Newsletter No. 58: SUMMER 2012

What Does An Orgasm Mean?

At Come As You Are, we have a veritable dream team of amazingly knowledgeable folks. If there was a Jeopardy style quiz show solely about sex, our crew would wipe the floor (in the most non-violent way possible) with any compet- itor. In fact, even when the topic isn’t sex, we still kick some ass (as our recent appearance on Cash Cab will attest!) 

Despite this, we would never be so bold to consider ourselves sex educators or experts - we have a wealth of information at our collective fingertips, but we like our sex educators be AASECT certified, and we prefer our sexperts online or in the back pages of your local alternative weekly. Each of us has a niche or a specialty (or a few), and we offer a wide variety of perspectives on sex and sexuality, but ulti- mately, we’ve said it before, and we’ll say it again, we firmly believe that you are the only expert on your sexuality, and we’re just here to provide ideas and options for your per- sonal sexual journey. 

People ask us an awful lot of questions, and for all of us, answering questions and having conversations about sex is our favourite part of this gig. People ask us the best ques- tions and some we’re asked a lot: How can I female ejacu- late? How can I last longer? What can I do about vaginal pain? Is [fill-in-the-blank] normal? This week, someone phoned us to ask us ‘what is the mean- ing of orgasm?’. We talked for awhile about what orgasm might mean to different people at different times of their life. Before we hung up, they said ‘so, basically, orgasm means different things to different people?’ Yes, precisely. So, what does orgasm mean to you?  

50 Shades Of Play Workshop with Gaia Morrissette 
Sunday, August 12, 2012. 5:30 - 7:30 
Read the book, and now feeling deliciously intrigued to add some kink play to your own romance? Learn about all the possibilities of opening up our relationships for role play adventuring. Be inspired to grow and develop a fantasy repertoire. Bring lots of questions and we’ll discuss many of the different kinds of play we loved to read (or loved to fantasize about) between Anastasia and Christian but want more. Gaia will take us on a tour of a myriad of kinky de- lights and how to get started with our own exploration. $25 

Lusty Locavore Workshop with Annanda DeSilva & Mando Kloeze 
Wednesday, August 22, 2012 7:30-9:30PM 
We will take a tour of the many tantalizing shapes found in an average mid-summer garden harvest. There is no sex toy more earth-friendly, biodegradable, edible, customiz- able and anti-capitalist than the noble cucumber or carrot! if you get hot and sweaty from more than just the sunshine and hard work in the garden, this fun and thoughtful work- shop might be just what you’re looking for! 

FREE! Art Show: Sam Abel’s Saucy Nüdles August 2nd - 31st, 2012. 
Opening August 2nd, 7-10PM 
Sam Abel is a Toronto artist whose work is inspired by the her undeniably corpulence. She uses art to shift people’s negative perceptions about their bodies, and to challenge normative standards of beauty. Saucy Nüdles is a collec- tion of nudes that explodes ideas of what bodies are deemed ac- ceptable for erotic consumption. In other words, Sam wants to see you naked.