Newsletter No. 72: SUMMER 2015

The G-Spot Does Not Exist.

It seems like there’s a new study released almost every week about the g-spot: It exists; It doesn’t exist; It might exist but with caveats.  What a mystery!  Can you imagine?  It is 2015, and a little over half the world’s population’s sexual pleasure is a riddle wrapped in a mystery inside a vagina.

We don’t know about you, but to us, it seems like there’s something a bit fishy going on here.  We have the most advanced technology in the history of the known universe,  but we can’t get a straight answer from science about the g-spot?  Curious.

The issue with the analysis of ‘the g-spot’ is that we all seem to be asking the wrong questions - possibly for all of the wrong reasons.

First of all, given that more than 70% of female-identified people don’t have orgasms from penetration alone, why are folks so darn concerned with the g-spot?  It is great to fantasize - or sext - about how hot it might be to ‘come together’, but unless you’ve got some serious external or clitoral stimulation happening at the same time, mostly it isn’t gonna happen.

If you find yourself obsessing over female ejaculation and the g-spot because squirting looks so awesome in porn, try to remember that the people who get hired to squirt in porn get those jobs precisely because they are ferocious squirters and amazing performers - not necessarily because they’re amazing at actually having sex they enjoy.  Lots of porn performers do what they love, but when it comes down to it, it is a job not dissimilar to yours in lots of ways.

Frankly, it feels a lot like a couple thousand years of sex negative culture capped off by a little misguided Freudian influence has created this bizarre situation where we are less interested in what might create a fulfilling sexual experience for ourselves, and more interested in particular sexual ideas and acts because of what they symbolize in our culture.

As an anti-capitalist co-op sex shop, we’re as interested in experiences as we are in symbols, and as such, we think it is important to enable people to have access to sexuality and to explore the meaning of that sexual pleasure.

Yes, the title of this newsletter is a bit misleading.  We’d never be so presumptuous to tell you what your body does or does not contain, or what may or may not exist for you. 

What we can tell you is that most people - regardless of gender, sexuality, or orientation - have a urethral sponge or a prostate.  We can also tell you that some people - but not all people - enjoy having that area of their body stimulated.  Sometimes, when one is stimulating the urethral sponge or prostate, ejaculation occurs.  Sometimes you’ll need a towel when this happens and sometimes you just need a tissue.

We can also tell you that some people like naming their body parts after German scientists (shout out to Dr. Gräfenberg!), and some people don’t.  Whether you have a spot a couple of inches inside your fave orifice that you like to stimulate or not, rest assured, we’ll never assume anything about your body, and we hope you don’t either.

Coming Out As A Deliciously Disabled,

Queer Cripple

A workshop with Andrew Morrison-Gurza

Thursday, September 24, 2015. 7:30PM-9:30PM

This workshop will introduce you to a part of the Queer Community we rarely discuss – Persons with Disabilities who identify as LGBTQ+ (The Queer Cripple). Queers with Disabilities are sorely underrepresented in our homo-normative, body beautiful culture, and I aim to change that. A combination of education and personal experiences will invite you into a conversation around the Queer Cripple, the lived experiences navigating both sexuality and disability (ie. What it actually feels like to be queer and disabled), and what they can offer the LGBTQ+ community overall. Participants will openly explore the mythology and fear around sex and disability, and consider why we are afraid to talk about disability in the LGBTQ+ community. Ultimately, through frank, open and honest conversations around disability, sexuality and queerness, the workshop will provide the tools to welcome the Queer Community into the conversation around disability and make it truly accessible to everyone under the rainbow.  $10 or PWYC

October Workshops with Midori

If you aren’t already a hardcore Midori fan, you soon will be!  Author of The Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage, Wild Side Sex, and Master Han’s Daughter, Midori’s depth and breadth of knowledge reflect her intensely diverse interests and skills.  Midori is a sex educator, columnist and artist and has spent her life traveling the world presenting her enlightening workshops on rope bondage, orgasm, and so very much more. 

Learn more about Midori on our website at
www.comeasyouare.com/workshops or visit Midori’s website at website at www.fhp-inc.com

Hands-On Japanese Rope Bondage Workshop

Wednesday, October 7, 2015. 7:30PM-10PM OR

Saturday, October 10, 2015. 7:30PM -10PM

Everyone’s catching the rope fever! Bring the pleasures from Japan into your bedroom with easy, sexy rope play. Learn simple, elegant, effective and sensual rope skills and thrill your partner. Midori will also teach you how to avoid clumsiness, minimize risks, including boring or harming your partner. Learn essential foundation techniques including four two-column restraints, safety, rope selection, and creative, sexy positions.  Wear comfortable clothing and bring a minimum of 2 lengths of 15 feet and 2 of 25 feet of rope.

The Art Of Feminine Dominance Workshop

Thursday, October 8, 2015. 7:30PM-10PM

Elegance, power and confidence... Do you want to know how to be a dominant without being a bad cliche? How do you find a sexy style of erotic dominance that’s authentic to you? Using a special technique she developed, Midori will help you to find your inner power femme archetype, allowing you to pursue erotic fulfillment of sensual power play. Not your typical how-to class, you’ll discover the difference between constructive and destructive desires and point you towards ways of bringing satisfaction in bedroom play for both you and your partner.  Midori will share with you her secrets of the feminine art of dominance. She will discuss the psychology, practical exercises, techniques, fashion, how to discover what makes your partner weak-kneed, and more. This class is not limited to a gender, but for all who harbor the powerful woman within! Something for everyone from the novice to the experienced player.

Control & Dominance Moves Workshop

Kinesthetic Rope 2 (A Rope Dojo Elective)

Friday, October 9, 2015. 7:30PM -10PM

Learn effective rope moves to enhance control. What ever style of bondage or rope play you enjoy, these skills will boost the emotional and psychological intensity. In this hands-on class you’ll practice safe moves that are body-smart for the top side and bottom sides. Whether you enjoy Kinbaku, Shibari, Westen, Predicament, Damsel in Distress, Take-downs or Confrontational play, these techniques will integrate well into your fun! If you come solo, you’ll be paired with other solos for practice.

Aural Sex: Seduction By Voice

Sunday, October 11, 2015. 5:30PM to 7:30PM

Use the magic of Shaherezade! Incorporate seductive voice techniques learned in this class to heat up the bedroom and add spice to your erotic life. Mesmerize your lover and transport both of you to an erotic landscape. Learn how to build and enrich a powerful fantasy, practice effective voice techniques and spellbinding. In this hands-on workshop style class you’ll learn techniques of finding out both your fantasies, practice story telling skills and improve them with Midori’s gentle guidance. Spicy demos, practical exercises, and load of tips to roll of your lips!