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Learn About Dilators and Dilator Exercises

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Our silicone dilators are a series of high quality silicone exercisers designed specifically to aid people experiencing vaginal pain, and for post-surgery therapy. Together with a local gynecologist and an independent Canadian silicone manufacturer, we created these dilators made from high-grade, hypoallergenic silicone because the only other dilators available were made of hard or abrasive materials. If you or someone you know is suffering from vaginal pain, these dilation exercises may be useful to you. These exercises should be done in consultation with your health care provider. What are dilation exercises? Dilation exercise is the insertion of dilators of progressively...

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Learn About Sex and Unwanted Pain

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To us, being sex positive means considering sexuality to be a site of tremendous health, pleasure and strength in our lives. We also realize that many of us experience physical, emotional, and psychic pain around sexuality. We are great cheerleaders of the positive potential of sex, but proceed with respect and awareness that sometimes sex can feel too painful to talk about. Whatever the source of our pain, many of us will be faced with the challenge of trying to navigate this barrier to pleasure. For some of us this may be a brief encounter and for others it may...

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Learn About BDSM and Powerplay

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Like so many aspects of sexuality, powerplay and BDSM (Bondage/ Discipline, Dominance/Submission, Sadism/ Masochism) are often misunderstood. One of the things that we love about powerplay at Come As You Are is that it embodies one of our core values: Sex the Way You Want It! In a society where much of the mainstream messaging around sexuality encourages people to achieve an imagined and arbitrary normative sex life, BDSM requires people know and communicate what they want openly and honestly. So what is it really? BDSM can be any number of things, from playing with rope bondage, restraints, and nipple...

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Learn About Erections & Erectile Dysfunction

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Changing Erections Erectile dysfunction (also known as 'ED') is a clinical term usually defined as the inability to develop and maintain an erection for satisfactory sexual activity. We don't tend to think the idea of "normal" is helpful to experiencing sexual pleasure, and we know that even clinicians don't agree on how often or for how long you might have difficulties with erections before you would be diagnosed with erectile dysfunction. Here's what we know: everyone who gets erections will experience changes over time with how the erections might feel. They could get harder or softer, they may happen when...

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Learn About the G-Spot

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We don’t believe that any spot on the body is some magic button that, once touched, will change your sex life forever. Just like some of us get turned on by having our inner thighs caressed or our ears nibbled on, some people find that stimulating the g­-spot is incredibly arousing and even orgasmic, while for others it does nothing at all. Don’t get us wrong, some of us love our g­-spots, and we certainly believe there are lots of tips, techniques and toys that can help you explore! Over the years we’ve noticed that too often people come to...

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Learn About Kegel Exercises

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We see Kegel or Pelvic Floor Muscle (PFM) exercises as just one of the many ways you can enhance your sexual health and pleasure on your own terms! While Kegel exercises are often seen as a way to ‘tighten’ (often for the pleasure of one’s partner), doing Kegel exercises regularly has been shown to increase orgasmic responsiveness, prevent incontinence, assist in recovery from childbirth ­and even encourage prostate health. Heck, any one of those benefits should be motivation enough for any of us - regardless of sexuality, gender, and orientation - to go do our darn Kegels! What Are Pelvic Floor...

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Learn About Condoms

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When used properly, condoms can provide a highly effective way to protect yourself and your partner(s) from sexually transmitted infections (STIs) and prevent pregnancy. Condoms are for single use only and you must use a new condom for each sexual act involving penetration. In addition to being an important part of practicing safer sex, condoms are a great way to help prolong the life of your sex toys - and they make cleanup a breeze! How to Choose Choosing the best condom for you usually involves some trial and error. While most of our condoms are sold in boxes of...

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Learn About Masturbation Sleeves

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What are Sleeves? Sleeves - also called masturbation sleeves, masturbators, and (our preferred term) insertion toys - are one of the most popular types of sex toys. A basic masturbation sleeve is a cylindrical sheath that can either be moved up and down the shaft or remain still while the person moves in and out of the sleeve. There are thousands of different styles of insertion toys on the market, each with its benefits and drawbacks. Some of the most commonly known - and popular - masturbation sleeves on the market are made by Fleshlight and Tenga. How To Choose...

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Learn About Strap-On Harnesses

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What is a Strap-On? A strap-on, also called a strap-on harness or a dildo harness, is a sex toy that allows you to penetrate your partner with a dildo, without having to use your hands. A strap-on may strap around your hips, thigh, hand, or other body part, or it may be used to strap a dildo to a piece of furniture. Most strap-on harnesses are worn around the hips, and are used to hold a dildo in place at the front of the pelvis. Strap-on harnesses are commonly used for various types of penetration, as well as gender expression,...

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Learn About Sex Toy Materials

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Sex toys have been around for as long as people, but as ancient as sex toys may be, the materials we use to make sex toys have definitely changed over time.  While you may still find the occasional wood dildo, sex toys are more likely these days to be made of silicone or ABS plastic than from bone or tusk! Sex toy materials are generally considered to be "non-porous" or "porous". While most sex toy materials should be washed with mild soap, rinsed, and left to air dry, some materials (like silicone and steel) can also be boiled for five...

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