sex and disability

This is a very general overview of adapting sex toys. There is so much to say about the topic and so many ideas, that we hope you'll consider this page a place to get some basic ideas to work with. A lot of this information comes from our over ten years of working with folks living with disabilities who have been adapting sex toys

We love sex toys, and we get really angry when people (who usually want to sell you something very expensive!) tell you that this toy is bad, or that one is a big joke and you should never try it. Everyone has an opinion, but we think that as long as something is safe, and you know the drawbacks of trying it, everyone has the right to explore in their own way and on their own budget.

Sex toys can help you explore sensations on all parts of your body. Don't assume that if one part of your body feels a certain way everywhere else in that general area will feel the same way.

Most people with hypersensitivity find vibrators to be very unpleasant. They just provide too much stimulation. Remember that sex toys are just toys, and are a matter of taste and preference. With hypersensitivity it is best to get a toy whose movements you control.

Mobility and motor control can have an impact both on the sort of toy you can hold, but also getting the toy to touch yourself (or a partner, or partners) where you want it. First consider what you want to do with the toy? What movement do you have that you can use to manipulate a toy? Where would you want the toy to touch, and can you reach there?

Another consideration in adapting toys is the kind of privacy you have when using a toy. This will depend in part on whether you are using a toy with a partner or by yourself, and if you are using a toy with a partner what they can do with the toy.

When thinking about toys, fatigue becomes an issue mostly in the weight of a toy, and the way you might have to hold a toy. We list the dimensions and weight of most of our toys and you can usually use some point of comparison that you're familiar with to get an idea of how good a toy will be for you to use.

People who live with MCS and reduced immune systems usually know just how to shop and take care of their needs. The most important consideration is knowing what is really in what you are using. Be very careful with store claims about products being 'all natural' or other claims.

August 16, 2012

August 30, 2012