She Comes First
She Comes First
The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman
As women everywhere will attest, men are "ill-cliterate." Most guys know more about what's under the hood of a car than under the hood of a clitoris. But in the world of She Comes First, the mystery of female satisfaction is solved and the tongue is proven mightier than the sword. According to sex therapist (and evangelist of the female orgasm) Ian Kerner, oral sex isn't just foreplay, it's coreplay: simply the best way to lead a woman through the entire process of arousal time and time again. Can you say "viva la vulva"?
Fun and informative, She Comes First is a virtual encyclopedia of female pleasure, detailing dozens of tried-and-true techniques for consistently satisfying a woman and ensuring that sexual fulfillment is mutual.
Specifications for She Comes First
- Author: Ian Kerner, Ph.D.
- Pages: 219
- Publisher: William Morrow
- Year: 2010
- Binding: Paperback
- ISBN: 9780060538262
- Find in-store: Orgasm
I'm not certain cunnilingus is necessarily as central as the author claims - as with anything, it depends on finding out the preferences of your partner(s) - but I would say that it's a pretty huge tool in the clitoral-stimulation toolkit. Unfortunately, Catholic sex "education" (more like "demotivation") left me mystified when a partner first requested it.
Personally, I've found cunning linguistics a really invaluable skill that this book walked me through quite succinctly. Honestly, once you know what you're doing, it's great fun for everyone involved!
My main complaints are simply that the book is heteronormative and gender-essentialist in its overly simplistic equation of vagina = woman and assumption that its audience is necessarily male. That "the thinking man's guide to pleasuring a woman" subtitle is a little wince-inducing. I get the desire to decentralize penetrative sex as the core sexual activity, but it could have been phrased more inclusively.
Hence, my objective, mathematically-determined score:
Oral sex: 8/5