Newsletter No. 62: SPRING 2013

Does good sex matter?

We all like to be good at things - or at least we like to feel like we’re good at things - but what does it even mean to be good at sex, and does being good at sex have any real bearing on whether or not we’re having good sex?

We love orgasms more than most folks - heck, it’s right there in our name! - but it feels like more and more, ‘good sex’ is measured only by the quantity - and possibly duration of - orgasms and not in terms of actual enjoyment or the pleasure we experience in having sex.

Not only do folks have a tendency to make orgasm the goal of sex, but there’s also so much messaging out there about the kinds of orgasms we ought to have (g-spot vs clitoral), but also when we have orgasms (don’t come too soon or too late!), and we’re rated according to the quality and quantity of the orgasms we have and the quality and quantity of the orgasms we give to others.

The popularity of our workshops and educational materials is a testament to how much import we place on giving good orgasms.  When folks ask us how to give ‘great head’ or how to ‘make’ someone have a g-spot orgasm, we’re always happy to give people tools to learn about technique, but invariably, the real answer is ‘enthusiasm’.  

We know it is near impossible to tune out all of the misleading and negative messaging we receive about sexuality throughout our lives, but perhaps we can have sex that actively challenge those ideas about sex.  Try something new or that you don’t usually do - you never know what you’ll discover and you’ll be doing your part to change the sexual landscape for all of us!

50 Shades of Play
A workshop with Gaia Morrissette
Saturday, April 13, 2013. 7:30 - 9:30PM 
Read the book, and now feeling deliciously inspired to add some kink play to your own romance? We’ll discuss the book together and you’ll learn new techniques to communicate fantasies and desires with your partner(s). Bring lots of questions and we’ll delve into many of the different kinds of play we loved to read and fantasize about between Anastasia and Christian. Gaia will take us on a tour of kinky delights and help you embark on your own 50 shades of play.  $30

Practical Tantra for Every Day
A workshop with Gaia Morrissette
Sunday, April 14, 2013.  5:30-7:30PM
Learn to experience pleasure in all areas of your life. Discuss new skills to become aware and present in your body and live in the moment. Explore basic Tantra techniques as well as how to incorporate sensuality and all the senses into your daily life. This workshop will include discussions and real life examples to start living a Tantric life today. $30

10 Rules for Happy Non-Monogamy
A workshop with Andrea Zanin
Tuesday, April 23, 2013, 7:30-9:30pm
So you’d like to be romantically involved with more than one person at once? Or maybe you’d just like to sleep with someone other than your one-and-only? Whether you’re considering your first steps into non-monogamy or you’re an old hand looking for a fresh perspective, you’ll find valuable tidbits in this common-sense approach to enjoying love and sex in the plural. $30