referencing Port-au-Prince or Concepcion? Yet, what seems like propaganda intended to make young men join the army is instead a call to khakis. Soft, light pants that stain if you get them dirty. This makes me smile and recall ... the rising of the woman is the rising of us all!

Happy (belated) International Women's Day!
(First image - Cover page of newspaper taken out as ad space. Second image - Inside front cover full-page ad and original front cover. Third image - text from "man shaped" ad)

Celebrity Lezbian Fists

Mon, 01 Feb 2010 00:00:00 -0400

Celebrity Lezbian Fist is a limited edition series of silicone fists cast from the actual hands of famed and favourite queer cultural icons. The series includes fists by Harmony Hammond, GB Jones, Eileen Myles, Cheryl Dunye, Cathy Opie, Jack Halberstam, and Savoy Kapow Howe. Inspired by the infamous cock-castings by rock groupie Cynthia Plaster Caster, the fists come in a range of punchy colours personally selected by each participant. Each "model" was made in a limited edition of 25. These celebrity fists are mostly art, but are made of 100% silicone and are use-able. Made with love in Canada by Happy Valley and Paige Gratland.

Special thanks to the celebrities behind the fists for the bios below!

Harmony Hammond

Harmony Hammond is an artist, art writer and independent curator who lives and works in Galisteo, New Mexico. Considered a pioneer of the feminist art movement, she lectures, writes and publishes extensively on feminist art, lesbian art, and the cultural representation of difference.

Hammond's work is in the permanent collections of many museums including the Metropolitan Museum of Art, NYC; the Museum of Modern Art, NYC; the Walker Art Center, Mpls., MN; the Brooklyn Museum; the National Museum of Women in the Arts, Washington, DC; the Art Institute of Chicago; the Phoenix Art Museum; the New Mexico Museum of Fine Arts, Santa FE, NM; and the Wadsworth Atheneum, Hartford, CN.

Her book Wrappings: Essays on Feminism, Art & the Martial Arts (TSL Press,1984), a classic on 70s feminist art, is out-of-print. Her ground-breaking book Lesbian Art in America: A Contemporary History (Rizzoli, 2000) received a Lambda Literary Award.

GB Jones

G.B. Jones is an openly queer, self-made in the punk rock tradition, artist, film maker, rock musician, writer and publisher of zines. The writer Kevin Killian asked, "If we call G.B. Jones the 'female Tom of Finland,' what doe' that say about the American fantasy of unlimited sex, power, and class privilege both artists satirize and pull apart?"

G.B. Jones has an uneasy fascination with authority and uses her gender and sexual preference to exploit fantasies of rock & roll, sex, groupies, booze, drugs, money, leather, torn jeans,motorcycles and stardom as an all out assault against values that would strive for assimilation of queer culture into the mainstream. She's every queer girl and boy's hero, whether you want her to be or not. Believe it or don't, she is looking out for every queer's best interests.

Eileen Myles

Eileen Myles was born in Boston in 1949, attended catholic schools in Arlington, Mass. and graduated from UMass (Boston) in 1971. She came to New York in 1974 to be a poet. Since then she's become widely known in writing circles, art circles, queer circles and beyond as one of the most restless interpreters of the American vernacular, moving fluidly from the poetry to writing novels, essays and plays, art reviews, performances and libretti, and perhaps most notably as someone with an uncanny knack as John Ashbery put it, for making people feel uncomfortable and awake=85chanting softlyand beautifully the harsh if humorous realities that combine to make whatever life a poet can piece together today.

Eileen will be touring the Iceland book widely in this fall in North America, Iceland and Europe. She's toured with Sister Spit in 1997 and in 2007 and looks forward to more. She is a Professor Emeritus of writing & Literature at UC San Diego where she taught from 2002 to 2007. In Spring 2010 she will be the Hugo Writer at U. of Montana in Missoula. She contributes to a wide number of publications including Parkett, The Believer, Vice, Cabinet, The Nation, Art Forum, TimeOut, Book Forum and Another Magazine. She received an Andy Warhol/Creative Capital art writers' grant for Iceland. She will be blogging bi-weekly on the Harriet site for the Poetry Foundation till the end of September. She lives in New York.

Cheryl Dunye

Cheryl Dunye is a director, screenwriter, and filmmaker whose work explores issues of race, class, gender, and sexual orientation.

Her work is characteristically postmodern in the self-referential disclosing of Dunye's role as both actor and director. Combining intensely personal accounts with humor, Dunye's films and videos are engaging and provocative, revealing the complexities and struggles she has faced, as well as her happiness and pride, in being an African-American lesbian.

Cheryl Dunye, who graduated with an MFA from Rutgers University, has been a video art practitioner for well over a decade, making such pieces as She Don't Fade, Vanilla Sex, The Potluck and the Passion, and Greetings from Africa.

Cathy Opie

Catherine Opie was born in 1961 in Ohio. She received her MFA from CalArts in 1988. Her solo exhibitions include LA Freeways (San Francisco) and Being and Having (New York). Her work has appeared in group exhibitions from Pari' to Australia to New Orleans, including the 1995 Whitney Museum Biennial in New York and In a Different Light at the University Art Museum in Berkeley in 1995. She lives in Los Angeles and is on the staff of the University of California, Irvine.

In the late eighties to mid-nineties Opie gained national attention for her large format portraits of dyke daddies, gay male performance transvestites, FTM transexuals, tattooed and scarified gay men and lesbians and other members of a social milieu where sexual identity is most dramatically thrown into question. In a non-confrontational manner, Opie's places her subjects clearly and calmly in the center of focus. Her subjects appear to reverse the gaze--outwardly toward the viewer.

Jack Halberstam

Judith Jack Halberstam is Professor of English and Director of The Center for Feminist Research at USC. Halberstam teaches courses in queer studies, gender theory, art, literature and film.

Halberstam is the author of Female Masculinity, The Drag King Book, Skin Shows: Gothic Horror and the Technology of Monsters and a new book from NYU Press titled In a Queer Time and Place: Transgender Bodies, Subcultural Lives.es, gender theory, art, literature and film.

Savoy Howe

Savoy Howe founded the Toronto Newsgirls Boxing Club in 1996.

Savoy started boxing at the Toronto Newsboys Boxing Club at Broadview and Eastern in 1992. At that time there were few females in the boxing gym. After training for a year Savoy participated in the first sanctioned bout for women organized by Toronto in 1993. Wearing the Toronto Newsboys t-shirt in competition, Savoy decided that one day she would fight wearing a Toronto Newsgirls t-shirt.

In 1996 when the Toronto Newsboys moved to the corner of Queen and Greenwood and became the Unitas Boxing Club, named after the Newsboys founder, Tony Unitas, Savoy started teaching as a way of supplementing income so she could keep training. She put up posters weekly to advertise the women=EF=BF?s boxing program and within a short time 40 women signed up. Thus began the Toronto Newsgirls Boxing Club.

Savoy Kapow! Howe has been honoured with the individual/community award for accomplishments in the calendar years 2005 and 2006. Three individuals and three organizations will be honoured. These awards recognize exceptional achievements that break through traditional barriers and pave the way for girls and women to participate in sports and physical activity at every level.

Savoy has also been honoured with an award from Pride Toronto recognizing outstanding contributions that have made an extraordinary impact on the quality of human experience within the queer community over the last year.

Cheaters Never Prosper?

Tue, 15 Dec 2009 00:00:00 -0400

Our local conservative rag the Toronto Sun has been having a field day with the ~~major press release~~ minor story about cheaters website Ashley Madison getting their ads rejected by the Toronto public transit service, the TTC. If you haven't heard about, I'd recommend the saliva-free version from the CBC.

Since anyone who deals with advertising knows that the TTC is one of the most conservative ad vendors it’s clear that this was a stunt from the beginning to get the website free publicity for being publicly censored. So if you believe that success is measured in dollars and uncritical eyeballs then you’d have to say bravo to the ad agency who came up with the idea.

But if your standards for living a decent, thoughtful or dare I say ethical life are a little bit more substantial the whole thing is just sad and it also seems counter intuitive to a long run business strategy.

Why is it sad? It’s sad because this site isn’t actually about helping people explore healthy sexual or relational experiences. It’s about “infidelity” and cheating, which by definition involve deception and lies. The ad that they claim they wanted to run read “Life is short…have an affair”. But since the affair they are referencing explicitly includes lying about it, the ad should just read “Life is short…lie to someone”. And why anyone would want to defend someone’s right to lie in a situation where telling the truth poses no observable danger, I can’t imagine.

In their publicity materials and interviews the website does a great job of using neo-liberal ideology to suggest that cheating is a kind of personal empowerment that only “the man” would want to take away from you. They position themselves as social radicals. What they really are are financial opportunists.

I hope it goes without saying that being a member of a sex store worker co-op means that I have no problem with sex. I’m all for people having any kind of consensual sex they want. I’m also not particularly judgmental of individuals who find themselves deceiving people they love. I’ve done it (although not about sex) and I think most of us do it at some point in our lives. But doing it or not judging those who do it is not the same thing as encouraging people to do it, and glamorizing it. It’s also not the same thing as equating cheating with “non family values”. If you know anything about the real lives of families you know that cheating is often there in the mix. It may not be ideal, but the construction of a perfect family is no more helpful than the construction of an empowered sexuality that is based on lies and deception.

As for the business plan, the website in question is privately owned so there’s no way of knowing how successful they are or how desperate they are. Compare their Alexa stats to other dating websites and they don’t look so hot. And I’m not sure that their efforts to get mainstream media attention are the way to go. You’d think the cheating business would be one that trades in discretion. I know that if I wanted to have sex with a stranger and I was in a monogamous relationship I wouldn’t go to the cheating website I know that myself, my partner, all my neighbors, and my entire office, just heard about on the radio. I’d probably look for more of a boutique cheating website (one that wasn’t featured on The View and Ellen, one that wasn’t collecting all my personal information and selling it to market researchers). Is this a business that benefits in the long run from that kind of publicity?

Of course how interested in long term growth could a company whose services are almost guaranteed to make their customers unhappy in the long run, really be?

Choice Porn Title of the Week - Dec 11, 2009

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Choice Porn Title of the Week - Dec 4, 2009

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Choice Porn Title of the Week - jan 15

Fri, 15 Jan 2010 00:00:00 -0400

Halloweiner: Friday the Fuckteenth. It might be a little bit off-season, but I found this gem around October of last year, and I think that it was just something about the title that I found appealed to my weird sense of humour. I mean, even parody porn titles and funny porn have titles that can still be in the least bit sexy (ok, so not in every case, but whatever). I guess they’re trying to play into the “fuck-teen” element. But Halloweiner just gets me every time. Brilliant.

choice porn title of the week - jan 22

Fri, 22 Jan 2010 00:00:00 -0400

I Was Tight Yesterday might be a familiar series to those in the porn world, but…volume 7 has taken it that much further with adding this to the front box cover: “When the Brothas’ are Done, You’ll Need a 2x4 Strapped to Your Ass So You Don’t Fall In!” (note the fancy, fancy grammar and capitalization). Who is going to fall in where? A penis is going to fall into her vagina/ass unless it has a piece of wood attached to its butt? It conjures up some strange imagery for me. Why blast that across the front cover? I reckon it’s probably better not to ask.

choice porn title of the week - jan 29

Fri, 29 Jan 2010 00:00:00 -0400

Old Enough for Porn, Too Young to Drink. Depending on where these girls are from, the casting dudes have a very narrow window in which to scout talent…In QC, AB, and MB, this phenomenon of being (legally) able to do porn and (legally) able to drink is nonexistent. But I guess they are American. Still, it’s funny. The title itself makes me think that if you’re old enough to do one, you should be old enough to do the other. Luckily I’m legal to do both.

choice porn title of the week - march 5

Fri, 05 Mar 2010 00:00:00 -0400

This one just struck me as funny. I’ve always wondered what was so attractive about women who were extremely flexible and why this was a directly sexual thing. If one is flexible, there’s immediately an undertone that points directly to how good they might be at having sex, and I’d even go so far as to say that it makes that person out to be more of a sexual object than a person that might be able to accommodate many positions. Truthfully, I’m not exactly sure how pleasurable a lot of these positions would be for either partner, but then again, I don’t necessarily identify as one that has a ‘flexibility fetish’, as you might have deduced from this post.

Whatever, it’s funny and I like it. The Bendy Broads box cover gets a thumbs up from me!

Choice Porn Title of the Week - Nov 13, 2009

Fri, 13 Nov 2009 00:00:00 -0400

No, you're not going to find a link to purchase this title on our website. It's just not going to happen. But since my job involves reviewing ALL the porn that's out there, I feel I have to share some of the worst titles with you...just so you know what you're missing :)

Nominated for 2009's AVNs for Clever Title of the Year, this series got my vote for best title for sure. It's just totally my sense of humour. Super cute and funny, but just not right as far as I'm concerned. Not that I don't totally dig porn featuring actors that are older than typical mainstream porn stars, it's the wanting to/attempting to be 18 thing that I don't like! The actual winner at the 2009 AVNs was this gem, which I would have featured in my weekly "I'd never sell this" feature, except it had it's time in the spotlight.

Choice Porn Title of the Week - Nov 2, 2009

Mon, 02 Nov 2009 00:00:00 -0400

Maybe it's just me, but I find women much more attractive when they don't have bags on their heads. But everyone's got their own thing, I guess. It must have been easier for the actual casting of the movie, and definitely much easier for the makeup artist. Might have been more work for whoever was making the props. Here's an idea for your halloween costumes. Make a porn star bj face on a paper bag (at least it's not plastic) and go as one of the lovely ladies from this movie.

Choice Porn Title of the Week - Nov 20, 2009

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Choice Porn Title of the Week - Nov 27, 2009

Fri, 27 Nov 2009 00:00:00 -0400

No, you're not going to find a link to purchase this title on our website. It's just not going to happen. But since my job involves reviewing ALL the porn that's out there, I feel I have to share some of the worst titles with you...just so you know what you're missing :)

1990. I think that's all I need to say. Here's the text from the boxcover: Holy Backdoor Entry Blackman...The beautiful Dr. Packer needs her bottom filled, and so do all the other beauties that come along! Has Blackman met his match? Is he doomed to a sex life of forbidden depravity? It is absolutely the hottest integrated anal feature of our time! And this one: He black, back, and on the attack! She's sweet, neat, and indiscreet!

Choice Porn Title of the Week - Nov 5, 2009

Thu, 05 Nov 2009 00:00:00 -0400

Luckily the price of gas has been dropping around here lately, so maybe you'd be getting a deal if you picked up one of these gals at the pump. I can't believe I just wrote that.

It does the job though - it definitely is a clever title. Can't speak for the content though.

Choice Porn Title of the Week - Oct 16, 2009

Fri, 16 Oct 2009 00:00:00 -0400

No, you're not going to find a link to purchase this title on our website. It's just not going to happen. This is, perhaps, one of the most descriptive of the gross, which makes it oh so much more lovable.

Choice Porn Title of the Week - Oct 2, 2009

Fri, 02 Oct 2009 00:00:00 -0400

As the DVD buyer at Come As You Are, I'm bombarded with all sorts of horribly offensive, and at times, hilarious, titles and box covers that I have to wade through. This week, I'm going to give you a little sampling of a couple boxcovers in the series "Your Mom Tossed my Salad". The use of props (dressing, salad bowl) delights me to no end.

Remember, when you're kissing your mother, you're tasting my asshole. (Fuck.)

Choice Porn Title of the Week - Oct 23, 2009

Fri, 23 Oct 2009 00:00:00 -0400

Sometimes I feel like when you're going to name a movie something, there should be more references to what you're ripping off. Where's the makeouts on the rollercoasters, the sex in the waterpark, etc, etc? Oh, right, there's no budget for that. While some of the language that is included in this title (as well most of the boxcovers that I blog about that I will never carry) might not be what we use around these parts, the idea is silly enough to be picked as my Choice Porn Title of the Week.

Choice Porn Title of the Week - Oct 9, 2009

Fri, 09 Oct 2009 00:00:00 -0400

This is just a reminder, I'm you haven't seen my weekly funny/horrible/ridiculous porn titles of the week, this is purely for entertainment, and nothing that Come As You Are endorses in the slightest. But personally, I'm a big fan of The Pogues and found this one to be quite to my liking. Although Rum, Sodomy & the Lash is a title of a book, it's probably most famous for being the title of an amazing Pogues record (that includes such favourites as Dirty Old Town and Sally MacLennane). So here it is, Cum, Sodomy and the Cash!

choice porn title of the week - feb 5

Fri, 05 Feb 2010 00:00:00 -0400

Snort that Cum. I’m finding it a little tough to come up with something to say about this. Maybe it’s just that there’s too much to say about it. In my mind, I’m equally appalled and intrigued, and I also find it a bit funny. Funny how? Cause the penis placed on the plate beside the blonde looks a little to me like an animal stopping at a lake to quench its thirst. I’m assuming it’s placed there to provide something for the ‘starlet’ to ‘snort’, but I don’t see it that way. And how healthy is it to put a semi-liquid (?) material up your nose? I read another porn review’s thoughts about this film (they had actually watched it), and they had mentioned that it would probably be much easier to achieve the…uhh…desired results if a straw had been employed instead of dollar bills, but let’s not get too picky here. What an industry.

Colouring Contest

Thu, 22 Oct 2009 00:00:00 -0400

We've got the entries for the first annual Come As You Are colouring contest that was held on the eve of Nuit Blanche. Of course there's an 18+ twist to our contest, and young and old came out to get colourin'. Thanks again to artists Mallory Diaczun and Erin Finlay for displaying their wonderful work on our walls till the end of November!

Here's the link to our flickr page where you can check out the work.

Winners will be contacted shortly!

Come As You Are Named Best Sex Shop by NOW Magazine

Fri, 30 Oct 2009 00:00:00 -0400

We're tickled pink to be named best sex shop by NOW Magazine for either the 10th or 11th year in a row (it's a bad sign when we can't remember these things, isn't it). Every year they say something nice about us, this year they liked us and our products:

"Shoppers looking for a sex-positive spot to score their vibrators, dildos and cock rings are turned on by Come as You Are's smart staff and lustful selection."

One of the reasons we first opened our doors in 1997 was because there wasn't a sex shop in Toronto that spoke to us exactly as we were. None of us minded the cobbling together you had to do (a harness here, a vibrator there, lube from somewhere else) but we felt like Toronto was a big enough city that it could handle another sex shop and one that would do things differently. Torontonians proved us right and we honestly can think of a better city to be living and working in. A city where we've never once been picketed, where every conflict has been respectful, and where a democratic worker co-operative can not only survive but thrive.

Every day we get to open our doors, and open our email, we're thankful for our city and the people in it. And we wanted to say thanks one more time.

So thanks, and if you're interested in checking out the other businesses and individuals getting some NOW lovin' here's the link.

Congratulations to Candida Royalle

Tue, 03 Nov 2009 00:00:00 -0400

We were thrilled to hear that one of our top selling directors, and a personal friend to Come As You Are, the trail blazing feminist pornographer Candida Royalle was honored at the first ever "PorYes" Feminist Porn Awards in Berlin.

The world of self-identified (and other identified) feminist pornography has changed so much in the 12 years we've been open, and I remember ordering Candida's first films from a mail order catalogue in Quebec, and getting those big VHS boxes in the mail.

Sadly one thing that hasn't changed is that like Candida, most people who want to make consciously political porn are still doing it completely on their own dime. There are exceptions (like Tristan Taormino) but most mainstream porn companies still don't get that doing anything differently is ever a good thing. The idea that porn can be hot and have social meaning is irrelevant since the purpose of making porn is to make money, not represent experience.

We love Candida for putting her money where her mouth was at a time when the risks were decidedly bigger (financially, legally, and arguably socially). She has always pur her positive intentions and heart into her work and she also happens to be one of the sweetest people in the industry.

Check out our complete line of Candida Royalle movies

Image courtesy of Femme Productions

D.I.Y Strap Ons

Wed, 07 Oct 2009 00:00:00 -0400

I haven’t had the time to try this yet (and to be honest, we get such an awesome staff discount that I have harnesses for every mood) but I love the recycling spirit behind this Instructables lesson, subtitled “hot things to do with old bike tube”.

One of our core values is to put your desires ahead of our sales targets, and that means we often recommend to folks that they try stuff out on their own, for free, before plunking down $115 for the sexiness that is an Outlaw Syd Harness. Nothing compares to the satisfaction of doing it yourself, except for maybe the satisfaction of someone else doing it to…er...um... for you!

Read more – Instructables.com: Recycled harness (hot things to do with old bike tube)

Related – Strap On Harnesses from Come As You Are

December 17th Speakout - Toronto Event to End Violence Against Sex Workers

Fri, 04 Dec 2009 00:00:00 -0400

Maggie’s: The Toronto’ Sex Worker’s Action Project is hosting an event on December 17th, the 7th International Day to End Violence Against Sex Workers. From the flyer:

Join Maggie’s Toronto this December 17th 2009 – the 7th International Day to End Violence Against Sex Workers for an open mic/speakout to share our experiences as sex workers who have faced violence and demand an end to the ongoing criminalization and other forms of violence in our work.

When: Thursday December 17th
Time: 7pm to 9pm
Where: Innis Town Hall, 2 Sussex Avenue

Opening remarks and Aboriginal Elder teachings will precede the speakout. This will be a facilitated speakout to ensure the safety and dignity of sex workers.

This is a sex worker positive event.
ALL ARE WELCOME

http://www.maggiestoronto.com/

Documentary Screening, Orgasmic Birth: The Best Kept Secret

Wed, 29 Oct 2008 00:00:00 -0400

I'll never forget the first time I read Susie Bright's Egg Sex and how it totally blew my mind that this event which I had previously understood solely as a medical one (meant to be painful, serious, and basically screamed through) could be, indeed was, another expression of human sexuality.We tend not to think about pregnancy and sex much (except for the once a month porn catalogues featuring Ready to Drop vol. 346 that our video buyer Holly has the pleasure of flipping through). And most of us equate childbirth with sex even less. But most of us are, apparently, missing the boat.There's a great screening next Wednesday on thi

Don't do it, Conan.

Tue, 13 Oct 2009 00:00:00 -0400

If you caught The Tonight Show with Conan O'Brien the other day, you might have seen his bit on feminist pornography. If not, check it out here.

It just seems as ridiculous to me that they should be making fun of this movie as it is to Conan and crew that this type of movie actually exists. I haven't had the chance to watch the movie, Dirty Diaries, that he's referring to, but I have seen the trailers and read reviews. It's a series of vignettes that illustrate different types of people having different types of sex. For me, the focus is on creating artsy, not-your-mainstream porn film, and not so much that it's about creating 'porn for women', for which it is being mocked.

Is it really like that out there in the real world of pop culture and late-night talk shows that edgy, artistic porn is laughed at and treated as almost unimaginable? I can't believe that. The amount of movies that are available that are saying fuck you to gender roles and standard formats of pornography is totally growing. I didn't think that was a secret to those who aren't connected to the industry in some way.

What I've learned from Conan is that women aren't sexual beings, they exist to please their man, and they have no 'dirty' thoughts. I've also learned that it's still cool to put women into a fully submissive role in relationships, and the audience will accept it and come back for more.

What I did know is that pizza is delicious, and if I want to eat pizza instead of have sex (or the other way around), it doesn't make me more or less of a woman. One can't write off this character for having fantasies of food and 'good conversation', that's totally acceptable. The point is--as you already know--is that how this woman is depicted doesn't represent what turns each of us on.

In the end, it's just irritating and sad that this was created and broadcasted. There's so much porn out there that needs to be celebrated, the kind of porn that Dirty Diaries actually is.

Dr. Feelgood or: How I Learned to Stop Worrying and Love the Butt Plug

Mon, 15 Mar 2010 00:00:00 -0400

I really hate to ‘poke fun’ at other websites (or wait, do I really love it?), but being on the receiving end of a ton of strange emails, I do like to share with the rest of the world that may not be as lucky as I am to receive such gems. And in this case, I’ve learned so, so much about just who uses sex toys in this day and age. That is, only single people who are way too ugly and busy to get a partner. See the third paragraph – but really, read the whole thing. Here it is: www.doctorfeelgoodtoys.com

This website emailed me to suggest a link exchange, which I didn’t respond to, but found they had put www.comeasyouare.com up on their site anyway. I doubt we’re going to get much increased traffic from this exposure, but oh well. I can tell you that our values are definitely nowhere even close to being in line with theirs.

I’m also missing the whole point of this website. I’m guessing it might be some type of vessel for something else, I’m not really that internet smart. But it did provide me with a couple minutes of hilarious reading.

Dress Up and Win a Haunted Butt Plug

Wed, 28 Oct 2009 00:00:00 -0400

Okay, it’s not haunted, but it does look like a ghost and it does glow in the dark (which does make us a little scared). And so we were inspired to do a Halloween giveaway.

Come into our Toronto store anytime between 11am and 7pm on Saturday the 31^st dressed up to scare (or arouse…or both) and you’ll be entered to win a Terrifying Toy Prize (thanks to part-time Vanna White impersonator, part-time haunted butt plug model/worker-owner Holly for sharing her messy office and modeling skills with the class).

Absolutely no purchase necessary, and there are not obvious rules as to what makes a winning costume. We know we aren’t the only ones who think Halloween is the best holiday of the year, so drop by and share the fear.

What is Hypersexual Disorder

Wed, 10 Feb 2010 00:00:00 -0400

So far it’s just a dream, a glint in the eyes of the Sexual and Gender Identity Disorders Work Group that is working on the revision to the DSM, the manual that mental health professionals use to diagnose and bill for their services.

The Sexual and Gender Identity Disorders Work Group recently put up a web page that lists all the proposed additions, deletions, and revisions in the area of sex and gender.

As you’d expect from a process where more than half of those who are involved have ties to the drug industry, the proposals are good for Big Pharma and also for researchers, not so good for the rest of us (and honestly, not so good for the individuals who work in research and pharma, since they have sex too, and they will be as badly damaged by the DSM-5 as any of us...only they'll have more money for lawyers and press agents).

Come As You Are is getting involved in setting up some public discussions about the DSM revisions and what they mean to the construction of sexuality and gender, but for now I just want to share one of the proposed new diagnoses, Hypersexual Disorder. Here’s the proposed definition:

Hypersexual Disorder

A. Over a period of at least six months, recurrent and intense sexual fantasies, sexual urges, and sexual behavior in association with four or more of the following five criteria:

(1) A great deal of time is consumed by sexual fantasies and urges, and by planning for and engaging in sexual behavior. [15]

(2) Repetitively engaging in these sexual fantasies, urges, and behavior in response to dysphoric mood states (e.g., anxiety, depression, boredom, irritability). [16]

(3) Repetitively engaging in sexual fantasies, urges, and behavior in response to stressful life events. [17]

(4) Repetitive but unsuccessful efforts to control or significantly reduce these sexual fantasies, urges, and behavior. [18]

(5) Repetitively engaging in sexual behavior while disregarding the risk for physical or emotional harm to self or others. [19]

B. There is clinically significant personal distress or impairment in social, occupational or other important areas of functioning associated with the frequency and intensity of these sexual fantasies, urges, and behavior. [20]

C. These sexual fantasies, urges, and behavior are not due to the direct physiological effect of an exogenous substance (e.g., a drug of abuse or a medication). [21]

This is really ghastly. What they have described can easily be categorized as common and reasonable sexual experience.

How many of us think about having sex "a great deal of the time"?

How many of us have sex in response to stress or anxiety?

And how many of us would say that after having sex we feel less anxious, more relaxed?

Are these signs of a disorder?

Let’s consider an example, one of hundreds I could offer from my personal and professional life as a sex educator and, maybe more importantly, someone who is willing to talk to anyone about sexuality.

Doug grew up always feeling a bit different from his friends. He never knew exactly why but by the time he was 10 or 11 he realized that he felt about boys the way most of the boys felt about girls. He also was interested in girls, and they seemed interested in him. So he became a teenager and started being sexual with girls and then women. He really loves sex, he thinks about it a fair bit, and when he wasn’t attached to one person would have sex, often after only a few dates. He always felt tension, stress, about this other thing he was interested in, but he knew that wanting to have sex with guys was weird and wrong (he “knew” this not because he felt it instinctually, but because he was told this by everyone in his life and 95% of all media he consumed). Now he’s in his 30s and in a good relationship with a woman and they are talking about marriage. He decides he has to tell his partner about this. What he says is that he’s always had feelings and desires; they have always stressed him out, and made him question aspects of who he is.

Doug would absolutely qualify for a diagnosis of hypersexual disorder. Is Doug sick? Does he need medical treatment? Is Doug’s situation abnormal? What would happen today if Doug sought counseling or psychiatry? What would happen three years from now if Hypersexual Disorder makes it into the DSM-5?

The second requirement of “personal distress” is often offered as a bone to those of us who cringe at the thought of medicalizing sexuality. The problem is that the way we are sexually socialized and the popular discourse around sexuality leads a path to personal distress. Our sexual options are so narrow that most of us have something, in the eyes of Dr. Phil and the DSM, to be stressed about.

As a sex educator I encounter people all the time who are distressed by their perfectly healthy desires for sex. There is simply no argument I have heard thus far that would lead me to think that a medical diagnosis would serve anyone in this situation any good.

Read more - New York Times: Revising Book on Disorders of the Mind

Eli Clare in Toronto

Sun, 24 Jan 2010 00:00:00 -0400

We're thrilled to be sponsoring three events in Toronto featuring the poet, activist, educator Eli Clare. The last one is much more than Eli, it's an afternoon of performance featuring some awesome Toronto performers. Hope you can check one or more than one of these out.

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Reading At York University
Thursday, January 28th, 1pm – 4pm
Vanier College 010, Senior Common Room

Reading by Eli Clare from two of his books, Exile and Pride: Disability,
Queerness, and Liberation and The Marrow’s Telling: Words in Motion.

This poetry reading and meet and greet aims at discussing, celebrating,
complicating and engaging the intersections of transsexuality, desire and
ability. Clare’s reading provides a medium for those engaged in his work to
be empowered by their own strengths and bodies, abilities and desires.

FREE ADMISSION! This event is open to the public and is physically and
socially accessible:
• Wheelchair access
• Comfortable safe space

FREE Refreshments & snacks after the event! RSVP so that we may account for
space and food. For additional information, accessibility requests and RSVP
please contact the Access Centre – Able York Office: yaccess@yorku.ca or
416-736-2100 ext. 77612

Sponsors: Graduate Program in Critical Disabilities Studies, York University
Students for Barrier-free Access, University of Toronto, Come As You Are

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Symposium: “Disability and Sexuality: Globalizing Perspectives”
Friday, January 29, 8:30 am ? 4:30 pm
500 University Avenue, Room 132

Eli is giving the keynote at this one day symposium sponsored by the International Centre for Disability and Rehabilitation

Event is wheelchair accessible, ASL interpretation and captioning.

Tickets available through UofTtix box office, 416?978?8849 or www.uofttix.ca

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in/visible unicorn: an afternoon of performances exploring & exposing imagination, bodies and representation.
Sunday, January 31, 2:00pm - 5:00pm
buddies in bad times theatre, 2 Alexander st

Perfomers include: Eli Clare, Onyinyechukwu (Onyii) Udegbe. Jorge Vallejos, Kenji Tokawa
Tara-Michelle Ziniuk, Big Appetite formerly known as the fat femme mafia, Griffin Epstein
GIMP boot camp a video written, directed, produced and edited by Melisa Brittain and Danielle Peers
& possibly more.

Event is wheelchair accessible, we're still working on ASL interpretation, and it's free or pay what you can.

More details at: http://www.facebook.com/#/event.php?eid=287847905069&ref=ts

Envisioning New Meanings of Disability and Difference

Fri, 13 Nov 2009 00:00:00 -0400

One of the biggest challenges in doing work around sex and disability is the general dearth of disability imagery.
Which is why we're excited about this exhibit and will be there on the 18th at the opening. Hope to see some of you there.

Envisioning New Meanings of Disability and Difference: A Multimedia Exhibit

A dynamic multimedia exhibit, “Envisioning New Meanings of Disability and Difference” puts forward ways of seeing disability and difference. Women with disabilities and physical differences use photography and digital stories to boldly present themselves in their own words and images.

All are welcome to attend the exhibit launch and reception on Wednesday, November 18 from 4 – 6 p.m. in the East Common Room of Hart House (7 Hart House Circle). The location is accessible and ASL interpretation will be available. Artists featured in the Envisioning exhibit will be on-hand to discuss their work.

The Envisioning exhibit is free of charge and will run from Tuesday, November 17 until Tuesday, December 1 from 7:30 a.m. until 11 p.m. in the Hart House Map Room. It is open to all members of the University of Toronto and general public.

For accessibility questions, contact Myra Lefkowitz, U of T Health and Well-being Programs and Services at myra.lefkowitz@utoronto.ca. For more information or to RSVP to the Nov. 18 launch, contact Erin Noble at erin.noble@utoronto.ca.

This exhibit is presented by University of Toronto’s Health and Well-being Programs and Services, in co-operation with Hart House and the Envisioning New Meanings Planning Committee, composed of U of T staff, faculty and students.

EVENT: Envisioning New Meanings of Disability and Difference Multimedia Exhibit

DATE: Public launch and reception - Wednesday, November 18, 4 – 6 p.m.

Exhibit on display from November 17 until December 1.

Families and Friends of LGBT youth who are ASL users

Wed, 22 Apr 2009 00:00:00 -0400

The Ontario Rainbow Alliance of the Deaf is a great organization that Come As You Are has partnered with several times. They're trying to make what they do more accessible and meaningful through community engagement like the focus group below. More information can be found on their websiteJoin ORAD and share your ideas on how we can help make community resources more accessible to you.This is a focus group for families & friends of lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgendered individualsof any age in the Deaf community. You will have the opportunity to let us know what we can do tobetter service you and your changing needs.

Fear of nuts creating hysteria of epidemic proportions

Tue, 09 Dec 2008 00:00:00 -0400

Part of my job at Come As You Are is to keep everyone appraised of recent research in sexual health. That means looking at a lot of health news wires each week and combing through the releases that may be relevant.It's actually more fun than it sounds, particularly because bored university press officers rarely miss a chance to find some creativity and humour in their work. And when you're looking for articles about sexuality your perspective gets skewed.

Fellatio Phobic Signage

Fri, 10 Jul 2009 00:00:00 -0400

I get in trouble from one of the other worker-owners sometimes for using the word cocksucker in a pejorative way. I totally get why they don't like me using it that way, and agree, we love people who suck cock, some of our best friends are, among other things, cocksuckers. But it's an old word that's taking me some time to eliminate from my vocabulary.

For the Love of Sexual Values

Tue, 02 Feb 2010 00:00:00 -0400

This is the time of year when everyone - from chocolatiers to tax lawyers - cites some "sexpert" or random statistic to entice you to buy some gizmo to improve your sex life. This kind of hucksterism is one of the things we hate the most about the business we're in. Don Draper was right when he said it isn't sex that sells, but if sex is what you care about, it's unfortunate that you are forced to navigate smoke and mirrors advertising and misinformation. At Come As You Are, we'll help you find your way by providing the most accurate and up-to-date information and quality products.

Found in Parkdale

Thu, 17 Sep 2009 00:00:00 -0400

If you're a Torontonian living in Parkdale, or near Parkdale, you're quite familiar with Super Savings Discount Warehouse at the corner of Queen and Brock. Actually, I'm not 100% sure that is the actual name of the place, but you know what I'm talking about. If you don't, it's an amazing store that sells everything from wigs, to clocks from the 80's, to hammers, to prayer candles (including what they call "gender candles", which are wax sculptures of either penis or vulva), to underwear...and that's not even getting into the food section. I swear they keep the Mr. Gouda's food company in business. And they have Pink Ting.

Getting and Giving Walrus Lovin'

Mon, 15 Mar 2010 00:00:00 -0400

We know we're nerds for sharing this, but since it's right there in our core values (#7, create nerdy fun) we feel justified.

Last month we wrote a letter to the editors of The Walrus, responding to a piece they did on the banning of Lady Chatterly's Lover in Canada (What Thunder Bay Burned), and they published it! We won't reprint the whole thing here, but this is just a peek at our incredibly well written righteous indignation:

Even in contemporary public discourse, discussions of sexuality tend to be guided by moral bias rather than critical judgment. Sex may be more visible in this day and age — it’s used to sell products from lattes to jeans — but sexuality, truly examined, still makes legislators uncomfortable. When the government determines what is and isn’t a morally acceptable exploration of sexuality, we risk losing not only our artistic works, but our sexual freedom.

We go on to talk about Bill C-58, the toe-fucking scene in Weeds. It's short, but cute.

Okay, nerd-fest is over...back to work!

Read more: Walrus Letters - Talking Dirty

Give Sexy, Get Sexy for Valentine's

Sat, 30 Jan 2010 00:00:00 -0400

Give Sexy, Get Sexy!

When it comes to sex we’ve always believed the lines between giving and receiving are fuzzy at best. This Valentine’s Day we’re bringing that theory into reality by offering you something for yourself, just for giving something to someone else. Every order over $50 placed between January 20, 2010 and February 14, 2010 will receive FREE SHIPPING and a coupon for $10 off your next order. Give this month, and get back next month. Everyone wins. more information

Hard Liquor & Porn

Wed, 14 Oct 2009 00:00:00 -0400

We had a blog reader pass this link along to us and we wanted to get the word out to ya'll. The Hard Liquor and Porn Film Festival happens yearly in Toronto, showcasing independent filmmaker's short films. While there isn't necessarily hardcore porn films being screened, every film directly relates to sex and sexuality in some way, and it seems like an evening that's full of fun. If you're in Toronto this weekend, check it out. Here's their website, and here's the details.

Darryl's Hard Liquor and Porn Film Festival
Saturday October 17, 2009 9pm
The Bloor Cinema
506 Bloor St., W., Toronto
416-516-2331.
Tickets $20 at the door
Licenced 19+ only

Help Save the Toronto Women's Bookstore

Wed, 16 Dec 2009 00:00:00 -0400

We just got this email from our friends at the Toronto Women's Bookstore.

Dear TWB community,

The Toronto Women's Bookstore is in crisis and we need your help!

Independent businesses and bookstores have been closing their doors this
year, and after 36 years it is possible that we will have to do the same if
we are not able to raise enough money to survive. TWB is one of the only
remaining non-profit feminist bookstores in North America, but despite all
of the events, courses, workshops, community resources and additional
services we offer, the fact that we are a store means that we do not receive
any outside funding and rely entirely on sales and the support of our
customers to stay in business.

Over the past few years, our sales have not been enough to sustain us and
this is why we are coming to you, our community, for help. If every one of
you donated $10 we would raise enough to keep going for 3 months, $20 each
would keep us in business for 6 months, and $30 each would be enough for us
to keep our doors open, hopefully for good. All donations will go directly
towards covering the bookstore's costs, and are a part of a larger plan of
action and structural change to make the business sustainable in the current
economy.

In the past, when feminist bookstores were closing down all across North
America, the support of the community is what kept TWB alive. You are the
reason that we are still here today, and we believe that with your help we
can once again work together to save this organization where so many of us
as readers, writers, feminists, artists, and activists have found a home.

You can make donations over the phone, on our website
www.womensbookstore.com (paypal link available soon), or in person at the
store. As a non-profit store we are not eligible for charitable status and
cannot offer tax receipts, but we are hoping to be able to offer tax
receipts for donations over $100 in collaboration with a non-profit charity
who shares our mandate, and we will have that information available on our
website and in store as soon as possible.

You can also help by spreading the word to your friends and community,
contacting us if you know of any funding we might be eligible for, promoting
this fundraising drive in your paper or on your blog, website or radio show,
organizing your own save the bookstore fundraisers or just passing the hat
at your holiday parties, giving a TWB donation as a gift, and of course,
coming in and bringing all your friends to the store for some holiday
shopping!

Thank you all for your support,
The Toronto Women's Bookstore Board, Staff & Volunteers

Help Us Test Our Mobile Site

Sat, 28 Nov 2009 00:00:00 -0400

Since the launch of our new website, the Come As You Are web team (i.e. gill) has been working not-so-feverishly on the launch of our website for mobile devices. The mobile site has the same general layout as our regular website, but we've dropped the right column and we've increased the size of the search function to make use on mobile devices easier.

If you have a mobile phone or other mobile device, use your mobile browser to visit www.comeasyouare.com. Send along your comments and constructive criticism to me at gill@comeasyouare.com.

Holiday Preview - Hang This Duck on Your Tree

Wed, 04 Nov 2009 00:00:00 -0400

At Come As You Are, we're awfully fond of telling you what to - ahem - stuff in your stocking for the holidays, but this year, we've got something that can be hung on your tree and be guaranteed to jingle your bells well past boxing day. Unfortunately, it won't do a thing for your yule log.

Big Tease Toys is infamous for their Rub Your Duckie series of discreet (and fun!) vibrators. Their ducks have been to Paris, into the BDSM scene and have even been shrunk down to the popular and powerful I Rub My Travel Duckie for on-the-go fun. For the holidays, Big Tease brings us the I Rub My Travel Duckie as an ornament: enclosed in a holiday orb ready to hang on a tree, stocking hook or loved one! more info

Holly goes to AEE 2009

Tue, 13 Jan 2009 00:00:00 -0400

First Day/Night in Vegas Unfortunately I didn't have time to check in at the show so my first adventure was the Babeland party at the Venetian. I initially needed a bit of inspiration to get going, after just getting off the plane, but 22 oz of pure Vegas Budweiser in my room at Excalibur gave me a hand. So first problem, transportation. The strip bus, The Deuce, sucks so bad. Imagine being on a bus that waits 5 mins at every stop. Not joking! Anyway I made it to the party (much smaller than last year, might I add). But I ran into Max Royale, a friend from last year's show that gave me a copy of his new DVD release starring Joanna Angel called the New Romantix that I'm really stoked to check out.

Holly Goes to Vegas, part 2

Tue, 06 Jan 2009 00:00:00 -0400

It's a new year and another year of porn...why not celebrate by going to the Adult Entertainment Expo in Las Vegas? Last year was filled with meeting new people, checking out new products, and going to great parties.Hopefully this year will be just as great. xoxo gossip girl

Inspired by Spam

Mon, 30 Mar 2009 00:00:00 -0400

We get a lot of spam at Come As You Are. Wearing multiple hats I have multiple email accounts but a handy web-based filter system that let's me scan emails that get caught in the spam filter with surprising ease. I like looking at what's new in spam-subject-lines this week. But I rarely open the email. Today I was drawn to a subject line "fuck like you're a teenager, at any age". I thought it was funny since the sex I had as a teenager was a) infrequent and b) not particularly good compared to the sex I've had since.

International Sexuality and Disability Symposium in Toronto, Save the Date

Thu, 26 Nov 2009 00:00:00 -0400

If you live in Toronto, or are looking for a good reason to visit at the end of January (you know, aside from the balmy weather that time of year) mark January 29, 2010 on your calendar. The International Centre for Disability and Rehabilitation is holding a one day symposium on sexuality and disability. They've just started their planning but I'm helping out a bit so I've heard a few of their plans and they've got some exciting stuff planned.

The International Centre for Disability and Rehabilitation (ICDR) was established in January 2004. The centre was formed as a response to the need for sustainable assistance to people with disabilities in developing counties; the need to expand the training of students and practitioners in order to respond to global needs; and in response to the University of Toronto's commitment to reaching beyond its traditional borders.

I'll keep you posted here, but if you want more information contact the centre directly, icdr.info@utoronto.ca.

Is Anal Sex Hardcore?

Thu, 12 Nov 2009 00:00:00 -0400

The Challenge of Putting Porn Into Little Boxes

Soon after opening in 1997 we found that porn was the product customers came in with the most baggage around. Being the first feminist identified sex shop in Toronto that also carried a range of porn -- from soft to extremely hardcore -- we had a lot of people coming to us interested in giving porn another try, but turned off by previous experiences and not sure where to start.

As a result, porn has been the product line that demands the most reflection and work from our collective membership. We probably spend more time watching, thinking, and debating porn than anything else we carry. All that talk came in handy when, a few years back, we decided it was time to devise a classification system for customers.

Which brings me to anal sex. Anal sex proved to be the first stumbling block. In our first draft everyone involved in the process agreed that anal sex would be a distinguishing feature of the raunchier content we carry (closer to five flames than one). But some members challenged this. What was it, they asked, about anal sex that makes it inherently raunchy or hardcore? Should a sexual activity taken out of the context of erotic energy, people's bodies, and all the non-verbal communication that happens during sex, ever be classified as essentially "hard" or "soft"?

It was a good question, and one we got stuck on for some time. In the end we agreed that when it came to an individuals sex life this didn't make sense at all. But when it comes to porn we feel like it does.

Porn is a kind of fetishization of sexual activity. With few exceptions, porn isn't about the subjective experience of the actors (one notable exception would Tony Comstock's films). So it makes sense in this context to identify porn both as it's produced, but also along the lines that customers most often ask for (and anal sex vs. no anal sex is a common request).

In the end we decided to make our rankings reflect both sexual activities and sexual energy in a film. Like everything at a worker co-operative, we consider our porn nosology a work in progress. Have a look and if you've got comments, suggestions, or controversies you'd like to suggest, let us know!

	Light and Breezy. Titles may titillate but keep the action relatively clean. No anal, no genital close ups, no external ejaculation.
	Penultimate Porn. Scenes feature light-hearted sex, actors understanding and responding to their partner's desires. Some external ejaculations, occasional anal sex, threesomes, and girl-on-girl.
	The Mid Point. Scenes feature light-hearted sex, actors understanding and responding to their partner's desires. Some external ejaculations, occasional anal sex, threesomes, and girl-on-girl.
	More Bang for the Buck. Sex that's raunchy and to the point. Expect multiple scenes involving anal sex, group sex, some power play, zoomed-in shots, and facial ejaculations.
	Hard as We Want to Be. The most explicit content we carry. Titles may feature power play and/or rough sex, multiple anal scenes, double penetrations and dirty talk.

Last Day for Free Holiday Shipping

Mon, 21 Dec 2009 00:00:00 -0400

Wrap it up! Today is the last day all Canadian orders get free Canada Post XpressPost shipping, and orders over $100 also receive a special gift which you can keep for your self or stuff in someone else's stocking! XpressPost orders must be placed by Tuesday, December 22 at 9AM to ensure holiday delivery, Next Day orders can be placed anytime up to December 23rd at 3PM EST. | more ordering information

Let's Talk About Sex!

Sat, 15 Aug 2009 00:00:00 -0400

It's an irony not lost on us here at Come As You Are that almost all sex education resources are geared to people under 18. Not that teens don't have a right to information and resources that help them understand the benefits and risks of whatever kind of sex they're having. They do. But the truth is that for most of us our sex lives get more complicated and more interesting as we age. People of all ages need and deserve sex education.

Meet the Minx

Fri, 05 Feb 2010 00:00:00 -0400

The Minx Harness

This new harness from Aslan Leather is the epitome of sexy, comfortable, and functional. Similar to the ever-popular Jaguar, the Minx features a stunning, corset-style, lace-up back. Available in black ($165), leopard ($180), and as just the back as an addition if you already own a Jaguar ($65).

Click the image to view all new products from Come As You Are!

Name Our Packer Contest

Thu, 19 Nov 2009 00:00:00 -0400

Is that a new packer in your pants, or are you just happy to see us? Maybe it's both, since there's definitely a new packer in town. We were feeling a need for a more affordable but still durable packer, and one that would give us a colour selection, so we turned to our local dildo manufacturer, Happy Valley and asked them to turn our dreams into reality. We're proud to announce the launch of our brand new silicone packer called…um, well, we don't know what it is called yet, but we're hoping you can help! Check out our packer (currently called Mister No Name) in our Toronto store or online, and submit your suggestion for a name. If we choose your name, you'll receive your very own packer and a Come As You Are gift basket. All entries (not just the winning one!) will receive 10% off any purchase from our website.
Send your suggestions to contests@comeasyouare.com.

New Stuff!

Fri, 19 Feb 2010 00:00:00 -0400

We've got some awesome new products around Come As You Are that we wanted you to check out. Even if you spent a little too much dough enjoying your Valentine's Day to the fullest, these new top-of-the-line toys won't disappoint, and won't break the bank.

bCurious – This awesomely shaped external vibe is an affordable option for those looking for a great multi-functional rechargeable vibe. http://www.comeasyouare.com/Venez tels quels/index.cfm/shop/product/bSwish-bCurious-Rechargeable-Vibrator/

Fleshlight Vibro – For years, we’ve had customers asking for a Fleshlight that combines vibration with it’s already excellent design. The new Vibro comes with three multi-speed one-touch vibes that are inserted into the sleeve to take this Fleshlight to a new level. It’s also a deal - $100 for sleeve and case, plus the vibrators – and it comes in it’s own sexy tin.

http://www.comeasyouare.com/Venez tels quels/index.cfm/shop/product/Fleshlight-Vibro-Pink-Lady/

Lelo Mona – Lelo’s got a new design out – they’ve upgraded their traditional control pad with easier to use push buttons, as well as streamlined the design of the body of the vibrator. Check out Mona – a total steal on sale at $110.

http://www.comeasyouare.com/Venez tels quels/index.cfm/shop/product/Lelo-Mona-Vibrator/

Nuit Blanche Sex Confessions

Mon, 19 Oct 2009 00:00:00 -0400

This year, as part of our Nuit Blanche celebration, we affixed a large piece of paper on the wall asking people to share some of their sex confessions. Although we didn't get as many as we did at our Year Of The Carnivore party,

here's what made the list:

"I've fucked more places than I've been"

"I still have my ex's strap on..I use it as blackmail :)"

"I built a contraption that would spread eagle a sex partner and she loved/liked it even though I did not. Oh, rape fantasy...who knew."

"Once Holly P. Hirst sold me a small 'red rocket' and I did not leave my house for 3 weeks and had to wash my sheets daily. Thank you, HPH."

"My boyfriend knows more about the internal workings of the clitoris than I do"

"I squirt"

"When I lost confidence in my sexual ability, my gay best friend bought me a HUGE dildo to "practice on" for my birthday. BEST present ever!"

"My clit ring changed my life. My shit is gold."

"I fucked a guy 6 years older than me and I knew more about sex then he did"

"Jeffree Star and Daniel Hilton kept me hostage and fucked me every night!"

"I've told someone not to bother because they weren't good enought to even bother faking!"

Nuit Blanche Spend the Night with Come As You Are (and half a million art lovers)

Thu, 01 Oct 2009 00:00:00 -0400

Join us this Saturday night/Sunday morning the opening of Sweet Light Crude: Erotic Drawings & Paintings by Mallory Diaczun and Erin Finley. The art opening begins at 7PM and wil continue through the night in celebration of Nuit Blanche. Enter the erotic colouring competition, confess your sex secrets and win prizes from Come As You Are!

Toronto artist Mallory Diaczun, creator of Queen West’s most infamous dirty work "Jenna’s Colouring Book" (which features line drawings of porn star Jenna Jameson), is the headliner of the Girl + Girl show, striking a calculated balance between wit and candor. Mallory Diaczun has collaborated with fellow artist Erin Finley for this exhibition; Finley’s works, which complement Diaczun’s in terms of an approach to technique, offer glimpses into forbidden love. Both artists are interested in posing questions about sexual power and submission; the interchangeability of gender roles; and the garish spectacle of sex in popular culture. These two young women investigate what it means to fantasize about rap stars, tennis heroes, and the girls next door – all through feminist eyes.

Online Aboriginal Sexual Health Resources

Tue, 10 Nov 2009 00:00:00 -0400

Thanks to Leanne Cusitar (star of Toronto Public Health among other things) for passing these along. Come As You Are is just updating it's referral list, so it's perfect timing.

The Canadian Aboriginal AIDS Network

The Canadian Aboriginal AIDS Network Inc. (CAAN) is a non-profit coalition of individuals and organizations which provides leadership, support, and advocacy for Aboriginal people living with and affected by HIV/AIDS, regardless of where they reside. They've also got a new site geared to youth.

Chee Mamuk: Aboriginal Program at the BC Centre for Disease Control

Check out their awesome Star in Your Own Stories project that is "transforming First Nations high school students into filmmakers and sexual health campaigners."

Pauktuutit Inuit Women of Canada: Sexual Health Program

Pauktuutit is dedicated to preventing the further spread of sexually transmitted infections among Inuit and working to ensure that Inuit who are living with serious diseases such as HIV and/or hepatitis-C are able to access the services and support they need in the communities in which they live.

2-Spirited People of the 1st Nations

2-Spirited People of the 1st Nations is a non-profit social services organization whose membership consists of Aboriginal gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender people in Toronto. Their services include HIV/AIDS education, outreach, prevention, support and counseling for 2-spirited people and others living and affected by HIV/AIDS.

Society of Obstetricians and Gynecologists: Aboriginal Contraception Awareness Project

Supported by the award winning Canadian site sexualityandu.ca, ACAP is committed to providing credible and up-to-date information about sexual health. The site strives to offer information that is culturally relevant to the people living in a diverse range of Aboriginal communities across Canada, thanks to the guidance of a team of Canadian medical and Aboriginal organizations.

Oprah's Sex Toy and DVD Picks

Wed, 18 Nov 2009 00:00:00 -0400

Needless to say, these aren't Oprah's personal picks. The day she personally endorses a sex toy like she did the Kindle will be a very happy day for one manufacturers and whole lot of retailers.

But following on the heels of their porn piece, Oprah.com asked a Chicago retailer for their top picks. I would have asked Early2Bed instead, but am still happy to see them give shout outs to some of our favourites, including

Hathor Lube. We're so thrilled that our favourite Canadian lube maker is featured along with Sliquid and Eros in the chosen lubes.

Laya Vibe. This Fun Factory powerhouse deserves to be on everyone's top pick list.

They must have felt some obligation to pick at least one Jenna Jameson movie since Jenna was the focus of the episode. We're glad they picked The Masseuse. And even happier they singled out Tristan Taormino's Chemistry and Candida Royalle's Eyes of Desire

Our Compass: A Night Exploring Disability, Sexuality and Gender Identity

Thu, 08 Oct 2009 00:00:00 -0400

Griffin Centre's sprOUT project is an amazing multi-year effort supported by the Trillium Foundation which aims to increase information and access to services for youth who identify as LGBTQ and who are labelled with intellectual disabilities. I was part of a group that previewed the documentary they'll be screening at the AGO and it's awesome. Folks from Come As You Are will be there, and if you're in Toronto we highly recommend coming to check it out. It doesn't matter if you think this isn't relevant or isn't for you; if you are interested in sex and care about sexual rights (yours and others), then this IS for you. Here's the info. from the Griffin Centre:

Our Compass: A night exploring disability, sexuality and gender identity

Wednesday, October 21, 2009
6:00 - 8:00pm
LAL performance
Snacks Provided
FREE
Address: Art Gallery of Ontario, 317 Dundas St. W.,?                 Toronto, Ontario
Come check out a new art project featuring lesbian, ? gay, bisexual, transgender and questioning youth ? labelled with intellectual disabilities.

Photo Exhibit! Artist Talk! Live Music!

Griffin Centre's sprOUT project is supported by:
    •    The Ontario Trillium Foundation
    •    Ministry of Children and Youth Services and Ministry of Community and Social Services, Children and Youth Mental Health Fund: Innovations Funding - Year 4
    •    Toronto Public Health, AIDS Prevention Community Investment Program

The AGO Youth Council is part of the AGO's Teens Behind the Scenes Program. Teens Behind the Scenes is generously supported by:
Lead Sponsor: ERICSSON
Generously Supported By:      Tippet Foundation
                                                The Lloyd Carr-Harris Foundation

Please RSVP to Chi Ching Hui at chui@griffin-centre.org

For more info contact Marcus Syrus Ware at syrus_ware@ago.net

Panel Discussion on Worker Co-ops and Sex!

Tue, 16 Feb 2010 00:00:00 -0400

It's not just about sex, but tomorrow Cory is representing our co-op on a panel featuring Heather Barclay from The Big Carrot and Reba Plumber from Urban Cyclist as part of the Social Economy Centre's lunchbox series.

The topic is entrepreneurship in worker co-operatives, something we never tire of talking about or thinking about.

The event will be webcast live and I think you can even chat in with questions. More information can be found at http://socialeconomy.utoronto.ca

If you're in Toronto and have an interest in alternative business models, co-ops, entrepreneurship, or of course, sex shops, organic food, and bikes, come check it out. It's free!

Wednesday February 17
Noon to 1:30pm
Ontario Institute for Studies in Education
252 Bloor St. West
Room 12-199

For more information email Lisa White: secspeaker@oise.utoronto.ca

Picture This! Young People, Disability and Sexual Health

Thu, 29 Oct 2009 00:00:00 -0400

If you're 18-24 and identify as disabled or live with a disability, or you know someone who is, check out this new project, it sounds amazing and is totally free!

Picture This! Young People, Disability and Sexual Health

Picture This! is a participatory action research study that will gather a small group of young people (age 18-24) with disabilities for a series of ten weekly workshops on sexuality, disability, sexual health, and the arts.

Why?
The needs, perspectives, and experiences of young people with disabilities tend to be overlooked in programs that promote positive sexuality and sexual health among youth. Yet young people with disabilities have lots to share, and they also have questions and concerns.

Who is involved?
We are a group of researchers from York, Ryerson, U of T, and Wilfred Laurier. We come from a variety of backgrounds and lived experiences in disability advocacy, sexuality, public health and public policy, sociology and the arts. The project is funded by the Center for Urban Health Initiatives (CUHI) and the Canadian Foundation for AIDS Research (CanFAR).

What is going on?
We are looking for young people with disabilities to volunteer to participate with us in 10 weekly workshops. If you are 18-24, have lived experience with disability, and would like to learn more, please contact us!

Volunteers will engage together as co-researchers in questioning, building knowledge, and creative expression in the ten weekly workshops. Co-researchers will help to choose and plan the activities, which may include:

•    Creating our own art, music, photography or performance pieces about disability and sexuality/sexual health
•    Critiquing advertisements and educational materials
•    Meeting and working with artists, including artists with disabilities
•    Learning about sexual health, safe sex, and HIV prevention
•    Learning about asserting ourselves in relationships
•    Discussing what positive sexuality means
•    Discussing and confronting the barriers to positive sexuality
•    Putting together a program or exhibit that highlights the perspectives of young people with disabilities

What does it cost?
These workshops are free. We will cover transportation and other expenses and make sure that all participants’ access and accommodation needs are met. We will provide snacks during meetings and an honorarium. Participating in these workshops can also count as community service hours, and we would be happy to provide letters of reference.

How do I learn more?
Please contact Devon Proudfoot, Program coordinator at:
Tel: 416 736 2100 ex. 20712
TTY: 416-650-8273
Email: picturethistoronto@gmail.com

Playlists to F*#k To

Fri, 05 Dec 2008 00:00:00 -0400

In our winter newsletter we launched a new contest asking our customers to send us their sexiest play lists for a chance to win an awesome OhMiBod gift pack. Thanks to the many folks who sent us in their erotically inspired musical choices. The winner was randomly selected and we thought we'd share their play list with all our readers. Just below the winner we've included some of the other play list entries. If you're inspired to share, tell us your favourites, and stay tuned for our Valentine's newsletter and contest!

Pornaments

Wed, 30 Sep 2009 00:00:00 -0400

We're in the business of selling sex toys, not so much novelties. But these glass "Pornaments" from the Dirty Flirty Novelty Company are so cute and so super kitschy that I couldn't help but share them with you. In my opinion, compared to the other companies that make junk like dicky sippers and the Boob Tube beer bong, these are just on a totally different level. While you won't find them on our shelves, (and I don't know where you might find them), enjoy the images, and check their site for more.

Queer Disability Talk in Boston

Mon, 13 Apr 2009 00:00:00 -0400

If you're in or near Boston, this looks G-R-E-A-T!Radical Access: The politics of inclusion for Queer Disabled People in Queer Community Tuesday April 21st, 7:15pm Hauser Hall room 104, Harvard Law School. We invite you to join us for dinner and this exciting conversation exploring intersections of oppression, ableism and community connections. Our goal is to begin a dialogue with everyone present.This event grew out of the 2009 Harvard Lambda Legal Advocacy (HaLLA)Conference, "Queering the Health Gap: LGBT Health Disparities and theLaw." Out of that conference emerged vital conversations that illuminated queer community. Among these were discussions about the complex relationships between queer community and disability.

recap of Nuit Blanche

Wed, 07 Oct 2009 00:00:00 -0400

Thanks again to all who came out to check out the fun at Nuit Blanche @ CAYA this year. We had tons of submissions for the Sweet Light Crude colouring contest, and to keep the entrants updated, they were submitted to Mallory, the artist, today. The winner will be contacted soon! Best of luck to all!

We also had a giant wall to colour on...here's what it looked like at the beginning of the night. Hi Sarah and Annanda!

Check back for more pictures in the next couple weeks. Alas, our store camera in on vacay in Europe, and as I do love my Samsung Instinct, it's not always the best for taking photos!

Research about Disability and Online Dating

Sun, 15 Nov 2009 00:00:00 -0400

This call for participants came to us via the Citizens With Disabilities - Ontario listserv. I don't know anyone involved, but I do know that, as the description below suggests, this is definitely an under researched area. They are looking for people who are over 18, identify as living with a disability, and have used or are currently using online dating sites.

From the email notice and the study's informed consent form:

Natasha Saltes is a recent MA graduate in Critical Disability Studies. She is currently recruiting participants for a qualitative study that she is conducting on disability and online dating. There is very little research on this particular topic - this is a unique opportunity to anonymously take part in an original study that will shed light on the experience of disability and online dating.

The purpose of this study is to examine the impact that online dating presents for people who identify themselves as living with a disability. This study aims to uncover how users with disabilities manage their identity online. This study also attempts to understand the experiences that people with disabilities have had in using online dating services and the ways in which online dating experiences may differ from offline experiences.

Take the online questionnaire

Read the informed consent form

If you have any questions or concerns about this study please send an email to disabilitydatingstudy@gmail.com

Maybe once every couple of years I get an email advertising some new "disabled dating service" or "disability friendly" dating site. Sometimes they are just plain sketchy, most of the time I'm wary, but not sure if I should be. I think about how most people are a bit wary when they hear that I, someone who is currently non-disabled, work in the area of sex and disability. Being a bit skeptical comes with the territory, but it feels weird for me as an ally. Part of the priviledge I live with is that other people put me in a gatekeeper role when it comes to access to information. Particularly non-disabled professionals who usually find it easier to deal with me than with their own attitudes toward disability, equity, etc... So on the one hand I want to just share everything that comes my way and the idea that I might not share something because I think they're just out for a fast buck seems sort of condescending.

On the other, as a sex educator and someone trying to live an ethical life, I take referrals very seriously and don't ever want someone to think I'm recommending something unless I really am recommending it. Being an ally makes this tricky, but so does the fact that there are so few resources around sex, dating, and disability, that most of us want to see everything we can get our hands on.

Research on Pain During Intercourse in Kingston Area

Tue, 08 Dec 2009 00:00:00 -0400

Last week I had the opportunity to speak with one of the researchers involved in some great work being done at Queens University looking at the experience of sexual pain during intercourse. They are still looking for participants and it sounds like a good opportunity for someone who is dealing with sexual pain to both get treatment for free and also help contribute to the development of a scientific literature on sexual pain. Here's the flyer, feel free to pass it along if you know anyone in the Kingston area who would qualify for the study.

Do You Have Pain During Sexual Intercourse?

Are You Looking For a Treatment Option For This Pain?

We are looking for women living in the Kingston area to participate in a study on the effectiveness of two non-medical treatment options for painful intercourse

Study Procedures:

gynaecological examination, interview, physical testing and assessment, 8 sessions of treatment (cognitive-behavioural therapy or pelvic floor physical therapy) over 12 weeks, and follow-up sessions

**Treatment provided free of charge** (compensation also provided)

All information is strictly confidential.

For more information, please contact the Sexual Health Research Lab: (613) 533-3276

or email: SHRL@queensu.ca

Investigators:

Caroline Pukall PhD, Linda McLean BScPT, PhD, Susan Chamberlain MD

Corrie Goldfinger, MSc, PhD Student, Stephanie Thibault-Gagnon BScPT, MSc Student

Savage Love Love

Sat, 13 Dec 2008 00:00:00 -0400

Painfully archaic understandings of bisexuality aside, we love Dan Savage. He's funny, a good writer, and in most cases has fucking A politics when it comes to sexual rights and expression. We also love him because even when we disagree with him, he always feels like he's being honest, and honesty in sex is a rarity, particularly in the media.So we were stoked when one of our very own worker-owners, Cory, got asked to answer a question for one of Dan's readers. He couldn't recommend any of our fine products, but if you're looking for a prosthestic nose, or the right face harness, this one is worth a read.Savage Love -Face Sitting (also check out Cory's last appearance in Savage Love, with three letters all about disability).

Sex & Love at TIFF

Fri, 11 Sep 2009 00:00:00 -0400

Last night we went to see the world premiere of Year of the Carnivore. It was also the opening film for the Canada First program at the Toronto International Film Festival.

I was prepared to love the movie because I'm such a fan of its director, Sook-Yin Lee, and what I had heard about it made me think I would. But I didn't know it would be as amazing, and as contemplative as it was. I'm a bit worried that the depth of the film will be lost by those who take it as a kind of quirky, indie, mumble-core-esque Canadian film. No that there's anything wrong with those things, but YOTC is, I think, a very different kind of movie, mostly because Sook-Yin Lee is a very different kind of director.

Sex Store Thoughts on the Giambrone Sex Scandal

Tue, 09 Feb 2010 00:00:00 -0400

There’s a brilliant skit in the making, comparing Toronto’s homegrown Adam Giambrone “sex scandal” with any number of recent similar incidents in the U.S (John Edwards, Tiger Woods, etc., etc.). Unfortunately the CBC’s content factory will probably be charged with that task and we’ll have to sit through another painful 4 minutes during The Current or Q just waiting for it to be over. Maybe Stephen Colbert will do something, and then the Star will cover it (at least it would be funny).

Our favourite comment so far comes, not surprisingly, from filmmaker Bruce La Bruce who tweeted “Why not just let politicians be exempt from unrealistic expectations about marriage & monogamy? Vote promiscuity!” We’d like to extend that to everyone, not just politicians.

We don’t relish anyone’s sex life becoming public without their permission, and take no pleasure in rifling through sexual communications of people we don’t know. But since The Toronto Star refuses to stop leaving free copies of their paper on our front stoop, we read it, and we can’t help but think that the texts on both sides sound fake. We hear a lot of dirty talk and receive our fair share of dirty texts at Come As You Are, and the line "I still think of you when I need ... um ... stimulation." feels more like language we’d use in an educational setting, maybe a hospital or nursing home, and less like the torrid typing of young, “inappropriate” lovers. If these are the real texts from the parties involved, this will probably be a short lived, and somewhat salacious-less scandal indeed.

What we’d like to know is what exactly does Giambrone think was inappropriate about this relationship in the first place? As, thankfully, most journalists and bloggers have pointed out, we don’t really know anything about what may or may not have happened. The Star just printed allegations. Regardless of the situation, we’re fascinated by the kinds of relationships people label as appropriate and inappropriate.

Sex Toy Safety in Canada, A Response to Hon. Dr. Carolyn Bennett

Mon, 04 Jan 2010 00:00:00 -0400

When we first read the Hon. Dr. Carolyn Bennett’s letter to the Federal Minister of Health, Leona Aglukkaq about the regulation of sex toys in Canada we weren’t sure how to feel about it. We were thrilled to see an MP talking about sexuality, and talking about sex toys in a way that wasn’t questioning an individual’s right to use them (such a change from what we hear from our American colleagues and customers).

But as we got talking about it pretty quickly we realized something wasn’t sitting right with us. The letter and the subsequent media coverage framed the issues in an incredibly narrow way (women are the only ones who use sex toys? Sex toy regulation represents an “urgent” health issue?) Equally upsetting for us as activists was what we see a lack of thinking through on the part of retailers calling for regulation. If sex toys were to somehow be regulated for health safety reasons, this could very likely lead to a further medicalization of sexual pleasure, something we’re already fighting on a few fronts. We remain unconvinced that the government is the place to turn for complicated understandings of sexual health and pleasure, particularly for those of us who experience marginalization based on gender and/or sexuality.

We knew we had to speak up, so we collectively drafted this letter which we’ve sent to the minister. Whether she responds, or this issue goes anywhere, it’s our hope that any further public discussion about the issue will include not just a small group of relatively affluent Canadians, but any of us who want to be heard. We also encourage you to contact the minister directly with words of support, comment, or concern. Dr. Bennett has an admirable track record of raising difficult issues and fighting for women’s sexual and reproductive health.

We hope you’ll join us in helping her widen her vision and begin a larger and more complicated conversation about sexual pleasure, health, and sex toy safety in Canada.

You can see the letter we sent here, or keep reading the less official looking, no letterhead version below.

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Hon. Dr. Carolyn Bennett
Community Office
1650 Yonge Street, Suite 103
Toronto, Ontario M4T 2A2

Tuesday January 5, 2010

Dear Hon. Dr. Bennett:

We are writing to thank you for your recent interest in sexual health concerns related to the sex toy industry in Canada. We are pleased to hear of your commitment to raising awareness of sexual well-being and are impressed and excited by your statements encouraging our government not to shy away from discussions on matters such as sex toys because of potential personal discomfort.

We hope that your actions will give way to a larger national discussion on these matters. And it’s in that spirit that we wanted to share some of our concerns about the way these issues are being framed both in your letter and in the media.

Our first concern is the framing of sex toy safety as an issue of concern to only, or primarily to women. A recently published article in the Journal of Sexual Medicine reported that only slightly more women than men (52% vs. 45%) use vibrators [1]. But more importantly we don’t believe that binary gender divisions are useful here. For-profit retailers may choose to market to a specific demographic, but as a co-operatively run sex store that represents Canadians of multiple genders, orientations, and identities, we can tell you that men, women, trans folk, people who don’t feel like they fit in any of those categories, and people who identify as straight, gay, bisexual, and otherwise have been using sex toys for decades, and they are equally affected by sex toy safety. We’d like to propose that as we begin this conversation we invite everyone to participate, not only those with established political or financial clout.

Our second concern is about ideas of regulation, safety, and access. We’re sure you agree with us that safety and risk exist on a continuum. The question that your letter poses for us is this: who benefits and who loses if only those products that carry zero risk are permitted to be sold? The toys that are currently being raised as potentially toxic represent those that are more affordable, while the toys that are being held up as safer are financially out of reach for many of us. While we agree that further research should be done to determine the safety of sex toy materials, we are concerned that banning all but those that carry zero risk may be akin to demanding that we all eat organic--while this might be ideal, approaching the issue by simply banning all others produces risks leaving many hungry. At Come As You Are we believe that less expensive products increase accessibility to sexual exploration and health. We believe that informing consumers of the risks and teaching them how to protect themselves (for example, using condoms on toys) is preferable to attempting to ban all but the most expensive of products.

Finally, while we appreciate how difficult it is to prioritize health issues, we do want to propose that in Canada we have other, more urgent, sexual health issues, issues that are already well identified by research, and that arguably impact a larger number of Canadians. We are thinking of the fact that Indigenous women in this country continue to be many times more likely to die of cervical cancer than their Non-Indigenous counterparts[2] ; that abortions continue to be inaccessible to women across the nation, but in particular to women living in the north[3] ; and that HIV in Canada continues to disproportionately affect specific populations, such as men who have sex with men and Aboriginal peoples[4] .

While we care deeply and passionately about sex toys and their implication in sexual health, we believe that the above issues perhaps deserve more attention than the likely impossible task of regulating a largely undefined and under-researched product category such as sex toys.

We’d like to join with you and ensure that these issues and the many other sexual health issues facing Canadians today receive the time, funding, and consideration they are due.

Thank you again for raising this important issue. We look forward to the opportunity to discuss this with you in the future..

Wishing you a happy new year,

Ignacia Black, Annanda DaSilva, Charlotte Henderson, Holly Hirst, Reese Jones, gill lamon, Sarah Forbes-Roberts, Cory Silverberg
Come As You Are Co-operative.

References:

1. Herbenick, D., Reece, M., Sanders, S.A., et. al. "Prevalence and Characteristics of Vibrator Use by Women in the United States: Results from a Nationally Representative Study" Journal of Sexual Medicine. Vol. 6, No. 7 (2009):1857 – 1866.

2. National Aboriginal Health Organization. Cancer of the Cervix in North American Indian Women: A literature review. First Nations Centre, October 2006. Accessed 12/28/09.

3. Shaw, Jessica. Reality Check: A Close Look at Accessing Abortion Services in Canadian Hospitals. Canadians for Choice Report Launch National Press Club. April 2nd 2007. Accessed 12/27/09.

4. Smith, Michael R. HIV in Canada: Trends and Issues for Advancing Prevention, Care, Treatment and Support through Knowledge Exchange. Centre for Infectious Disease Prevention & Control, PHAC. Accessed 1/1/10.

Sexuality Workshop for Youth with Brain Injuries

Thu, 03 Dec 2009 00:00:00 -0400

Bloorview Kids Rehab, Canada's largest children's rehabilitation hospital, is running three great workshops in February on the topic of dating, sexuality, and relationships for youth with brain injuries.

All three workshops take place on February 16, 2010 at 7:00pm. One is for children 8-14, one for youth 15-25, and one for parents. Giving both parents and youth an opportunity to talk and ask questions without the other present is so important, and not having that kind of boundary is one of the big obstacles for youth living with disabilities around accessing sexual information.

All three workshops are free of charge, but you do have to register for them.

They have a brochure with more information and contact details to registers. The link below will download a pdf version of the brochure.

Sexuality, Safety & Smarts: A workshop about dating, sexuality & relationships after brain injury

Sexuality, Disability, and Attendant Services Survey

Sun, 03 Jan 2010 00:00:00 -0400

The Sexuality and Access Project is a Trillium funded community research project that is looking into the ways that folks who use attendant services and their attendants deal with negotiating sexual requests.

If you need attendant services you probably need your attendant to assist with some aspects of sexual expression (whether that’s dressing up the way you want, going out to a strip club or bar, a sex party or sex store, etc….)

But attendants receive no training and little guidance on what is and isn’t part of their job, and if you use attendant services you’ve probably never had any training or guidance on how to talk with an attendant about sex.

This project is an initial effort at addressing these lacks and developing training and resources for both attendants and people who use attendant services.

If you use attendant services, they want to hear from you. You can fill out a survey here (you’ll have to cut and paste the URL, sometimes the link doesn’t work):

https://www.surveymonkey.com/s/6TPRSRR

If you need assistance in filling out a survey, or would be able to participate in a phone survey, please contact the project coordinator, Fran Odette, at the information below.

There is also a survey for attendants. If you know of attendants who you think would be interested in completing the survey, they will have to cut and paste that survey address below and paste into their server. It should take them directly to the attendant survey:

https://www.surveymonkey.com/s/V7TSFYD

To learn more about the project or to receive a version of the online survey in alternate format, contact

Fran Odette, Project Coordinator at 416-968-3422 Ext. 30 or at f.odette@gmail.com

This project is done in partnership with the Centre for Independent Living in Toronto, Niagara Centre for Independent Living, and Independent Centre and Network

something's a little off...

Thu, 04 Mar 2010 00:00:00 -0400

The other day, one of our CAYA staff members was doing a quite innocent google search for “cum as you are” (cause, why not), and came up with this gem.

Reminiscent of some spam emails that I’m sure everyone gets with oddly placed and sometimes non-existent english words, we are treated to some awesome descriptions of the ladies that are “advertised” on www.favoritegirl.net. It may also just be a botched translation.

Some of my faves:

-“Her place is so newborn and has a clump of firm noesis already.”

-the use of the word “crapper”

-“Wow… does this teenaged countenance artful or what! Britney has these artful braces on which declare shes… meet overturned 18!”

-“Check discover the galleries beneath but if you poverty more go here.”

-“Dream buffoon is so hot…”

-“Hmmm Karenic is lethargic alright.”

Enjoy.

Songs About Female Masturbation

Tue, 02 Dec 2008 00:00:00 -0400

Inspired by the release of Pink's new single, "Sober" the folks at Jezebel have compiled their favourite songs about female masturbation. I haven't seen the Pink video yet but apparently it has a scene of her writhing around in a bed with someone who is also Pink. Technically once we can clone ourselves I"m not sure that having sex with your clone is masturbation, but that's one I'll leave to futurists.I haven't been through the many reader comments adding to the Jezebel list but wanted to add my favourite, which has got to be Lucinda William's "Right In Time".

Sparkle Cocktail Party

Tue, 10 Nov 2009 00:00:00 -0400

Next Wednesday, come check out the Sparkle Cocktail Party as part of the weekly event Granny Boots held at the Gladstone, 1214 Queen St W right here in Toronto. Featuring performances by some of our staff here at Come As You Are, and more. Wheelchair accessible dance party!

Spend the Night with Come As You Are (plus half a million art lovers)

Thu, 01 Oct 2009 00:00:00 -0400

Survey for Immigrant Youth in Toronto

Wed, 09 Sep 2009 00:00:00 -0400

Reposting this for the folks at the Griffin Centre, a great organization supporting "vulnerable youth and adults with mental health challenges and/or developmental disabilities" that also does some amazing work around queer youth living with and/or labeled with disabilities. They're asking people to pass this around, so if you know anyone who would be eligible please forward.

Survey on Invisible Chronic Illness - Lesbian and bisexual women, and Trans people

Wed, 06 Jan 2010 00:00:00 -0400

We wanted to pass along this call for participants. I wasn't aware of the acronym "ICI" for invisible chronic illnesses, but the experience of being disabled or living with a chronic illness or disability that isn't immediately apparent to others is one that is so far in the closet, in terms of most people's understanding of it, that any well thought out research would surely be a help in generating public discussion and awareness. I understand the need for research to focus, but also have to say it's a bit of a shame that they aren't open to hearing from people of all genders, it's not as if there's a lot of great qualitative research on invisible chronic illness at all. But getting this post reminded me of a fabulous post I read on FWD/Forward about Invisible Disability Bingo.

Here's the call for participants, information about the researcher is at the bottom:

The purpose of this survey is to gather information regarding the challenges faced by lesbian, bisexual and queer women, and transgendered and transsexual people who live with invisible chronic illnesses.

You do not have to have a formal medical diagnosis to fill out this survey. However, you must have an invisible chronic physical condition. Invisible chronic illnesses (ICIs) share a number of characteristics regardless of diagnosis. Some of these characteristics are: non-observable symptoms (i.e. pain, fatigue, cognitive difficulty), some symptoms are immeasurable, sometimes people appear well, and the illness has periods of exacerbation and remission. There are many ICIs. A few examples are: multiple sclerosis, arthritis, HIV, fibromyalgia, lupus, and irritable bowel syndrome.

If you are not sure whether you are living with an ICI we still want to hear from you. Please fill out the survey. There will be room at the end for comments and you can let us know there why you are not sure.

You also must reside in Canada since the results of the survey will be used to advocate for change within the Canadian medical system and for community-based services. It does not matter whether you are a Canadian citizen, permanent resident, refugee claimant, temporary worker, or undocumented. As well, you must be at least 18 years old.

This survey is anonymous. You are not requested to provide your name to participate. Any identifying information you provide will be altered to ensure confidentiality. Your privacy will be protected.

The results of this survey will be presented at the Rainbow Health Ontario 2010 Conference to raise awareness regarding ICIs and to start a conversation that will lead to change regarding the services needed for lesbian, bisexual, and queer women and trans people living with ICIs. To find out more about Rainbow Health Ontario go to: http://www.rainbowhealthontario.ca/

Additionally, results from this survey may be used for publication to raise awareness and/or advocate for change.

The survey takes between 20 and 30 minutes to fill out. Here is the link:

http://www.surveymonkey.com/s/icisurvey

The survey will be online until February 21, 2010.

About the researcher

The researcher is Silvana Bazet. This survey was designed by Silvana with the input of a Community Advisory Committee. Silvana is a lesbian and lives with an undiagnosed ICI. She is also a psychotherapist in private practice and Clinical Member of the Ontario Society of Psychotherapists. To find out more about Silvana go to: http://torontopsychotherapy.wordpress.com

Should you have any questions or comments, please contact Silvana at: queericisurvey@gmail.com

The survey is also available in Word to be printed and distributed to those who may not have access to a computer. Please contact Silvana to obtain a copy.

Synergy and Rhythm: OXFAM/ArtCorps Fundraiser

Fri, 11 Dec 2009 00:00:00 -0400

From Toronto-based, Columbia-born artist Monica Gutierrez:

THE CAUSE: In El Salvador, one out of every three women is a victim of violence. Young women between the ages of 15 and 29 years are most often targeted, typically by male relatives and teachers. Despite growing awareness about the problem of violence against women in Latin America, public policies still lack a gender perspective and police, prosecutors and other authorities continue to use discriminatory terms and practices in cases of murdered women and violence against women.

In response, ArtCorps is initiating a new partnership with Oxfam America and the Gender-based Violence Prevention Campaign in El Salvador. ArtCorps is sending Colombian-born, Toronto-based artist Monica Gutierrez to fill a volunteer position in order to empower communities in building stronger, more peaceful societies by using participatory arts as a strategy for education and engagement. Monica will also strive to perpetuate the use of participatory art as an innovative tool for empowering and educating communities among non-governmental organizations.

OXFAM/ArtCorps Fundraiser
WHEN: Sunday, December. 20th, 2009
WHERE: Teranga African Bar & Restaurant (159 Augusta Ave), 5:00PM
PWYC, suggested $10.00 donation payable at door.

Performing:
- "The Resolutionaries" Zimbabwe Marimba band led by Chaka Chikodzi with Africville Productions (http://www.africville.net/)
- Jadea Kelly (http://jadea.ca/)
- Capoeira dance performance (Open roda)
- DJ Soulquest

The Other Come As You Are

Tue, 01 Dec 2009 00:00:00 -0400

We may be a worker co-operative, but we can be as vain as any regular undemocratic business and it should come as no surprise that we have several vanity alerts for our name, Come As You Are. For years these alerts have been a source of humour and joy for us, as we often find our name in the most unexpected places. We thought we'd share our favouties in this new blog series called The Other Come As You Are. If you have any examples of your own, let us know.

Today's entry has us addressing a church in Birmingham, Alabama on the question "Should Churches Welcome Members of the GLBT Community?"

Spoiler alert....we say YES!

The What You Really Wanted Sale

Sat, 26 Dec 2009 00:00:00 -0400

We can't help but love any tradition that encourages giving to others, but we're even bigger fans of self-love and firmly believe that one should do unto oneself as good as or better than one does on to order!

In the spirit of giving, we're making self-pleasuring less painful with our boxing week sale. In store, check out our wheel-o-deals for your chance to win prizes and discounts! Online, save 5% when you spend $50, 10% on $100, and a whopping 20% on $200!

Toronto Event: Blazing the Indigenous Feminist Trail

Thu, 04 Mar 2010 00:00:00 -0400

This looks like a great discussion happening at OISE. Last week Cory was in San Francisco at Sex:Tech speaking on a panel about feminist sex education. It's very exciting to have so many other people talking about, problematizing, and generally digging into what any of us mean when we talk about our work or ourselves as feminist.

If you're interested the event has a Facebook page (click here), but copied below are some of the highlights.

"Indigenous Feminism" has been taken up as more than just a “theory” by Indigenous academics and activists throughout Turtle Island and beyond. But still many people reject the term. What does “Indigenous Feminism” constitute? Is it just about women? Isn’t feminism a “white-woman’s” thing? Isn’t land really the only issue?

A powerhouse evening featuring two incredible women who have shaped and continue to blaze the Indigenous feminist trail, and who will never be defined solely by one theory.

Featuring
Andrea Smith, co-founder of Incite! Women of Color Against Violence and the Boarding School Healing Project

Lee Maracle, award-winning poet, novelist, performance storyteller, scriptwriter, actor, and writer in residence at First Nations House at University of Toronto

Moderated by Jessica Yee, founder and executive director of the Native Youth Sexual Health Network

Where: Ontario Institute for Studies in Education
252 Bloor W, Rm 2-212

When: March 25, 7-9pm

This event is free and the building is wheelchair accessible.

For more information check out their Facebook page or email cwse@utoronto.ca.

Toronto Symposium: "Disability and Sexuality: Globalizing Perspectives”

Fri, 08 Jan 2010 00:00:00 -0400

There aren't many professional opportunities for folks interested in sexuality and disability, no matter where you live. In Toronto we have something maybe once every two or three years, so when we heard about this one day symposium being organized by the International Centre for Disability and Rehabilitation, we got in touch and offered to help. Come As You Are has been helping out with organizing and programming, and I'm going to moderate a morning panel.

I'm assuming there will be a a rehabilitation focus at this one, but the keynote speaker is simply one of the best speakers (and thinkers) in the areas of disability, gender, sexuality, trans, and queer issues. Funny, smart, powerful every time I see him. And lots of great people on the panels, so it should be interesting. Of course it will be more interesting with more folks from different perspectives attending.

The event is wheelchair accessible, ASL interpretation will be provided, as well as captioning.

Early bird registration ($60) ends next Tuesday. You can download the flyer here, and information below:

2010 Symposium: “Disability and Sexuality: Globalizing Perspectives”
Friday, January 29, 2010
8:30 am ? 4:30 pm
500 University Avenue, Room 132

Keynote Address: “Pity, Stereotypes, and Access: Disabled People Navigating Sex”
Eli Clare, activist and poet
White, disabled, and genderqueer, Eli Clare has a B.A. in Women's Studies and a M.F.A. in Creative
Writing. He has spoken all over the United States about disability, queer and trans identities, and social
justice issues. Eli is the author of a book of essays entitled Exile and Pride: Disability, Queerness, and
Liberation and the poetry collection The Marrow's Telling: Words in Motion, and has been published in
many periodicals and anthologies.

Agenda in brief:
Morning panel: Reflections on Disability and Sexuality
Speakers include experts Loree Erickson (York University), Frank Folino (Ontario Rainbow Alliance of
the Deaf) and Sheryl Newman (Canadian Paraplegic Association), Moderator: Cory Silverberg

Lunch (provided)

Afternoon panel: Reflections on Working with People With Disabilities in Poor Countries
Speakers include Deb Cameron (Trinidad Working Group) and Lynn Cockburn (Cameroon Working Group), Moderator: Fran Odette

Looking Forward: Implications for the Field and for Us, Stephanie Nixon (ICDR Academic Director)

Conclusions: Meeting of Minds

Fee:
Early bird (Jan. 12) registration: $60
Early bird (Jan. 12) students: $25

After January 12:

Registration: $75
Students: $40

Tickets available at UofTtix box office, 416?978?8849 and online at uofttix.ca

Toronto's Everything to do with Sex Show

Tue, 17 Nov 2009 00:00:00 -0400

It’s the Everything to do with Sex Show’s 10^th anniversary, and once again, Come As You Are will be there representin’. Held at the Direct Energy Centre on the CNE grounds (closest to the Princes’ Gates), this trade show/exhibition/consumer bonanza brings in around 50,000 visitors over the course of it’s three-day weekend--this year, beginning on Friday.

It’s no Vegas AEE by a long shot, but it does still have that rush of excitement in the air. Tons of vendors, live lingerie shows, seminars and over-priced food abound. Unfortunately they don’t get many big porn names to migrate north for the weekend, although they did manage to wrangle Ashlynn Brooke, who is fantastic in a couple of films we carry (Scrubs XXX and The Office XXX).

Come on down this weekend and say hey to us, check out our sweet booth, and if you’re lucky, grab some of our top-secret new CAYA swag – to be unveiled this Friday. We’re gonna be located at booth numbers 323&422, at the start of a row near the workshop space at the northwest corner of the building.

See you there!

Trans PULSE Wants to Hear from You!

Sun, 25 Jan 2009 00:00:00 -0400

This came to us from Jake Pyne, a long time friend of the store who also gives kick-ass trans workshops (we know, he's done them for us). If you're in Ontario and identify as trans, or know someone in Ontario, please forward this along: Building Our Communities Through Research Trans PULSE is an exciting community-based research project exploring how being excluded from society and experiencing transphobia affect our health and services.

Tune In: Orgasm Inc. on CBC's Passionate Eye

Wed, 18 Nov 2009 00:00:00 -0400

We were honoured to be a sponsor of the fabulous documentary Orgasm Inc. at this year's Hot Docs film festival and we're so happy for director Liz Canner and everyone involved in the doc that it's airing this Sunday night, November 22, on the Passionate Eye on CBC TV.

It couldn't be more timely, what with the recent media push about flibanserin, the newest "female Viagra" that hasn't been approved for use, doesn't really represent any breakthroughs in research, and yet still is getting press around the globe.

Check it out. You'll laugh, you'll cry, you may never look at drugs the same way again.

Orgasm Inc. the website

Passionate Eye on CBC TV

Uncover Ostomy

Tue, 20 Oct 2009 00:00:00 -0400

World Ostomy Day was celebrated earlier this month, and I was just alerted to a great blog/website/movement that a fellow young Torontonian has created. It's all about allowing, and empowering, people to feel sexy regardless of having an ostomy. Of course, it's easy for Jessica Grossman, a natural model, actor, artist--I wish that she'd do porn! (I'm hoping that she wouldn't take that offensively at all...)

Check out the website at www.uncoverostomy.com, join the facebook page, and all that good stuff.

Violet on Oprah on Porn

Mon, 16 Nov 2009 00:00:00 -0400

The show title sounds bad, but at least one of the guests gives us hope. Tomorrow on Oprah,

Why Millions of Women Are Using Porn and Erotica

The online teaser includes Jenna - "every woman has a Jenna Jameson in her" -Jameson and plenty of shots of Oprah looking puzzled. We wouldn't even bother except Violet Blue is one of the guests. She managed to get some great stuff into the O Magazine and isn't known for a whole lot of compromise, so we're tuning in and hoping to be turned on.

Tomorrow on Oprah

And if you'd rather get Violet uncensored, check out our selection of Violet's sex how to's and erotica collections.

What's Cooking in the Marital Aid Test Kitchen?

Mon, 20 Oct 2008 00:00:00 -0400

One of our favourite recurring spots on Fleshbot is the Marital Aid Test Kitchen. Originally penned (I think exclusively) by Come As You Are porn-nerd crush Gram Ponante, the kitchen's been remodelled and expanded several times, and today's informative installment comes from newly crowned editor of Fleshbot, Lux Alptraum (speaking of porn nerd crushes). Lux took one of our favorite rechargeables, the Natural Contours Ideal, for a test drive and it looks like she won't be bringing it back to the lot:"A powerful vibe that doesn't need to be plugged in, with a fancy g-spotter attachment.

What's New On Our Shelves

Wed, 11 Nov 2009 00:00:00 -0400

It’s exciting to be able to get new silicone toys around here, and we’ve got a bunch of new stuff for you to check out.

First, there’s Fun Factory’s Share XS, another version of their double dildo. This one has the same size end for the wearer, but the other end is much smaller. Great for beginners to receiving anal penetration, or those who prefer something a bit smaller. Can be worn with or without a harness.

Next up is one of the brand spankin’ new Lelo toys, Billy. Very similar to the Liv, Billy has a bit of a flared base to make it safe for both vaginal and anal penetration. Fancy pulsing settings as well as a great rechargeable, long-lasting motor.

2 more dildos from our fave Canadian silicone toy makers, Happy Valley brings us Joy and Jet. Both come in nice firm silicone in shiny colours, they also feature a little space for a wireless bullet in the base if you want a vibrating toy. Great for use with harnesses, or however you want to play!

What's New on our shelves?

Tue, 08 Sep 2009 00:00:00 -0400

Here’s what’s new and shiny on our shelves this week: I’ve got three classic and classically inspired offerings.

First up, is the long awaited re-release of Zazel. This was one of our best selling titles when we first opened, and they’ve just made it available in a brand new 2-disc edition, remastered in HD widescreen.

The look of our new Tear Leather Fetish Collar can only be described as classic. Turn any neck into an El Greco masterpiece!

And what’s more classic than a good ol' queer daddy fantasy? Daddies offers stories of younger guys lusting after older, more experienced men...and vice-versa.

When Does a Sex Toy Become a 'Pleasure Aid'?

Mon, 03 Nov 2008 00:00:00 -0400

A: When it's being displayed on TVGuide.com. At least that's what happened to one of our most beloved sex toys, the NaughtiNano, when we sent a few dozen to the folks putting together the gift bags for the cast of The Starter Wife. We know we're supposed to be most excited about getting a vibe in the hands of the star, Debra Messing, but truth be told, it was knowing that something went from our little shop in the hinterlands of Canada directly into the talented and sexy hands of Judy Davis that has our collective panties in a bunch.But back to the euphemism. Once approached to contribute something sexually suggestive to the bags our first phone call was to Suki and Brian at OhMiBod, they of the beautifully designed, smartly functional, tech friendly vibrators.

Who needs a real man? (uggh)

Mon, 05 Oct 2009 00:00:00 -0400

I don't know who this is really marketed to--people that have recently broken up with their partners, single people, or possibly those in a relationship that might be considering inviting a third to their sex life, this pillow is absolutely hilarious and amazing. I don't think I fall into any of those categories personally, but I still want one. Who wouldn't?! It's the natural step after having one of the Pillow People from the 80's.

Wrap It Up and Save!

Thu, 03 Dec 2009 00:00:00 -0400

From December 1st to 11th all Canadian orders get free Canada Post XpressPost shipping, and orders over $100 receive a special gift (which you can gift along, or keep for yourself as a reward for getting all your shopping done early!) Check out our Holiday Sex Toys.

Writer Looking for Multiple Orgasmers

Sat, 16 Jan 2010 00:00:00 -0400

A local author we know and love asked us to pass this along:

Writer, Claudia Dey, is looking for first hand accounts from multi-orgasmic men and from women with multi-orgasmic male partners for her book, 'How To Be A Bush Pilot: A Field Guide to the Secrets of Female Pleasure.' All contributions will be confidential. Please email: madamebalcony@gmail.com before January 21.

Writer Looking for Strap-On Input

Thu, 03 Dec 2009 00:00:00 -0400

A Canadian playwright and author we know and love is working on a new book and asked if we would pass this along:

Writer, Claudia Dey, is looking for first hand accounts from women having strap-on sex with their male partners for her book, 'How To Be A Bush Pilot: A Field Guide to the Secrets of Female Pleasure.' All contributions will be confidential. Please email: madamebalcony@gmail.com before December 11.

fact sheet

Mon, 01 Feb 2010 13:10:00 -0400

Come As You Are is the world’s only worker co-operative sex toy store and Canada's premiere sexuality resource company. Encompassing retail, internet, wholesale/distribution and educational outreach, the company operates a busy Toronto location and Canada’s most extensive sexual products website at www.comeasyouare.com

electronic press kit

Tue, 12 Jan 2010 17:39:00 -0400

Corporate information, press coverage, and more.

media reviews and appearances

Tue, 12 Jan 2010 17:36:00 -0400

With over twenty years in the sex toy industry, and a staff certified sexuality educator Come As You Are has been a trusted resource for researchers, journalists and editors looking for what’s new in sex as well as context for stories that touch on sexual health and pleasure. Here are some of the media who have covered us or turned to us for help with their stories.

services et programmes

Thu, 06 May 2010 08:38:00 -0400

Venez tels quels offre une variété de programmes et de services à Toronto et au Canada. De notre programme de recyclage des piles à nos services d'ateliers accessibles, nos services réflètent nos valeurs fondamentales et notre culture.

Commandes spéciales

Wed, 11 Aug 2010 11:21:00 -0400

il y a un jouet érotique particulier qui vous intéresse? Un DVD ou un livre que vous ne voyez pas sur notre site web? Il y a un produit que vous aimeriez que nous ayons en inventaire? Contactez-nous pour nous le laisser savoir.

Comment choisir des billes anales

Wed, 22 Sep 2010 16:41:00 -0400

Si vous n'avez jamais exploré la pénétration anale auparavant, vous devriez peut-être commencer avec votre doigt ou celui de quelqu'un d'autre (si vous débutez, voyez nos astuces sur les jeux anaux). Nous ne recommendons pas les billes anales comme première expérience anale.

Comment choisir la littérature érotique

Fri, 30 Apr 2010 13:55:00 -0400

Si c'est votre première incursion dans l'univers des mots juteux et chaleureux ou si vous recherchez de nouveaux chemins vers les plaisirs de la lecture, voici quelques astuces sur le choix de la littérature érotique.

comment choisir un condom

Wed, 22 Sep 2010 16:39:00 -0400

Choisir le meilleur condom implique habituellement quelques essais et erreurs. Nous offrons la plupart de nos condoms à l'unité afin que vous puissiez apprendre ce qui vous convient le mieux en expérimentant les différences.

comment choisir un accessoire érotique

Wed, 22 Sep 2010 16:42:00 -0400

Comment choisir un anneau pénien

Wed, 22 Sep 2010 16:40:00 -0400

Choisir l'anneau pénien idéal est définitivement un processus d'essais et d'erreurs. 50% de nos clients achetant des anneaux péniens les achètent pour leurs partenaires, ce qui peut rendre les choses encore plus ardues.

Comment choisir un anneaux pénien vibrant

Wed, 22 Sep 2010 16:41:00 -0400

Les anneaux vibrants, aussi appellés anneaux péniens vibrants, sont des jouets des plus versatiles: nous les recommandons pour de multiples usages. Les anneaux plus simples peuvent s'utiliser à la base du pénis ou d'un dildo pour offrir une stimulation supplémentaire lors de la pénétration.

Comment choisir un dildo

Tue, 23 Mar 2010 17:36:00 -0400

Se décider pour un dildo se résume à trois choses : la forme, le matériel et la couleur. Vous cherchez sûrement quelque chose qui vous plait et qui vous procurera d'agréables sensations. La plupart de nos dildos sont faits de caoutchouc ou sont rigides.

Comment choisir un dildo anal

Wed, 22 Sep 2010 16:37:00 -0400

Choisir un dildo anal n'est pas bien différent de choisir un dildo régulier. Vous devez simplement vous assurer que le dildo est sécuritaire pour un usage anal.

Comment choisir un dildo double

Wed, 22 Sep 2010 16:42:00 -0400

Bien que votre but soit probablement de trouver le double dildo parfait, il est important de garder à l'esprit qu'il n'y a pas un dildo double parfait. Comme il s'agit d'un objet inanimé entre deux corps animés, les doubles dildos ont besoin de plus qu'un design efficace et songé ainsi que la matériel idéal...

Comment choisir un film porno

Tue, 23 Mar 2010 17:31:00 -0400

Choisir de la porno est une question de savoir ce qui nous allume ou pas et ce qui existe. Comme tout le reste, sauf qu'ici l'immense quantité de films produits et l'absence d'informations claires rendent le choix plus problématique.

Comment choisir un harnais

Tue, 23 Mar 2010 17:39:00 -0400

Lorsque l'on recherche un harnais, on cherche quelque chose qui soit à la fois confortable et beau. Les harnais sont disponibles dans une grande variété de modèles, tout en ayant de petites différences notables au niveau de l'ajustement et des sensations lorsqu'on les porte. Deux modèles de base existent : le harnais ouvert ( jock style) ou le g-string.

Comment choisir un jouet BDSM

Wed, 22 Sep 2010 16:38:00 -0400

Peut-être plus que pour tous les autres jouets érotiques, choisir un jouet BDSM est relié avec votre degré d'expérience et de confort. À cause de l'image générale du fétichisme et du BDSM dans les médias de masse, plusieurs clients entrent en boutique dans l'intention d'acheter le plus gros et brutal jouet BDSM disponible.

Comment choisir un lubrifiant

Wed, 22 Sep 2010 16:39:00 -0400

Nous recommandons l'usage d'un lubrifiant avec tous les jouets que nous vendons. Les vibrateurs, dildos, jouets anaux et jouets masturbatoires pour hommes ne lurbfient pas par eux-mêmes et leur ajouter du lubrifiant augmentera votre appréciation.

Comment choisir un vibrateur

Fri, 30 Apr 2010 13:56:00 -0400

Nous considérons qu'un vibrateur est un jouet muni d'un moteur vibrant. Cela semble simple, mais plusieurs vibrateurs ressemblent à des dildos et sont alors considérés comme tels par erreur. Les vibrateurs se branchent, sont munis de batteries ou se rechargent.

Comment faire une commande

Tue, 23 Mar 2010 20:30:00 -0400

C'est la façon la plus simple et la plus rapide de commander chez nous. Alors que vous visionnez les pages de notre site web, vous pouvez simplement ajouter des articles à votre panier d'achats en cliquant sur le bouton "commander".

Comment nettoyer le Aneros

Sun, 05 Sep 2010 20:50:00 -0400

Le Aneros est fabriqué de matériel non poreux approuvé par la FDA. Les matériaux sont approuvés à la fois pour le contact avec le corps et les fluides corporels. Votre Aneros devrait durer des années en autant que vous en preniez soin.

comment nettoyer un binder

Sun, 05 Sep 2010 20:46:00 -0400

Les binders (aussi connus sous le nom de veste ou de camisoles de compression) devraient toujours être nettoyés à l'eau froide, préférablement à la main. Bien que les binders Underworks ainsi que les Double T soient lavables à la machine, vos binders dureront plus longtemps et conserveront leur élasticités s'ils sont lavés à la main. Suspendez vos binders pour les faire sécher plutôt que d'utiliser une sécheuse.

Comment stimuler le point G

Sun, 26 Sep 2010 15:30:00 -0400

Comprennez-nous bien: nous aimons le point G et nous vendons de nombreux jouets érotiques permettant de stimuler le point G. Cependant, collectivement, nous avons plus de 30 ans d'expériences de discussion, d'explication et de réconfort face à des clients qui étaient complètement convaincus que quelque chose clochait avec eux car il leur était impossible de "trouver" leur point G.

Comment utiliser le Aneros

Fri, 12 Nov 2010 12:15:00 -0400

Le Aneros bouge en transformant les contractions du sphincter anal en mouvement. Chaque pression du sphincter anal fait avancer le Aneros, offrant un massage prostatique interne direct.

Comment utiliser les billes anales

Thu, 14 Oct 2010 14:28:00 -0400

Les billes anales offrent une sensation unique. Il n'y a pas grand comparatif possible. Ce que cela veut dire? L'usage des billes anales n'est pas pour tout le monde. Vous pouvez aimez ou ne pas aimer la sensation et il est fort probable que vous ne le saurez qu'après l'avoir essayé.

Comment utiliser un condom

Fri, 22 Oct 2010 13:45:00 -0400

Si vous utilisez des condoms adéquatement et fréquemment, ces derniers peuvent être efficaces dans la prévention des infections transmissibles sexuellement (ITS) jusqu'à 98%. Voici les étapes de l'usage approprié et du retrait adéquat du condom.

Comment utiliser un condom féminin

Fri, 05 Nov 2010 12:11:00 -0400

Le condom féminin est une méthode barrière sans latex visant à protéger les femmes pendant les rapports sexuels. Elle offre une protection contre les infections transmissibles sexuellement et permet d'éviter les grossesses non désirées.

Comment utiliser un dildo

Fri, 05 Nov 2010 11:29:00 -0400

Les dildos sont des jouets érotiques qui donnent beaucoup de pouvoir sur soi-même car ce sont des jouets qui ne font que ce que vous désirez qu'ils fassent. Lorsque vous jouez avec un dildo, ce n'est que vous, et cela vous donne une expérience physique et psychologique

Comment utiliser un dildo anal

Fri, 05 Nov 2010 11:22:00 -0400

Utiliser un dildo anal n'est pas très différent d'utiliser un plug anal et, tout comme les plugs anaux, les dildos anaux sont un excellent moyen d'explorer la pénétration anal et de voir si vous appréciez cette pratique avant de la vivre avec une autre personne.

Comment utiliser un dildo double

Fri, 15 Oct 2010 11:46:00 -0400

Nous aimons les doubles dildos, mais nous tenons à aviser nos clients que ce sont des jouets généralement imparfaits. En bout de ligne, un dildo double est un objet innanimé entre deux corps mobiles.

Comment utiliser un harnais

Thu, 14 Oct 2010 13:41:00 -0400

Les harnais pour dildos sont une excellente façon d'explorer de nouvelles possibilités dépassant ce que nous pouvons généralement faire avec le corps humain.

Comment utiliser un plug anal

Mon, 25 Oct 2010 12:01:00 -0400

Les plugs anaux sont d'excellentes façons d'explorer les sensations anales. Plusieurs vont commencer avec des plugs anaux pour épicer leurs relations en prévision d'avoir des rapports sexuels anaux.

condoms et sexe sécuritaire

Wed, 22 Sep 2010 16:26:00 -0400

Les barrières telles que les condoms et les digues (de latex ou non) peuvent offrir une manière très efficace de se protéger ainsi que de protéger ses partenaires des infections transmissible sexuellement ou des grossesses non-désirées lors qu'elles sont correctement utilisées. Les condoms, gants, doigtiers et digues ne s'utilisent qu'une seule fois et doivent être changés à chaque activité sexuelle ou à chaque partenaire.

nous contacter

Tue, 17 Apr 2012 16:32:00 -0400

Pour nous contacter pendant nos heures de services, (9h 19h), veuillez nous appeller au 416.504.7934 ou sans frais au 1.888.504.7934. Nous pouvons également être rejoint par courriel pour des requêtes générales au info@comeasyouare.com.

Cote d'explicité des DVD

Fri, 10 Sep 2010 12:20:00 -0400

Chez Venez tels quels, nous voyons tous les films pornos et en faisons l'évaluation avant de décider de les vendre. Lorsque nous cherchions de l'aide pour nos clients, nous avons découvert que la plupart des commentaires sur les films pour adultes étaient soit trop minces et incomplètes, soit elles ne portaient pas sur ce que les clients recherchent comme information. Nous avons donc décidé de faire notre propre système de cotes pour décrire le degré d'explicité des films pornos que nous vendons.

Cyberskin

Tue, 23 Mar 2010 18:19:00 -0400

Voici un nouveau matériel très doux et semblable à la peau. Résistant, élastique et très malléable, ce matériel prend rapidement la température du corps. Le Cyberskin est fabriqué à partir d'un mélange de silicone et de PVC mais il ne devrait pas être bouilli. Nettoyez toujours ce matériel avec de l'eau tiède et un nettoyant doux avant de le sécher et de l'enduire de fécule de maïs (Corn Starch) afin de le garder doux et souple.

Dildo de Caoutchouc

Wed, 22 Sep 2010 13:43:00 -0400

Peu dispendieux, léger et se présentant dans toutes sortes de couleurs amusantes, le Jelly est un matériel poreux. On ne connait jamais exactement les ingrédients qui composent les accessoires de Jelly, aussi nous vous suggérons d'utiliser un condom par-dessus et de toujours bien les laver avec un nettoyant doux et de l'eau.

Dildos

Wed, 22 Sep 2010 13:52:00 -0400

Une ode à la pénétration, telle est notre sélection de dildos réguliers, non faits de silicone. Elle comprend des jouets de caoutchouc souple, de cyberskin, de plastique rigide et de verre pour la pénétration vaginale ou anale. Pour tous ceux qui ont des préoccupations quant à la sécurité de ces dildos, nous leur recommandons de toujours utiliser un condom par-dessus.

Dildos de métal

Wed, 22 Sep 2010 13:49:00 -0400

Très rigides, solides et résistants, les accessoires de métal sont froids au toucher. Ils sont faciles à nettoyer et on peut les réchauffer sous un jet d'eau tiède.

Dildos en acrylique

Wed, 22 Sep 2010 13:44:00 -0400

L'acrylique est une forme de plastique rigide qui ressemble au verre de par son habituelle transparence. Les accessoires d'acrylique ont de très jolies formes et ne sont pas cassants. On peut les nettoyer très facilement tout en évitant de les égratigner.

Directrices

Mon, 10 May 2010 15:04:00 -0400

Du romantique au cochon, les femmes de la porno laissent leur marque dans une industrie dominée par les hommes.

Doin' It Daily - Bondage Tape On Sale

Sun, 07 Mar 2010 00:00:00 -0400

Let your imagination loose with this incredibly versatile toy. 30' feet of re-useable tape that sticks to itself but not to you. Great for anyone who has a hard time with knots, and it looks sexy too! Regular price: $12

Doin' it Daily price: $8
Learn more about Bondage Tape.

Doin' it Daily - Fleshlight STU

Mon, 15 Mar 2010 00:00:00 -0400

Get ready to master the fine art and science of brinksmanship with the Fleshlight Stamina Training Unit! Similar to the classic Fleshlight SpeedBump insert, the Fleshlight STU has exaggerated textured bumps all through the length of the sleeve. The idea behind the STU (and many masturbation programmes designed to help guys 'last longer') is that you masturbate to almost the point of orgasm, and then stop, and repeat. The extreme bumps of the STU just make the challenge a little more challenging! Comes with gold coloured case. Regular price: $85

Doin' it Daily Price: $65

Order Fleshlight STU at this price today only!

Doin' It Daily - Hathor Aphrodisia Lubricant 8oz

Thu, 04 Mar 2010 00:00:00 -0400

A lubricant made for skipping through the daisies! Hathor Aphrodisia pure lube is organically sourced, contains Horny Goat Weed and feels soft like velvet. This water-based lube is unscented, unflavoured and non-sticky. Made with love in Canada. Regular price: $28

Doin' it Daily price: $20
Learn more about Hathor Aphrodisia Lubriciant.

Doin' it Daily - Liberator Throws

Tue, 16 Mar 2010 00:00:00 -0400

Want the throws of passion without the messy clean-up afterward? Looking for some hot kitchen floor sex without the bum crumbs? This brilliant little throw from Liberator provides an ideal barrier between your love-making and the rest of the world. These totally absorbent throws are machine washable and full reversible so you can have sexy satin next to your skin one hot night, and soft, snuggly microfiber the next. | more info about Liberator Throws

Regular price: $80
Doin' it Daily Deal: $60

Doin' It Daily - Love Bumper Love Lounge

Fri, 05 Mar 2010 00:00:00 -0400

Experience sex furniture that makes sex more fun and looks great doing it! The Love Bumper Love Lounge is a complete sex furniture system all-in-one. Open up your sex life to a whole new range of position possibilities with the ergonomically designed Love Lounge. Cover is removable, washable and waterproof. View Love Lounge sex positions on the Love Bumper website. Regular price: $300

Doin' it Daily price: $200
Learn more about Love Bumper Love Lounge.

Doin' it Daily - Master Han's Daughter

Sun, 14 Mar 2010 00:00:00 -0400

One of our favorite sex educators and bondage teachers, Midori, brings us her newest fiction offering--and it was worth the wait! Master Han’s Daughter vividly describes the world of NeoToyko where cyberpunks, pharmaceutical companies, sex workers and Japanese traditions collide to create explicit erotic stories where sex is everything but simple. At times dark and tormented but always with a dash of humour, these characters offer up an erotic pallet both beautiful and violent. A distopic future brimming with sexuality and new erotic possibilities! Regular price: $13.99

Doin' it Daily Price: $10.50

Order Master Han's Daughter at this price today only!

Doin it Daily - Nexus G-Play on Sale

Wed, 10 Mar 2010 00:00:00 -0400

Whether you're feeling indecisive or just want everything all at once, the Nexus Range's G-Play vibrator satisfies both impulses. The G-Play series is a silicone, multi-mode vibrator perfect for g-spot play or anal play. This three pack includes the Small, Medium and Large G-Play vibrators at a nice discount! Regular price: $110

Doin' it Daily price: $90
More about Nexus G-Play

Doin' It Daily - NobEssence Linger Wood Dildo On Sale

Mon, 08 Mar 2010 00:00:00 -0400

Make your love life sustainable with NobEssence wood dildos. The NobEssence Linger is the ultimate in luxury beads. With an ergonomic finger hold, Linger's smooth beads are ideal for either g-spot or anal play. Non-porous, waterproof and made of sustainable wood. Regular price: $160

Doin' it Daily price: $120
Find out more about NobEssence.

Doin' it Daily - NobEssence Tryst

Sat, 13 Mar 2010 00:00:00 -0400

You’ll have more than just a mere Tryst with these stylish sustainable wood dildos from NobEssence. Totally waterproof, non-toxic and easy to clean, their almost-patented inert polymer wood finish will keep your Tryst non-porous and will defy everything you thought you knew about wood. Each piece is handcrafted out of a unique piece of sustainable exotic hardwood. Regular price: $170

Doin' it Daily Price: $100

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Doin' It Daily - OhMiBod FreeStyle On Sale

Sat, 06 Mar 2010 00:00:00 -0400

OhMiBod have always been the true innovators of the music-driven vibrator, and in keeping with that reputation, OhMiBod has released the world's first truly wireless iPod vibrator: FreeStyle. With OhMiBod's 2.4Ghz transmitter hooked up to your music making device, your FreeStyle will vibrate along with your jams 25 feet away from your iPod or iPhone! The FreeStyle is splashproof, rechargeable and has seven modes of vibration for those times when you want the vibe without the music. Works with any mp3 player, discman, walkman or other music device with a headphone jack. Regular price: $150

Doin' it Daily price: $100
Learn more about OhMiBod FreeStyle .

Doin' it Daily - Red Hotz DVD

Fri, 12 Mar 2010 00:00:00 -0400

Got a thing for redheads? This DVD will be just the thing to spice up your evening! A collection of scenes featuring sexy cinnamon babes and their hot partners. All natural bodies. Best scene: the 2 girl light power play scene featuring a red haired pin up domme and her sexy sub, including smoking, soft spanking, flogging and toys. Regular price: $29

Doin' it Daily Price: $15

Order Red Hotz DVD at this price today only!

Doin' it Daily - Slippery Stuff

Wed, 17 Mar 2010 00:00:00 -0400

It goes on thick, but is silky when used, this stayput gel contains no sugar. Many find it easier to use for anal play. Very little taste and no glycerin. Slippery Stuff 4oz and 8oz on sale today!| more info about Slippery Stuff

Regular price: $11 - $16
Doin' it Daily Deal: $8 - $12

Doin' It Daily - White Latex Gloves On Sale

Tue, 09 Mar 2010 00:00:00 -0400

Powder-free, latex gloves. Box of 100. Regular price: $24

Doin' it Daily price: $18
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Du sexe plus sécuritaire avec les jouets érotiques

Fri, 05 Nov 2010 10:41:00 -0400

Pratiquer le sexe sécuritaire avec les jouets érotiques signifie utiliser beaucoup de condoms et nettoyer avec du javelisant. Depuis peu, les jouets érotiques sont fabriqués de matériaux plus sécuritaires et faciles à nettoyer.

Classiques

Mon, 10 May 2010 15:07:00 -0400

Films de l'Âge d'Or de la porn (fin des années 70, début des années 80)

Documentaires Chauds

Mon, 10 May 2010 15:13:00 -0400

Films documentaires chauds à propos du sexe, de la porno et de nos vedettes favorites.

éducatif

Mon, 10 May 2010 15:05:00 -0400

Les classes d'éducation sexuelle devraient être ainsi! Astuces et technique de façons plaisante et amicale.

Indie

Mon, 10 May 2010 15:11:00 -0400

Porno alternative et plus. Des titres pour adultes de compagnies indépendantes et titres au gros budget à la vision altenative.

Kink-a-licious

Mon, 10 May 2010 15:18:00 -0400

Fétichisme des pieds, adoration des seins, BDSM, et plus de sexe hors du cadre ordinaire.

LGBT

Mon, 10 May 2010 15:10:00 -0400

Porno lesbienne, gay, bisexuelle, trans et queer.

Meilleurs vendeurs

Mon, 10 May 2010 15:19:00 -0400

Bien que nous ne pensions pas que ce soit nécessairement le meilleur moyen de choisir vos films, nous avons reçu suffisament de requêtes pour que nous décidions de vous montrer ce que les autres ont préféré les mois passés.

DVD sans sexualité anale

Wed, 09 Jun 2010 08:30:00 -0400

Pour ceux qui savent exactement ce qu'ils ne veulent pas voir dans un film, voici notre sélection de DVD pour adultes sans sexualité anale.

sexe et histoire

Mon, 10 May 2010 15:05:00 -0400

Gros budget, grosses productions, jeux d'acteurs et sexe grandiose. Pour ceux qui veulent du drame avec leur porno.

Sexe Hardcore

Mon, 10 May 2010 15:08:00 -0400

Éclairages, caméra, cul! De la porno droit au but avec de l'intensité et de l'osé à jeter par les fenêtres.

DVD: sexe en groupe

Sat, 05 Jun 2010 07:46:00 -0400

De trios très chaud à gang-bangs amicaux, voici toute une sélection de films pour adultes et de DVD éducatifs contenant au minimum quelques scènes à plusieurs.

éducation sexuelle

Wed, 08 Sep 2010 15:33:00 -0400

Connaissances pratiques pour améliorer votre sexualité

Comment vivre l'éjaculation féminine

Thu, 23 Sep 2010 18:01:00 -0400

Certaines femmes disent que la stimulation du point G mênne à l'expression d'un fluide pendant les rapports sexuels et l'orgasme. Pour plusieurs de ces femmes, beaucoup de fluides sont expulsés pendant les relations sexuelles, jusqu'à l'acceptation graduelle de la possibilité de l'ejaculation féminine. il faut souvent un certain temps à s'adapter au fait que ce n'est pas de l'urine qui est exprimée mais un fluide tout autre, sans lien avec de l'incontinence.

Enfants, ados et parents

Mon, 10 May 2010 15:31:00 -0400

Une sélection de livres mettant l'emphase sur une approche holistique d'une saine sexualité.

Enregistrement

Fri, 10 Sep 2010 14:45:00 -0400

Inscrivez-vous sur Come As You Are de permettre à la caisse rapide et de créer votre propre Come As You Are liste cadeaux.

entrer

Fri, 10 Sep 2010 14:44:00 -0400

Si vous êtes déjà enregistré, entrez votre adresse courriel et votre mot de passe dans le formulaire.

Évaluation des jouets érotiques

Thu, 09 Sep 2010 09:28:00 -0400

Les évaluations de Venez tels quels sont conçues pour vous permettre de naviguer facilement dans notre vaste sélection de jouets érotiques. Dans notre boutique et en ligne, nous ne vendons que des produits que nous avons réellement essayés et appréciés et que nous sommes fiers de vous présenter en boutique. Nous savons que tous nos jouets ne rendrons pas tous nos clients heureux, mais nous savons qu'un "bon" jouet érotique, c'est un jouet érotique qui vous convient personnellement (et non un jouet qui fonctionne pour l'un de nous). Afin de vous aider à trouver le jouet érotique qui vous convient, nous avons fait une côté évaluative de chaque jouet présent sur nos tablettes. Nous avons coté le niveau sonore et l'intensité de chaque jouet et nous avons créé une légende vous permettant de trouver facilement les jouets sans phthalates ou imperméables de vos rêves.

fabriqués au Canada

Fri, 21 May 2010 13:06:00 -0400

Voici notre sélection de jouets érotiques fabriqués au Canada. Nous sommes fiers de suporter les fabriquants canadiens, tels que Hathor Aphrodisia, Happy Valley, Earth's Herbal, Sinvention, Aslan Leather et plusieurs autres.

Faites des recherches avant d'adapter un jouet érotique

Fri, 27 Aug 2010 12:59:00 -0400

Nous aimons les jouets érotiques et nous nous mettons vraiment en colère quand des gens vous disent (désirant généralement vendre quelque chose de plus cher) qu'un jouet est mauvais, que cet autre est une blague que vous ne devriez pas essayer et d'autres commentaires du genre. Nous pensons que tout le monde a droit à son opinion, mais que tant que quelque chose est sécuritaire et que vous connaissez les tenants et aboutissants d'essayer tel ou tel autre jouet, tout le monde a le droit d'explorer à sa façon, avec son budget.

Frais de livraison

Tue, 23 Mar 2010 20:48:00 -0400

Canada Post XpressPost (1-4 vers n'importe quel grand centre)
En Ontario et au Québec	$5.00
Toute autre province du Canada (excluant ON & QC)	$8.00
Toute commande canadienne au-delà de $80	GRATUIT
Tout localisation aux É.-U.	$20.00
Livraison (Canada seulement)
Livraison Next Day	$30.00
Livraison Second Day	$20.00

Veuillez noter que les frais de livraison sont calculés avant taxe.

guides magasinage

Wed, 08 Sep 2010 11:03:00 -0400

Harnais

Wed, 22 Sep 2010 15:55:00 -0400

Le corps n'a plus à suivre sa fonction originelle avec notre excellente sélection de jolis (et pratiques) harnais. Ajoutez-y un dildo de votre choix et vous êtes prêt(e)s à toutes les folies.

Harnais de caoutchouc

Tue, 07 Sep 2010 11:00:00 -0400

Imperméables, durables et faciles à nettoyer, nos harnais de caoutchouc se réchauffent à la température du corps rapidement et sont remarquablement flexibles. Contrairement au cuir, le caoutchouc ne respire pas et porter un harnais de caoutchouc peut augmenter votre sensibilité à la chaleur et à la transpiration. Cela peut donner une impression de fusion que certains apprécient vraiment, alors que d'autres ne s'en préoccupent pas.

how to use a cock ring

Sun, 20 Dec 2009 15:53:00 -0400

We've never seen a cock ring that came with instructions, which is funny because none of us at the store knew how to use them before someone showed us (unless we all managed to miss that one day at school when they covered cock rings in Sex Ed. class).

Huiles et Sensualité

Wed, 22 Sep 2010 17:15:00 -0400

Prenez le temps d'apprécier le sexe et d'explorer toutes les possibilités de touchers sensuels et de jeux érotiques avec notre vaste choix d'huiles et d'accessoires sensuels. Assurez-vous de nous faire savoir si vous avez des sensibilités chimiques ou des allergies et nous ferons tout en notre pouvoir pour trouver le produit adapté à votre situation.

idées et cultures sexuelles

Mon, 10 May 2010 15:28:00 -0400

Exploration des idées et cultures sexuelles.

Informations de la boutique

Fri, 30 Apr 2010 11:44:00 -0400

inscrire au bulletin

Tue, 23 Mar 2010 16:58:00 -0400

Cliquez ici pour vous inscrire au bulletin de nouvelles!

Jeux de pouvoir

Wed, 05 May 2010 16:20:00 -0400

Que vous aimiez vous faire attacher ou que vous aimiez une fessée, que vous soyez pro ou que vous vouliez juste essayer, voici une sélection de jouets pour tous les niveaux.

Cadeaux et Jeux

Wed, 22 Sep 2010 11:51:00 -0400

Explorez le côté plus léger des jouets érotiques avec nos sélection de jeux érotiques et de cadeaux ainsi que nos cartes de souhaits sexy et nos emballages. Assurez-vous de laisser un message au moment de payer afin de laisser un petit mot personnel dans la carte de votre choix.

Join our co-operative team

Mon, 22 Feb 2010 00:00:00 -0400

Are you a detail-oriented highly organized self-starter interested in helping others make healthy sexual choices?

Does the idea of using your problem solving skills in a democratic work environment sound exciting?

Are you looking for an opportunity to engage your strong work ethic and communication skills in a company committed to progressive business practices that offers you a chance to share in the success of the company?

If so we want to hear from you. Our co-operative offers an extensive paid two week training, the opportunity to actively participate in the direction of the company, staff discounts, paid sick leave, and health benefits. Staff also have the opportunity to become owners and shareholders in the company.

Come As You Are is looking a full time customer service representative to work in our retail store. We want folks committed to sexual health, who love customer service and think working here would compliment their other school/volunteer/work/childcare obligations.

We are looking for a motivated individual with some retail experience. Volunteer experience, bilingualism & sexual health/education experience are all assets.

We are committed to diversity in hiring.

Application deadline is January 6th. Please download a Come As You Are job application as a word doc or pdf and e-mail or fax it to us.

Jouet Érotiques

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Jouets anaux

Wed, 22 Sep 2010 15:21:00 -0400

Nous sommes heureux de constater une augmentation constante des visites de cette partie de notre boutique, alors que de plus en plus de gens prennent la voie anale pour obtenir des plaisirs charnels. Cette nouvelle réceptivité est aussi bienvenue chez ceux qui n'ont plus autant de sensations au niveau génital, puisque, bien souvent, les sensations restent intactes autours et dans l'anus. N'oubliez pas, en plus de la patience, de la pratique et de l'enthousiasme, vous aurez absolument besoin de lubrifiant pour les jeux anaux.

Bois

Sun, 05 Sep 2010 21:16:00 -0400

Le bois est une autre matière recommandée pour les gens vivant avec une sensibilité ou une allergie au latex et aux plastiques. Tous nos dildos de bois sont hypoallergènes, durables et facile à nettoyer. Comme le métal et le verre, les dildos de bois sont plus lisses que le caoutchouc, mais la texture de sa surface est unique et le poids du bois change les sensations offertes par l'usage de ce type de jouets.

Cuir

Sun, 05 Sep 2010 21:24:00 -0400

La plupart de nos harnais sont faits de cuir. Le cuir est un matériel idéal car il se conforment à votre silhouette, il est durable et confortable. Avec des soins appropriés, les harnais de cuir peuvent durer des années.

Silicone Vixskin

Tue, 07 Sep 2010 11:34:00 -0400

Fabriqués exclusivement par Vixen Creations, VixSkin est un silicone de qualité supérieure qui ressemble au CyberSkin en texture. Il est doux et souple à l'extérieur et ferme à l'intérieur, tout en étant aussi sécuritaire, facile à nettoyer et durable que tous les autres jouets de silicone.

Vinyle

Fri, 20 Aug 2010 14:28:00 -0400

Les vibrateurs et dildos de vinyle offrent une sensation unique, douce et lisse. Certians en aiment l'apparence. En terme de durabilité, de nettoyage et de sécurité, les jouet érotiques de vinyle devraient être traités comme le caoutchouc Jelly. Nous avons également des harnais fabriqués de diverses sortes de vinyle ferme et brillant. Les harnais de vinyle ne respirent pas comme le cuir ou le tissus, offrant une sensation unique que certains aiment ou abhorrent.

Élastomère

Tue, 07 Sep 2010 11:16:00 -0400

Le caoutchouc d'élastomère est un caoutchouc sans phthalates avec des propriétés élastiques particulières. Les jouets érotiques fabriqué à partir d'élastomère ressemblent aux jouets de caoutchouc et de jelly de par leur textures, mais ils sont plus faciles à nettoyer, exempt de latex et de phthalates.

Jouets érotiques et allergies

Fri, 10 Sep 2010 13:23:00 -0400

Les gens vivant avec la sensibilité chimique environnementale ou un système immunitaire réduit savent généralement comment magasiner et découvrir ce qui convient à leurs besoins spécifiques. Le plus important est de savoir exactement ce qui est contenu dans ce que vous utilisez. Soyez très prudent par rapports aux boutique qui clâment que leurs produits sont "entièrement naturels".

Jouets imperméables

Wed, 22 Sep 2010 15:52:00 -0400

Nous aimons les jouets imperméables. Non seulement on peut les utiliser dans la douche ou en camping, mais ils sont également faciles à nettoyer et peuvent durer plus longtemps que les jouets non-imperméables qui peuvent être endommagés lors du nettoyage.

Jouets pour hommes

Wed, 22 Sep 2010 16:09:00 -0400

Bien que presque tous nos jouets puissent être utilisés par les femmes et les hommes, voici une sélection de jouets spécifiquement pour les hommes.

L'acrylique

Tue, 23 Mar 2010 18:14:00 -0400

Comment Prendre Soin de vos Jouets Érotiques

Tue, 23 Mar 2010 18:39:00 -0400

Le matériel de fabrication

Tue, 23 Mar 2010 18:06:00 -0400

Tout le monde n'aime pas les mêmes matières, et c'est d'autant plus vrai dans notre vie sexuelle. Il importe de vous demander ce qui vous conviendrait le mieux comme type de matériel.

Le métal

Tue, 23 Mar 2010 18:21:00 -0400

Très rigides, solides et résistants, les accessoires de métal sont froids au toucher. Ils sont faciles à nettoyer et on peut les réchauffer sous un jet d'eau tiède.

Le verre

Tue, 23 Mar 2010 18:23:00 -0400

Contrairement à la croyance populaire, les accessoires de verre sont résistants. Ils sont fait de verre plein, ce qui les empêche d'éclater ou ce casser. Il est certain que l'on doit éviter d'échapper l'accessoire ou de le lancer pour éviter les éclats ou les égratignures, mais lorsque l'on est soigneux, ce type d'accessoire est résistant et très durable. On peut nettoyer cette matière facilement (voir section Soins et nettoyage) et on peut même la réchauffer sous un jet d'eau tiède.

Légende: Jouets érotiques, DVD et livres

Wed, 01 Sep 2010 20:20:00 -0400

Chez Venez tels quels, nous voulons que faire un choix de jouets érotiques, DVD pour adultes ou livres érotiques soit aussi facile que possible et amusant également! En boutique, nous pouvons vous accompagner dans chaque section du magasin et vous informer tout en focussant sur ce qui pique votre curiosité (dans le confort, le bon éclairage et l'accessibilité de notre boutique de Queen Street West).

Notre légende

Thu, 09 Sep 2010 08:58:00 -0400

Trouver le bon jouet érotique, le bon livre ou DVD pour adulte peut être particulièrement difficile sur internet, surtout lorsqu'on n'y trouve que des images et des descriptions pour vous guider. En plus de notre échelle de la vibration, de l'intensité et de l'explicité, nous avons développé une série d'icônes pour représenter des caractéristiques que vous recherchez ou cherchez potentiellement à éviter.

Liens sur la sexualité et les handicaps

Fri, 10 Sep 2010 13:41:00 -0400

Nous passons un bon moment à naviguer sur internet pour trouver des ressources par rapport à la sexualité et les handicaps.

livres

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art érotique

Mon, 10 May 2010 15:30:00 -0400

Un festin visuel de peintures, photographies, dessins, bandes dessinées et magazines.

livres érotiques

Mon, 10 May 2010 15:26:00 -0400

Un petit quelque chose pour chaque goût! Le moment n'a jamais été meilleur pour l'écriture érotique en terme de diversité et de créativité.

Lubrifiants

Wed, 22 Sep 2010 16:21:00 -0400

Les lubrifiants, aussi connus sous le nom de lubrifiants personnels, sont les plus importants jouets érotiques, selon nous. Les lubrifiants rendent les relations sexuelles de toutes natures plus glissantes, confortables et douces, augmentent la sensibilité et permettent de faire des choses qui seraient autrement plus douloureuses ou dangereuses sans.

machines sexuelles et meubles

Wed, 22 Sep 2010 17:20:00 -0400

Les meilleures machines sexuelles et meubles érotiques érgonommiques, tous testés et garantis par Venez tels quels. Supportez un inventeur et ayez de bons moments érotiques sur ces machines parfois curieuses mais toujours plaisantes.

Masturbation avec les jouets érotiques

Fri, 12 Nov 2010 11:03:00 -0400

L'amour auto-érotique peut être perçu négativement, et les grands amateurs de plaisirs solitaires sont souvent vu comme des solitaires a la sexualité éxagérée anti-sociaux. Bien... nous sommes là pour changer cette vision!

Meilleurs vendeurs

Mon, 10 May 2010 14:53:00 -0400

Bien que nous ne pensions pas que ce soit nécessairement le meilleur moyen de choisir vos jouets, nous avons reçu suffisament de requêtes pour que nous décidions de vous montrer ce que les autres ont préféré les mois passés.

silicone\Jelly

Fri, 20 Aug 2010 14:29:00 -0400

Certains jouets sont vendus comme étant faits de silicone, alors qu'ils sont réellement fabriqués de silicone et de jelly, voire même d'autres sortes de caoutchouc. L'ajout de silicone dans ces jouets les rends plus élastiques et durables, mais le nettoyage et la sécurité de ces jouets ressemble plus à celle du caoutchouc qu'aux propriétés exemplaires du silicone.

Membre

Fri, 10 Sep 2010 14:44:00 -0400

Nos garanties

Tue, 23 Mar 2010 21:02:00 -0400

Nous ne vendrons, ne louerons ou ne donnerons jamais notre liste d'envois. Toutes les commandes sont livrées dans un papier simple et discret avec CAYA Co-operative Ltd. (notre nom de corporation) comme adresse de retour.

Nouveautés

Wed, 22 Sep 2010 11:23:00 -0400

Voyez ce qui se fait de nouveau parmis les jouets érotiques, les livres, les DVD et les ateliers.

Options de livraison

Thu, 01 Nov 2012 15:32:00 -0400

Standard, par Postes Canada XpressPost. Postes Canada XpressPost ne prend habituellement que quelques jours à se rendre partout au Canada (surtout si vous habitez près des grands centres), mais comme tout ne va pas toujours comme prévu, nous garantissons que les colis seront reçus dans les deux semaines suivant l'envoi.

Options de paiement

Tue, 23 Mar 2010 20:31:00 -0400

Tous les prix de notre site web sont en dollars canadiens. Lors de commandes en ligne, par fax ou par téléphone, nous acceptons Visa, Mastercard et American Express. Pour les commandes par la poste, nous acceptons également les chèques et les mandats postaux. Les commandes payées par chèque seront misent en attente jusqu'à ce que le chèque soit passé (procédure qui prend habituellement entre 7 et 10 jours.)

Porn for Lovers

Tue, 19 Jan 2010 16:34:00 -0400

That’s right, we said it. Even in the baddest-ass, raunchiest sex scenes (sometimes especially in those scenes) there are moments of tenderness and love. We don’t take our porn watching or selecting lightly, and here’s our buyers picks for Valentine’s Day porn for lovers.

préférences liste de souhaits

Wed, 08 Sep 2010 11:40:00 -0400

Si vous souhaitez modifier votre liste ou le partager avec des amis, vérifier les paramètres de votre liste de cadeaux.

Profil

Tue, 14 Sep 2010 09:20:00 -0400

Ajouter ou mettre à jour vos informations de profil ici.

Que signifie l’orgasme?

Fri, 24 Aug 2012 00:00:00 -0400

Nous avons, chez Venez tels quels, nous avons une équipe de personnes qui réunissent une somme de connaissances importante. S'il y avait un Jeopardy portant sur la sexualité, notre équipe pourrait lessiver tous les compétiteurs. En fait, même quand ça ne concerne pas la sexualité, nous en savons beaucoup (comme vous pouvez le constater lors de notre apparition dans Cash Cab!)

Malgré cela, nous ne serions jamais prétentieux au point de nous prendre pour des éducateurs sexuels, des sexologues ou des experts. Nous avons des tonnes d'informations sous notre main collective, mais nous apprécions que nos présentateurs fassent partie d'un regroupement et nous aimons mieux que les « sexperts » restent sur internet ou dans les revues alternatives.

Chacun d'entre nous a sa spécialité et nous offrons une vaste gamme de perspectives au sujet du sexe et de la sexualité, mais au final, comme nous le disons toujours, nous croyons sincèrement que vous êtes les seuls experts de votre propre sexualité et nous offrons simplement des idées et des options pour vous accompagner dans votre voyage dans votre sexualité.

Les gens nous posent des tonnes de questions et nous aimons tous répondre à des questions portant sur la sexualité et en parler. On nous demande souvent : Comment faire pour vivre l'éjaculation féminine? Que faire avec la douleur vaginale? Comment puis-je conserver mon érection plus longtemps? Est-ce que [ remplissez ] est normal? (Oui, c'est probablement tout à fait normal). Certaines questions sont beaucoup plus particulières.

Par exemple, cette semaine, une personne nous a demandé ce que signifiait l'orgasme. Nous avons discuté pendant un moment, pointant le fait que l'orgasme peut être différent pour chacun et représenter différentes choses à différents moments de leur vie. Avant de mettre fin à la conversation, cette personne nous a donc dit : « Autrement dit, l'orgasme signifie différentes choses à différentes personnes? » - Oui, c'est exactement cela.

Alors. Que signifie l'orgasme pour vous?

Ressources sur la sexualité et les handicaps

Fri, 10 Sep 2010 13:47:00 -0400

ressources sur la sexualité et les handicaps - en ligne et hors ligne. La plupart de ces ressources sont en anglais.

résultats de recherche

Fri, 10 Sep 2010 14:50:00 -0400

Retrouver le mot de passe

Wed, 24 Mar 2010 14:55:00 -0400

Mot de passe oublié? Retrouver le mot de passe ici!

sans phtalate

Tue, 21 Sep 2010 10:21:00 -0400

Service à la clientèle

Thu, 01 Nov 2012 15:31:00 -0400

Livraison rapide, facile et gratuite

La livraison c'est toujours rapide et discret avec Venez tels quels.

sexualité & handicaps

Wed, 08 Sep 2010 11:06:00 -0400

Share with a friend

Sun, 27 Jan 2013 19:17:00 -0400

Silicone

Tue, 07 Sep 2010 11:34:00 -0400

Le caoutchouc de silicium, aussi appelé silicone, est le matériel de haute qualité que l'on retrouve dans la fabrication de jouets érotiques. Retenant plus la chaleur du corps que le caoutchouc simple, il est aussi plus résistant, non-poreux et on peut même le bouillir dans l'eau pour le nettoyer vraiment efficacement. Attention aux fans de lubrifiant à base de silicone : les jouets de silicone et le lubrifiant à base de silicone ne s'aiment pas, vos accessoires risquent de s'endommager.

Soins pour les Jouets de Caoutchouc

Tue, 23 Mar 2010 18:33:00 -0400

Les jouets de caoutchouc se présentent en diverses formes, couleurs et tailles. En prendre soin est simple.

Soins pour les Jouets de Cyberskin

Tue, 23 Mar 2010 18:35:00 -0400

Le Cyberskin est un nouveau matériel super-doux qui donne l'impression la plus proche de la peau à ce jour. C'est un matériel très résistant et maléable qui se réchauffe rapidement à la température du corps. Le Cyberskin est fabriqué à partir d'un mélange de silicone et de PVC, mais il ne devrait pas être bouilli comme les autres jouets de silicone.

Soins pour les Jouets de Silicone

Tue, 23 Mar 2010 18:31:00 -0400

Le silicone est un matériel absolument génial pour créer des dildos. Il est solide, résistant, retient la chaleur du corps et, comme il est non-poreux, il est facile à nettoyer. Le coût élevé des matériaux de base ainsi que le fait que les dildos de silicone soient fabriqués dans de petites entreprises fait en sorte que vous payiez légèrement plus, mais cela en vaut vraiment la chandelle!

Soins pour les Vibrateurs à Piles

Tue, 23 Mar 2010 18:37:00 -0400

Avec des vibrations plus douces et un plus grande variation dans la grosseur, la forme, la couleur et la texture, les vibrateurs à piles sont une alternative très populaire aux vibrateurs électriques. Malheureusement, plusieurs de ces vibrateurs sont de moins bonne qualité et ont une durée de vie imprédictible variant entre quelques semaines et des années.

Tout sur la Fleshlight

Wed, 22 Sep 2010 16:53:00 -0400

La Fleshlight est probablement le jouet pour homme le plus vendu de tous les temps. Semblable à un masturbateur pénien de base, la Fleshlight est fait de soft skin breveté, incroyablement souple, solide et durable tout à la fois.

Tout sur les accessoires érotiques

Tue, 10 Aug 2010 11:55:00 -0400

Tout sur les anneaux péniens

Tue, 23 Mar 2010 18:03:00 -0400

Les anneaux péniens sont généralement fait de caoutchouc ou de cuir. On les porte à la base du pénis et derrière le scrotum. Bien que les anneaux péniens soient connus et utilisés pour aider à maintenir l'érection, nous croyons que les hommes les ont découverts à cause des sensations particulières qu'ils procurent.

Tout sur les billes anales

Wed, 22 Sep 2010 16:52:00 -0400

Les billes anales, aussi connues sous le nom de "boules thaïlandaises", sont des billes sur une corde, destinées à la pénétration anale. Plutôt que d'offrir une pression ou une sensation de plénitude, les billes anales travaillent sur les sensations des deux sphincters: lorsque vous retirez les billes (doucement, avec l'aide de beaucoup de lubrifiant), elles stimulent les muscles et créent des sensations que certains trouvent des plus plaisantes.

Tout sur les condoms

Wed, 22 Sep 2010 16:50:00 -0400

Les condoms, lorsqu'utilisés adéquatement, peuvent vous aider à vous protéger efficacement, vous et vos partenaire contre les infections transmissible par les relations sexuelles et les grossesses non-désirées. Les condoms sont à usage unique et vous devez utiliser un nouveau condom pour chaque acte sexuel impliquant une pénétration.

Tout sur les dildos

Wed, 22 Sep 2010 16:53:00 -0400

Les dildos sont des jouets érotiques créés pour la pénétration vaginale ou anale. Les dildos ne "font" rien d'autre que ce que nous leur faisons faire (ils n'ont pas de moteur ou de parties mobiles). Le plaisir des dildos vient de la pénétration.

Tout sur les dildos anaux

Wed, 22 Sep 2010 16:51:00 -0400

Les dildos anaux sont créés pour la pénétration anale. Alors que tous les dildos peuvent s'utiliser vaginalement, tous ne sont pas sécuritaires pour un usage anal. Un dildo anal devrait toujours avoir une base large pour éviter de le laisser glisser accidentellement dans le rectum.

Tout sur les dildos doubles

Wed, 22 Sep 2010 16:50:00 -0400

Comme le nom le suggère, les dildos doubles sont des dildos à deux bouts, créés spécialement pour permettre la pénétration sécuritaire par chacune de ses extrémités.

Tout sur les enveloppes péniennes

Wed, 22 Sep 2010 16:49:00 -0400

Les enveloppes péniennes, aussi connues sous le nom de masturbateurs ou d'enveloppes masturbatoires, sont l'un des jouets les plus populaires auprès des hommes. L'enveloppe de base est un tube cylindrique dans lequel le pénis entre, que l'on peu bouger dans un mouvement de vas-et-viens ou dans lequel on effectue ce mouvement.

Tout sur les harnais

Wed, 22 Sep 2010 16:49:00 -0400

Un harnais, aussi appellé strap on, harnais strap on ou harnais pour dildo, est un jouet érotique qui permet d'utiliser un dildo sans avoir à utiliser vos mains. Un harnais peut s'attacher à la taille, à votre cuisse ou même sur un meuble.

Tout sur les jouets érotiques anaux

Wed, 22 Sep 2010 16:49:00 -0400

Les joutes érotiques anaux offrent une grande variété de sensations et de possibilités pour l'exploration des jeux anaux seul ou à plusieurs. Il y a trois sortes de jouets érotiques anaux principales.

Tout sur les lubrifiants

Wed, 22 Sep 2010 16:52:00 -0400

Les lubrifiants, aussi appellés lubrifiants personnels, sont les grands oubliés des jouets érotiques. Le lubrifiants rends toutes les sortes de rapports sexuels plus faciles: non seulement ils rendent les rapports sexuels plus confortables, mais ils augmentent la sensibilité.

Tout sur les plugs anaux

Wed, 22 Sep 2010 16:51:00 -0400

Les plugs anaux, aussi appellés dildos anaux, sont des jouets érotiques spécifiquement créés pour la pénétration anale. ls sont faits pour rester en place. Les éléments de base de la plupart des plugs anaux sont leur base large, l'absence de soudure et le fait qu'ils sont généralement plus petit à leur bout.

Tout sur les vibrateurs

Wed, 22 Sep 2010 16:52:00 -0400

Les vibrateurs offrent une stimulation qu'aucun corps humain ne peut apporter. Contrairement aux dildos qui ne bougent que selon les mouvements d'une personne, les vibrateurs sont munis de moteurs qui bougent et vibrent pour donner une stimulation forte et constante.

Valentine’s Day Sexual Craft

Tue, 19 Jan 2010 16:42:00 -0400

If you’re looking to get your hands (and/or other body parts) dirty this Valentine’s Day we’ve assembled a collection of sexual gifts powered by you.

Valentine's Gift Ideas

Wed, 20 Jan 2010 10:17:00 -0400

Give Sexy, Get Sexy this Valentine’s Day!

When it comes to sex we’ve always believed the lines between giving and receiving are fuzzy at best. This Valentine’s Day we’re bringing that theory into reality by offering you something for yourself, just for giving something to someone else. Every order over $50 placed between January 20 and February 14 gets a coupon for $10 off your next order. Give this month, and get back next month. Everyone wins.!

Vibrators for Valentines

Tue, 19 Jan 2010 16:38:00 -0400

A lot of alliteration for buzzy bosom buddies! Vibrators are for more than power cleaning a floor, they’re for lovers. It’s our 12th Valentine’s Day at Come As You Are and here are our top picks for new and classic vibes that won’t disappoint on Valentine’s Day.

10. Travailler plus pour rendre la sexualité plus simple

Tue, 17 Aug 2010 13:05:00 -0400

Quand l'exploration sexuelle est le but, travailler plus est une récompense en soi.

8. Contribuer coopérativement

Thu, 12 Aug 2010 09:53:00 -0400

Coopérative, c'est n'est pas qu'un statut: c'est notre culture.

7. Créer un plaisir intello

Thu, 12 Aug 2010 09:41:00 -0400

Chez Venez tels quels, nous aimons le fait que la sexualité puisse être intello, amusante et remplie de plaisirs.

2. Du service à la clientèle qui aide

Thu, 12 Aug 2010 08:37:00 -0400

Nous sommes là pour vous aider à atteindre vos buts personnels, pas nos objectifs de ventes.

4. Être accessible

Thu, 12 Aug 2010 09:04:00 -0400

Nous mettons les terrains de jeux au niveau, afin que l'exploration des plaisirs et de la santé sexuelle soit accessible pour tous.

5. Être des anti-experts

Thu, 12 Aug 2010 09:11:00 -0400

Nous en savons suffisament sur la sexualité pour savoir que nous ne savons pas tout.

9. Être généreux.

Tue, 17 Aug 2010 12:58:00 -0400

Être généreux, c'est être capable de nous mettre à la place des autres.

1. Le sexe tel que vous le désirez

Thu, 12 Aug 2010 08:29:00 -0400

Venez tels quels croit que vous avez droit au sexe tel que vous le désirez, et non vous contenter du minimum.

3. Pas d'incitation

Thu, 12 Aug 2010 08:56:00 -0400

Nous estimons plus les informations que la vente, donc nous ne faisons pas d'incitation avec nos clients.

11. Vivre notre nom

Tue, 17 Aug 2010 13:58:00 -0400

Nous vivons notre nom en acceptant chaque partie de notre personnalité.

Valeurs fondamentales et culture

Wed, 11 Aug 2010 10:40:00 -0400

Nous avons toujours fait les choses différemment chez Venez tels quels. L'un des aspects de notre différence c'est notre décision d'être démocratique et de nous incorporer en tant que coopérative de travailleurs. Juste après notre dixième anniversaire (en 2007) nous avons décidé qu'il était temps pour nous d'être plus spécifiques à propos de notre différence et de nous articulter autours de valeurs uniques pour nous et pour nos clients.

6. Être digne de confiance

Thu, 12 Aug 2010 09:30:00 -0400

Chez Venez tels quels, nous apprécions la confiance que vous nous accordez et nous faisons tout en notre pouvoir pour le mériter dans tout ce que nous faisons.

Carte du Site

Wed, 08 Sep 2010 10:19:00 -0400

Vous aimeriez un apperçu général de notre site? Voici notre carte officielle.

Heures d'ouverture et adresse

Wed, 18 Aug 2010 11:46:00 -0400

Nous avons présentement une boutique à Tonronoto, Canada, dans le voisinage de la rue Queen west. Notre adresse est le 701, Queen Street West. C'est un bloc à l'ouest de Bathurst Street, sur le côté sud de Queen Street. Notre boutique est accessible en fauteuil roulant et offre une salle de bain également accessible en fauteuil roulant.

Politique de confidentialité

Tue, 17 Apr 2012 16:33:00 -0400

Votre intimité et la confidentialité, c'est très important pour nous. Pour mieux protéger vos informations personnelles, nous vous offrons cette page expliquant nos pratiques de collecte d'information en ligne ainsi que les choix que vous pouvez faire par rapport à la façon que vos informations sont collectées et utilisées.

Programme Friperie - Binder

Wed, 18 Aug 2010 11:24:00 -0400

Avez-vous un binder usé mais toujours portable dont vous n,avez plus besoin? Venez tels quels ramasse les binders usagés pour notre programme de recyclage de Binder. Pour chaque binder que vous nous envoyez ou que vous nous apportez ans notre boutique de Toronto, nous vous offrons un certificat cadeau de 10$ que vous pouvez dépenser sur n'importe quoi en boutique ou en ligne.

Recyclage des piles

Wed, 18 Aug 2010 11:15:00 -0400

La plupart des gesn savent qu'il ne faut pas jeter les piles à la poubelle, mais saviez vous que Venez tels quels a un programme de recyclage des piles? Que vous ayez une collection de piles AA usées ou des piles de montre LR44, nous les récupérons et en disposons sécuritairement pour vous.

Vibrateurs

Wed, 22 Sep 2010 11:49:00 -0400

Vibrateurs de caoutchouc et Jelly

Wed, 22 Sep 2010 12:00:00 -0400

Pour plus de versatilité, des vibrations plus douces et une facilité de transport, les vibrateurs à batteries sont la voie à suivre. Les vibrateurs de plastique rigide ont tendance à être plus adaptés pour la stimulation externe car plusieurs personnes les trouvent trop durs pour la pénétration. Les vibrateurs de caoutchouc souple ou de silicone sont idéaux pour la pénétration, plus silencieux et procurent en général une vibration moins intense que les vibrateurs de plastique rigide.

films

Sun, 27 Jan 2013 19:00:00 -0400

Xtra West Examines Sexual Identity and Desire

Sat, 13 Dec 2008 00:00:00 -0400

I have to admit to not always finding the content in Xtra the most engaging. It's a paper I read regularly and support, but reading it you wouldn't know we have vibrant, complicated, and fractured LGBT communities in Toronto, Vancouver, and Ottawa (the three cities where Xtra publishes).This week's Xtra West cover story is a significant exception to the rule and a highly recommended read. Denise Sheppard's The Evolution of Desire tackles sexual desire, identity, and orientation head on and does a good job of actually scratching the surface of the underlying issues and assumptions made about trans folks. It does this in part by talking to a variety of thoughtful people and giving them space to describe their experiences. Below are two of my favourite quotes from the piece"Once you are, for the first time in your life, comfortable in the body that you should be in, new doors can open for you.