Newsletter No. 40: WINTER 2007

10 Reasons to Have Sex over the Holidays 

Even though we’ve devoted our work lives to sex, like most people, there are times when life takes control of the wheel and our sex drive shifts into low gear.  The holidays are a major cause of this sex neglect.  Surrounded by family, crowded by obligations, we tend to stop taking care of ourselves, and sex is often the first thing to go.  So to celebrate our 10th holiday season with you herewith are our top ten reasons to have sex over the holidays.

10. Holiday sex is a great escape.  Keep your sanity over the holidays and book in time to get away, whether that’s a night off from family festivities or a quickie in the bathroom before everyone arrives.  

9. Holiday sex is nature’s defense against sickness.  Research shows that people who have frequent sex live longer and are happier and healthier.  Over the holidays your defenses are down.  Think of holiday sex as chicken soup for the genitals.

8. Holiday sex is something for you. The holidays are about giving, and giving, and giving.  Taking a moment for some solo sex is one easy way to give yourself the gift of love, and orgasms.

7. Holiday sex something for your partner.  Looking for the perfect extra present for your lover this holiday season?  We promise you that a surprise quickie or a carefully planned candlelight bath goes a lot farther than a scarf or pie dish.  

6. Holiday sex re-energizes.  Contrary to superstitions held by many professional athletes, sex does not deplete your power or energy.  Good sex can recharge your batteries and give you the extra boost you need to make it through the holidays in one piece.

5. Holiday sex is the gift that keeps on giving. Every sexual encounter is an opportunity to learn, and connections made in the intensity of holiday emotions can open up sexual opportunities for the rest of the year.

4. Holiday sex can be a tiny political action in the midst of a consumer nightmare.  Taking time for great sex during the holidays is a reminder that the best gifts don’t come pre-packaged from the store, they come from our hearts and minds, and they don’t have to cost a thing.

3. Have holiday sex and be a role model.  We are not encouraged to take sexual time for ourselves over the holidays.  But doing so is a good thing, and when you do it, you send the message to others that it’s okay for them to do as well.  It’s good sex karma.

2. Holiday sex is naughty and nice.  Sleeping in your childhood bedroom, dressing up as Santa, having a few extra days off.  These things all add up to lots of opportunity for kinky sex, and the sense of holiday excess doesn’t hurt either.

1. It brings you closer to the holiday spirit. Yes Virginia, there is such a thing as sexual spirit and it’s not that different than the holiday spirit.  Taking pleasure in giving to others, taking time to connect with others, these are things that are good for our sexual souls.

NEWS

December Artist

Felice Shays

Performance artist and sex-educator, Felice Shays will be joining us in Toronto in January for two of her most popular workshops. A return engagement after her performance in the early part of November of her show Felice Brutality and PsychoSemitic

Toronto Erotic Arts Festival

Erotic Arts & Crafts Fair

TOYS

Warm up some romance under the mistletoe! Shunga Massage Candles not only set the mood - they provide you with a warm, luscious soy-based massage oil! Burn the candle, blow out the flame and drizzle the melted and warmed (but not too hot!) soy wax on your partner for a sensual massage. Available in yummy Vanilla, Lavender or Fruit scent. $20

Looking for a little glitter? To the untrained eye, a Just In Case Condom Compact appears to be a regular makeup compacts… but just flip up the false bottom, and the real contents are revealed. These condom compacts are the perfect gift for anyone who wants to practice discreet safe sex in style! Available in assorted colours as well as the special edition Bling Condom Compacts lovingly adorned with genuine Swarovski Crystals. $20 (or $195 for Bling)

A great little stocking stuffer that is full of delight! Turbo Cyberflicker has 5 intense modes of vibration with variable speed control so you can experience any mode at any strength. The Turbo Cyberflicker is a multi-speed, multi-function silver bullet, coated in luscious CyberSkin!  Phthalate-free.  $36

The next generation of luxury vibrators is here! Form 6 is the newest creation from the folks who originally wowed us with the Little Gold and Little Steel, and this time they've brought their keen sense of design to a rechargeable multi-functioning silicone creation. With two independently-controlled vibrating 'pleasure centers' , a sleek and streamlined design that is fully water resistant, the Form 6 is the new gold standard for luxury sex toys. $210 

Pure Pfun Plug is a new stainless steel plug from Njoy which really kicks up the intensity with a longer and more textured design than their previous anal toys. The Pure Pfun Plug specifically designed for great prostate stimulation, although as with all Njoy toys, the curve of the toy is equally well suited for g-spot play too. The extreme ridges and general heaviness make this toy better suited for somewhat experienced anal players. $110

This magnificent orb is one of the most unique vibrators to roll across our desk! The Tuyo Vibromasseur features five intense patterns of vibration at three different speeds, in a sexy and discreet package. Made of phthalate-free hard plastic, silicone and a glamourous stainless steel ring, the Tuyo is splashproof and each one comes with a satin-lined case for storage almost as sexy as the Tuyo itself.  

BOOKS

Sexy Scratchers is a perfect little stocking stuffer to surprise your sweetie this season. In fact you’re sure to be a winner every time! With 100 sexy lottery tickets, a plethora of quirky games like "Pirate's Booty"," Bondage Bingo" and "The Mile High Club", as well as surprise results and hot prizes,  Sexy Scratchers is sure to spark hours of spontaneity and hilarity.

Kama Sutra Sex Deck features incredibly cute illustrations, various quotes from the Kama Sutra as well as hands-on explanations of each new technique! All in an easy to use deck of 50 cards just made to while away those cold winter nights. $18.95

Ever wanted to leave a sexy note for your lover but couldn't find the right words to say?
Well, look no further because the Erotic Magnetic Poetry Kit has it all! With over 400 magnetized words that are extremely and exquisitely naughty, you can be sure that your partner will feel the heat radiating from your biggest erogenous zone - your mind! Stick it on your fridge and free your creativity!

Stacked Decks

Dick Tricks

DVD’S

Looking for some new porn that offers thoughtful eroticism? New from Libido Films is Stories of Oh! 2, a journey through the sexual minds and imaginations of twelve individuals and what "orgasm" means to them. Anywhere from trippy music segments to fully plotted sketches, any and all types of sexual excitement are illustrated by real-life people. Includes self-stimulation with and without toys, oral sex, and so much more. Artistic, creative, and truly intriguing.  $35

For the porn connoisseur, who delights in high-action and special effect, Porn Wars is an amazing X-rated tribute to the original. Packed with CGI ('07 AVN winner best special effects), wicked "spaceship/galaxy/planet" shots, and great wardrobe, the molten-hot sex is your cherry on top. Plus Porn Wars is a 2 disc set with bonus features you won't want to miss (and actually want to watch) such as behind-the-scenes and making of this over-the-top production. $29

Shane's World College Invasion Male is quite possibly the wildest, funniest, and
most sexy volume of Shane's World to date! Join these totally gorgeous guys as they throw a wild beer-fueled party complete with games, an obnoxious yet cute host, and lots of guy-on-guy hot sex. Real people make College Invasion a keeper that you're guaranteed to watch over and over. $29

Gone are the days of boring sex ed videos...a whole new breed of educational DVDs have arrived! From anal sex guru Tristan Taormino comes two new videos, Expert Guide to Anal Sex and Expert Guide to Cunnilingus. Both shot in High Definition, these gems feature all the information you need presented in a classy, sexy way, with sex scenes
available to watch with or without instruction. Both have a strong focus on communication between couples leading up to orgasm, plus bonus features on safer sex and sex toys. Fantastic! $35 each.

Inside an XXX Marriage: Wendy & Eric is a true insider's look into the adult film industry. This documentary takes a peek at the day-to-day lives of porn stars (and real-life partners) Wendy Divine and Eric Masterson, from their on-set to at home relationship. The couple shares advice about how to keep sex fresh and hot...even if you've already been doing it all day! A truly intriguing and worthwhile addition for those who might be just a little curious about what goes on behind the scenes and behind closed doors. $35

WORKSHOPS

Tuesday, November 27 
7:30-9:30pm
Take It Off With Confidence
With Jade
Learn the ins & outs of stripping and lap dancing for your very own in-house " T & A " experience. This course covers: Appreciating your own body & your unique allure, Unleashing your inner exhibitionist, and The “ Tricks of the Trade “
For women and trans people only. 
$30

Saturday, January 12
7:30-9:30pm
When Coitus Comes Between Us:
Working Your Hands & Mouth for (Even) Better Sex
With Felice Shays
Why is it we always arrive at intercourse as the “Grand Finale” of sex? How do we climb out of The Jaws of Predictability? How do we vanquish that stifling distinction between foreplay and intercourse? The answer? Using your mouth and your hands in surprising and sexy ways that will make the genitals and penetration just two more lovely pieces of the sex prize, but not the Holy Grail.
All genders welcome. 
$30

January 13
Vaginal Fisting Workshop
With Felice Shays
Vaginal fisting is an incredible experience; beautiful, sexy, powerful, piggish, spiritual, and intimate. Felice will teach you how to fist and/or receive a fist with care, awareness, skill and respect.
For women, trans people, or men accompanied by women or trans people.
$30

January 21
Anatomy of Her Pleasure
With Dana Shaw
All genders welcome.
$30